Should I break up with him, or what should I do?!

Yes, you shoudl confront him - you have every right. But, be prepared for getting yourself in trouble for going through his messages which isn't your right. You did something wrong and by doing so - you caught him doing something wrong. You have to ask yourself...if they are just friends - then why hasn't he mentioned her to you? If you really trusted him to begin with: why were you looking through his messages...there is more to that then you were bored. I'm not being mean because I myself have done the same thing. Doesn't make it right though. It's something you have to make a decision for yourself. You just have to confront the issue but I bet any money that he explodes on you for you spying on him and trying to turn the whole thing around onto you. Yep, you were wrong - but don't let me change the subject. Make him address the issue of this girl and then you guys can discuss why you went through his messages.. Best of luck!!!

that actuallt happend to me in my ex..weve been seeing each other for almost 2 years when i suddenly feel im out of his world...i mean, all of a sudden im off limits on his cellphone when it used to be OK to check on it..one time when he is still sleeping, his cellphone beep for new msg...i went ahead and checked on it and bingo!!! theres this other girl that he is dating!!! we argued! and guess what he told me, he said i dont have the right to be going on his cellphone..thats what i dont understand before but it answered my question why not anymore..one thing leads to another, i was accused for invading his privacy and we ended the relationship...so before you confront him..think about it first..its a risk!

It doesn't sound like a good place to be in your relationship right now. You are losing trust in him and he is lacking something in the relationship if he has to go on line and flirt with someone else. Did he mention you or act as if he was available. Unfortunately, that is the problem with today's society, it is not flirting face-to-face at work where you know that is all it is, is flirting and nothing will comee of it. This kind of flirting can be hurtful, it could be a child he is flirting with, a married person, a guy or even a nut. With e-mail one never knows. Look at what happened to that young boy two weeks ago. I don't know if you confronted him how he will react. You have a real problem, do you become honest and let him know you went into his myspace or do you tell a little white lie and somehow work into your conversation a talk about how dangerous it can be talking on line to people when you don't know who they are. I wish you luck and honesty always sets us free, because then we go from one lie to another. God bless you and pray for guidence on how to handle this matter. Once trust is lost, a relationship can only go downhill unless you talk it over and get things out in the open and forgive each other for doing something hurtful to the other. I may be contradicting myself, but it is a hard problem to solve.

I think you should talk to him about what you've found out for your own peace of mind. Ask him how he'd feel if you did the same thing. Beware though, he might get real angry 'coz you checked his mails without his knowledge and consent.

You should definitely confront him. Why stalling for time? It's obvious that he's been cheating on you. It's better to find out the soonest time possible. Don't be afraid of what's gonna happen. You have every right to confront him even if you snoop his privacy, that doesn't give him the right to cheat on you. The important thing about relationship is trust and both of you should be open to each other. If I was on your shoes, I would get really hurt if he's been VERY flirty to another woman! It's natural for you to get insecure because you were never secure in the first place! You also mentioned that it's been awhile that he's contacting this woman. To confront him is now or never. If he breaks up on you because of it then he was never really into you. A relationship is not based on how long you are in it but based on trust and loyalty and most especially respect for each other.

I would talk to him before you go anything remotely drastic. He could be flirting without knowing that he is doing that. Communcation is important in a relationship. Remember that.

You should ask him aboiut it just so that both are you are honest with each other although it is probably just somebody to talk to over the internet and have fun. If he also states that I would just leave it alone. Wether it be male or female it's ok to have friends to laugh with wether they are old or new. Talking is the best way to make you feel comfortable and the easiest way to understand what he is doing.

Well-- If you confronted him h'll ask what the heck you were doing on his myspace?? Is there a way you can actually be around him when he is on myspace and casually ask-- who is this?? then you can get more details-- Ask him-- are you happy with me? I'd say definately figure it out before wasting more time with him. It's odd that he would converse with someone from a different state-- and contact them alot. I'm not a member of myspace-- so maybe this isn't that odd at all. Go with your gutt on this on.

It depends on you, what is the strength of you and your partners love. And regarding this i am sorry to hear that you are hurt at the moment but i should say speak with him and let him know how you feel about that situation. If you really love him and if he really loves you he will promise you that he won't talk with her anymore or he will stop what he is doing at the moment. Anyway hope things get better soon for you, keep the faith

I would definitely have to say something. I would start off by saying that you are sorry for looking through his messages, but good thing you did because his e-mailing some other girl and you not knowing about it isn't acceptable. Just see what he has to say. It could be innocent flirting that boosts his self-esteem. I would not be angry when I bring it up and try to stay calm and see what he has to say.

I was once in this kind of situation before and its really something that I did for fun. But my boyfriend knows about it and the guy that I chat with everyday is married. It was something that I enjoyed doing everyday, I look forward to chatting with him everyday and one day he eneded up confessing of being in love with me and was desperate to leave his family for me. Yikes, it was the turning point and then there I realized that I was just having fun and I was not ready to give up my relationship with my boyfriend. There I have realized that it was friendship and not more than that. Now we still email but we no longer talk that much online, we are better off as best friends and thats just there. I suppose your boyfriend is in the situation like mine. If he is telling you about it its ok, but if he hides the flity stuff well then thats another issue.

