what will yo u do ...
By simplycza
@simplycza (1480)
Philippines
March 31, 2007 12:14pm CST
if you're girlfriend break-up with you because her friends says she deserves someone younger than you? Is it your fault, if she was twice your age? Will you still wait 'til she comes back to you? Will you still be there for her as a friend though you knew she was dating with the new guy?
My new friend has this problem but he was still patient to wait for this girl until she realize that going back to him is the best thing to do.
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8 responses
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
hi there, its the advice i gave to him. Move on! But he really dont want too. He says, he is positive on that thinking that the girl might come back..Actually, recently the girl still calling him and saying "i miss you". But the girl says, its better that they are still separated and remain friends. thanks.
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
1 Apr 07
well i was not ever at this situation
but i do know that it does not matter what the situation is
the decision must be of the people that are involved and not their friends
you started this discussions with the sentence: "girlfriend break-up with you because her friends says she deserves someone younger than you"
if that is the reason that she is breaking up from this man because her friends told her..i pitty her
but if it was her own decision because she did feel that the age difference is a problem then it is o.k.
and i do not really think that in te situation you described it is a good idea to stay good friends, atleast not at the begining.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
exactly my point, one of them chooses to end the relationship already and the reason is loud and clear. But this friend of mine ( the old guy) says, he cant picture life without her..so he prefer waiting...but in misery.. I just really can't define this man's love. Was it good or bad? thank you
@michelledarcy (5220)
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31 Mar 07
I think that there is only a certain time you can wait for someone.
If they are going to listen to their friends about whether they should go out with someone or not they obviously don't like the person enough to want to be with them.
My advice would be to look for someone else who really likes him.
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@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
hi there, honestly that advise is what i intend to say but he might just get hurt and doesn't wanted to buy the idea of looking for another. he seems programmed his life already together with this girl and he can't bear thinking they wont ended up with each other. thank you for this advise.. he says "i would probably say the same thing if it was a friend of mine or a stranger but when its me, i had difficulty seeing it the same"..
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@SKLC_PT (1234)
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1 Apr 07
I can't really answer this with 100% certainty as when you're in love you can do strange things but I think I wouldn't wait, I'd go on with my life and if I'm still single when they come running back then I'll think about it. I broke up a few times with my present boyfriend and only once I decided I had enough of waiting around and tried going on with my life he realized he could loose me for good. We've been together for a long time and I hope it stays that way.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
i also asked him to trigger the girl to decide soon but he said, i'd rather wait than meeting my misery soon. That means, he isn't sure that she will come back. I think , he makes all the excuses just to justify the girls fault too. Oh man, one sure answer here. This friend of mine is blinded by emotions. thank you
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@ydnac22 (802)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
If the girl break him up just because her friends dont want him then it's clear that she dont lov himecaue if she does she will not let others dictate what to do instead she will fight for her feelings.If I we're the guy why wait for her if there are still deserving girls around.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
1 Apr 07
I am not sure how long they have been together but I have my reservations. I am afraid your friend may have to wait for a long time unless he is so confident of himself that his girlfriend will come back to him. In my opinion, I don't think your friend should wait. If his girlfriend has no opinion of herself and is so easily influenced by her friends, I would think that your friend may have to go thru many merry-go-rounds before deciding in the end if the relationship can really work out. Just my view.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
hi, thank you for this good points. I will also tell him your words. they are together for more than a year only. until these friends tried to ruin their relationship and ask the girl to date someone else, much younger. too bad, the old man feels sorry, hurt and depressed but he said he will fight for his feelings, will wait until the girl finally realize he is the man to choose in the end. whew! honestly, i find it wasting of time to wait , but he says, its his life and he choose that way.. thanks,
@koolraj_inlove (842)
• India
3 Apr 07
i would be with her as her friend, if she is motivated by her friends and she leaves me then it is obviously i will be hurt as it would make me feel that she don't trust me, but i will be still in the relationship as her friend.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
It is really difficult to say since the situation that I am picturing might be very different form the actual situation that your friend is really in. There could be a lot of factors to consider in such situation such as the feelings of the girl and that of your friend and their maturity level, or their suitability. But one thing though, that if you friend is confident enough that the girl would come back to him, well, at least he should give it a shot and wait. Who knows right? At least he gave it a chance and she won't come back, he could move on thinking that he did give it a chance.
