parents putting pressure on their own kids to perfom well at education fair or .

Of course it's wrong. Parents need to understand the talents and weaknesses of their children. It's their duty towards them. You can't expect a visually challenged kid to paint, can you? Most parents expect unreasonable things from their kids. It's unfair. But, it's the lack of parenting education, that causes such problems. If they were made aware of the pressure that they're putting on their kids, all this would evaporate. This is my opinion.

I don't think that putting pressure on your children to perform well in school is such a bad thing, but too much pressure can prove to be a problem. In my household, my parents have always said "aslong as you do your best" - Although this is not putting pressure on me directly, but i know that if i don't perform aswell as i should its not my best, and my parents know that. I think that pressure is a good way to get the best out of your child, but to a certain extent. Wanting your child to perform well is not a bad thing, and at the time they might not like you, but in the long run, they will appreciate it, as we know how important education is today. Even with a degree, its not always easy to get a job, so without any education, or poor education, life can prove to be very difficult for that person.

I actually demand that my children do their best in school..I know all too well how difficult life can be without an education and thats going back to the 1980s when you could always get by....Life is very different now so NOT excelling in school is unacceptable and my hsuband and I wont tolerate it...My daughter does very well (straight A's and is on the honour roll) but my son this yr slipped a little in a couple classes and we got a little hard on him ONLY BECAUSE we KNOW he is capable of higher grades in these particular classes...If he wasnt capable we'd definately work with him on it etc but that isnt the case..... do i think its fair? of course....it woudl be UNFAIR if we didnt give a crap about their future ya know....

I think that an education is very important, but we have to put ourselves in our kids shoes on how we would feel if someone stood over us or pressured us about everything, we would lose interest and get upset, well children are the same way and I think that is why so many kids rebel, the constant pressure just turns them the other direction for. Yes the pressure issue for education is the same in usa we all want our kids to do good and I think that every parent deals with pressuring there kids too much at one time or another without really realizing what they are doing. I think that if you talk to you children about the issue once instead of the constant pressure you will get a better response.

I really don't mind my parents to put some pressure on my studies because it does somehow helped me study more but it should really have some boundaries also. I really don't like if they pressure me excessively up to the point where I'm really bummed out. My parents also know their limits when it comes to motivating(pressuring) me.

I come from a family of people that have dropped out of high school, all of them. Some of my family can't even read and write. So when i went to school i felt the weight of the family hanging on my shoulders. It makes me want to perform really well, and i do, but man, it is stressfull. By the time I was 20 I had an ulcer, just from stress. My parents never pushed me as such, but i still felt the pressure of doing well. Year later: I am know the firs person in my family with a college master degree. And you know what: people sometimes mock me in my family: they don't get what i am saying half of the time, so i often get the remark: OOOh, the profressor wants to say something, or, hush our little genius want to add something to the discussion... I am still proud of what I accomplished, so I let them have their fun, I know they just do it because they don't get me.

no not at every time, but sometime he do because every parents want that his childrens are perform better thn others.

Yes, parents do pressurize their children for better grades in their exams which they think will be better for their future and which is of course good for the children's education. Parents should understand that there is a percentage of time that needs to involved in studies and some parts of the day for the childrens to play and enjoy, which will help in their better growth and active in sports as well which is also important...

Its a 2 bladed sword that we are talking about. Through the times, people have realised that good education has to be forged since young. Where I am, if u do not do well in primary school, you wont get into a good secondary school with good track record. SO parents start chasing their kids since primary school. I have also seen people who did not do well in studies and end up not getting good jobs. Parents want the best for their kids, even they themselves will lament that their kids are losing alot of childhood. But society pushes everyone around. Unless there is something that can change all this. .

I think it is every parent's responsibility to bring up a child wisely, and that includes giving them a good education. Children simply do have the wisdom to make good decisions at times and therefore any expectation to do well is percieved as 'pressure'. Each child has different abilities and expecting them to do their best in whatever they undertake is the best decision rather then expecting them to be the best.

today in the competitive world each and every parents are worried about their children and so it is very obvious that they will pressurised the child for the child's better future for sure so its not unfair at all but it should be upto certain limit

it actually depends.. i myself don't think that's putting pressure.. i totally believe that our parents' intentions would be beneficiary in our part.. it actually takes 2 to tango. it's also up to the children if they're gonna take it as a pressure or challenge.. if they think that they're pressured then they must tell their parents. parents would help eventually. i am not a parent yet but i totally understand the points of some parents putting "pressure" on their child. probably it's on the way they implement it also.. if both parties(parents and children) would talk and try to compromise with each other then any problem could be worked out..

I must say that we should give them the wise freedom. Never pressure the kids to perfom well but tell them what exactly will happen if they dont have proper education and so forth. Let them do the thinking and decide. IF they want to be success, im sure they will automatically study harder without parents forcing them. I remembered when i was a little, my dad wasnt into pressuring me, unlike mom, she likes to nag whenever i watched tv..etc, telling me that if i failed my exams, i'll be in big trouble. Dad was using a different method of convincing me. He told me to look at his workers, who had to wake up as early as 5am daily, to work in an oil palm plantation (under the hot sun) and he even showed to me their payrolls, which is about $5 / day. Can u imagine how life would be if you have daily earning of ONLY $5???? I begin to realise that i dont want to have this kinda life. I want to drive my own car, buy nice clothes etc. I want to have good pay for my job. From that day on, i begin to study harder, paying more attentions in class and etc. As a result, i got grade 1 in my exams and was offered to one of the university here. I graduated, got a good job with a good pay. And here i am now, sharing this to every parents, hoping that this is the best method to convience your children into paying more attention to their education :-) GOOD LUCK !

Yes, you are right. The parents who are putting pressure on their children I think are those parents who could not fulfill their ambitions when they were young. Now they unconsciously want to fulfill their dream by pushing their children to become successful individuals in the future. Sometimes it happens also because the parents want to have pride at their children's achievement and maintain a certain respect within the community.

no not at every time, but sometime he do because every parents want that his childrens are perform better thn others.

no not at every time, but sometime he do because every parents want that his childrens are perform better thn others.

ya you are right,people in India pressurized their children to adopt for a particular profession but they didn't know whether their child can perform in that particular area well or not,i think the decision of choice for their careers should be left on the children so that they can achieve success on that particular area of work which they choose for themselves,it is worthless if u choose some profession which u didn't like or in which u have no interest.

Yes, I do believe we that kind regardles of what race or what country. PArents tend to have this mentality that their children should be like this and like this. I am just lucky enough that my parents does not have this kind of expectations from them.

it is fair on part of parents to urge their children to study well. without the pressure from parents the child will not be able to do well. its for the child's good. but immense pressure does not do teh child any good. jus a look into the child's actvities to ensure he or she is on track seems ideal.

ya most of the time it hurts the kids mentaly. Some parents never want to know what their kids wants to become, but they force them what they tried to become in their life. Parents should guide their kids not force them.