Sounds like he's just feeding his ego a bit. Like you said, she lives far away, and another thing, he in all reality probably doesn't really know what she looks like. You asked about confrontation...well, normally I would say yes, confront him, but then again you are ratting on yourself for being nosey. If you still want to be nosey and see where this is all going, then don't say anything and you can still log onto his myspace and get the info you seek.

You're in a real tricky situation here. Either you can confront him about it and sun the risk of losing him, or you can just stand on the side lines and pretend that nothing is going on. In my opinion, i would confront him in a way that doesn't seem like you are. Strike up a conversation out of the blue about people you used to chat you on the internet, and new people that you talk to. See if he opens up about it, and joke around about having "online boyfriends" or something along those lines and see how he responds. It's tough not to say anything now that you know, but you have to try and not let it slip that you do, or else you will have to face him head on. As some say honesty is the best policy. but in cases like this, its sometimes not. It depends on your guy, and how he is with privacy issues. In the end, its really your choice, i wouldn't say break up with him, but decide if your relationship is strong enough to confront him, or just try get him to open up about it. Good luck.

I think flirting is cheating! YES... you should confront him! Ask him how he would feel if you were flirting with guys. Even though its on line and there to far away to do somthing it is cheating. hes flirting with her for a reason something sparked his intrests about her, weather its looks, personality, or what ever it was, lets say he meets a girl at school, or work or online or wherever with the same traits as this girl or just someone he likes and she lives close. Then the flirting can go to another level. Or this could just be somethig he looks at as hes not really cheating because he knows they'll never really meet and he probably likes the attention. In that case its still cheating because if he aint fullfilled with just your attention than he aint ready for a serious realationship and he will start to drift from you and start lieing and cheating if it hasnt happened yet it will later, so you need to catch it now before it draws out and turns worse. Let him know how you feel about it and listen to what he has to say about it and then let him know he has a choice you or the SINGLE life, where he can have all the on and off line flirting buddies he wants and show no mercey. oh and its not wrong to go on his my space because you are supposed to have trust in eachother but how are you gunna have trust if hes flirting with other girls and after all this happens if he he says sorry and you forgive him you better keep a close eye on him because he might change his ways or he might just get really sneaky. If all goes well than work on gaining trust because that is a really importaint element in a realationship! So good luck and keep me posted!

When you're in a serious relationship, there should be nothing to hide if there's nothing going on. I don't feel you did anything wrong looking at his messages. Maybe it's best you find out now the type of person he really is, than to wait until you have a lot of time invested in the relationship. I would of questioned him the minute I saw him if it were me. If you don't talk about it, it will eat you up inside. I wish you the best in your decision.

The BIG question here is "Do You Trust Him"? Apparently you don't if you are checking up on him. Has he given you reason not to trust him? Or are you just being insecure? I know insecurity is not a little thing but if you have no good reason as to why you don't trust him, let it go. He is not doing anything wrong having a conversation with another person and that is all it is. If they are not talking about meeting each other or him leaving you or any mushy things they would like to do to each other, get over it. Who's in the wrong here? Him for having a friend or you for snooping where you shouldn't be? I don't mean this to sound like I'm scolding you, please don't take it as that, but I do think you are just overstressing.

first of all you are right you shouldn't have been through his things alote of people have their fantasy virtual world and you can never know what is hapening by seeing what you see'in you are together for two years now and that means that he has his relationship with you and nobody else what you saw just now is the "trust" issue which was inbalanced between you two. you do not have no choice because you can't wonder and be angry at him without asking him the question. go to him, apologize about beeing through his things, tell him what you saw the whole truth and ask him what is going on? you will see what is really going on by the way he answers you or acts i do hope this will have a good ending.be strong.

Cheating doesn't have to be in terms of a physical relationship alone you know. If a person is carrying on an online affair with someone, he is committing emotional adultery as far as you are concerned. If he get more involved with his online fixation, he is bound to start ignoring you and then things are going to get much worser. It is unfortunate that you came across this unpleasant truth in the manner that you did, but you should still go ahead and confront him. Don't fight or be immature, but handle it with the maturity that the situation demands. You have after all been going around for two years, so give him an opportunity to come clean and give up his online fling. If he is unreasonable or says he can't stop what he is doing, maybe you need to take another look at where your relationship is headed. All the best. God bless.

Well, to be honest all guys flirt on myspace, and it's not even real, seeing as how it's words on a screen. If he's never met her, it's not cheating. I understand why your worried about it, but It's ok. You can can front him about it, but don't be shocked if he says it's no big deal. Good luck to the both of you, hope this works out well.

well, uhm hving a relationship is a matter of trust, and being loyal , and one more important thing in a relationship is being open to each other.. it wasnt your fault if you opened his myspace,i mean i would, im bored and besides i have the rights too to know what has been happening.. the best thing to do is to open it up to him, let him know how it affected you and your trust towards him, he might say that there are no ways that they are going to meet ,but then tell him that what if it happened to be just near his place or what? ask him things like, " are you bored in this realtionship or what?" or "whats wrong with you?" or just anything that would help you both.