Is not getting responses likeTalking To A Brick Wall!!!
By Jewels
@Tetchie (2932)
Australia
April 1, 2007 8:23pm CST
If you respond to a post and you get no response back from the poster do you feel despondent and think 'why did I bother?'
Don't know if you feel the same way but if I don't get a response to my answer I feel ignored. To me getting that response is what I'm looking for here on myLot. Forget the earnings, forget the ratings, it's the communication and friendship that's working for me.
What about you?
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35 responses
@lonewolfnan (4366)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
I like to receive feedback on any responses I made as it makes me feel the person has at least took the time to read what I volunteered to put in.I usually spend time each day just checking to see any responses on the responses.Plus,it gives me the chance to read the other responses which can validate or educate my thoughts.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
You are a true myLotter. I like your attitude and the way you conduct yourself. Good work lonewolfnan
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@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
2 Apr 07
OK, I posted this about 45 minutes ago, but here it is again. I sometimes feel like that. I used to check back on my responses, but now I do it less often as less and less people are commenting on their responses. If I know the person is going to respond, I'll more likely check back. But, I just move on, otherwise.
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@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
2 Apr 07
There is a time delay I'm noticing, must be lots beaming up on those satellites - superhighway congestion!
I think if I weren't getting enough responses I wouldn't stick around here for long, it's those responses keeping me here.
Thanks for your response desertdarlene. And I too hate perfume at the gym, it's suffocating yes!
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@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
2 Apr 07
He he! Thanks! I think there was a glitch last night.
@nancygibson (3736)
• France
2 Apr 07
Its a tricky one this. When I was first here I tried to respond to very single response to anything I posted, but quickly it became obvious that mostly I was writing 'thank you for posting' or something like that rather than making any real conversation. So now i try to respond where it looks like the conversation might develop, and I just rate all the rest. So, everyone is getting a response in a way as I rate them positively which helps overall with their scores and ultimately their earnings, but it may not look like I have done anything as only I can see those ratings.
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@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
2 Apr 07
That is fabulous, I wish people could see that I have rated their discussions too. With the amount of posts you have achieved I'm not surprised you take this tact.
I'm more directing this post at those who never respond to any of their discussions and considering there are people, not just myself, who put time and effort into responses, at least a thanks would be nice.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
2 Apr 07
Yeah I am disappointed..... But what can I do? Sometimes when I can't sleep I end up thinking about what is going on in the world and things in general and occasionally come up with a topic or two that I believe are well rounded; interesting to me and interesting in general but most of the time I am wrong! I have yet to even break the 100+ responses mark! But what the hey. I will just keep on keeping on! I do not appear to be bored with the whole thing as of yet so will stick with it. The earnings mean nothing to me also. There is another site that I have been a member of for over two years that has over fifty dollars in there but I have never bothered to take the money out. This site for me is mainly a distraction. My work is pretty intense sometimes and it is good to be able to disappear into the virtual myLot world! Somewhat therapeutic maybe??
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
2 Apr 07
Aw... I have to make a mental note to give you comments in future then. :P
Please rest assured that I do read your responses if you reply to my discussions.
On the other hand, why are you not getting responses? Just a brainstorming here... might it be that your response was not quality enough? Or that effort was lacking?
If your response was penned with effort, relevant and "begging" a response, then I guess you have a right to be "angry" if people don't comment back.
Promise I will try remember to always comment on your responses if you reply to my discussions. :P
@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
2 Apr 07
Thank you lordwarwizard. I know you respond to your responders. I always try to do justice with a decent response be it serious or light. Sometimes I'll put great effort into a response to someone's good question and I check later to see if the asker has responded. 85% of the time they have and this is great. It's the other 15% who don't put effort into responding to a response.
This is what I'm addressing here mainly. They never look back, never check the answers. It's as if they were not interested in the response, and maybe they aren't interested! You can check their other questions and they don't respond there either. It is like talking to a brick wall literally!
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
2 Apr 07
If you find this brick walls, you should then stop responding to their discussions. In fact, you might even want to do us a service by collating the names of these brick walls! ;-)
@bluebird1956 (404)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
Aww, you poor dear. I definitely don't want you to feel lonely or sad so I am respondind to your discussion.
So what have you been up to today? Where do you live? Any kids or pets?
My husband and I were out buying new dishes becauses I want to get rid of 3 sets that we have and replace them with one set that will take the place of all three. I am presently in the peocess of trying to get rid of a lot of stuff so that we can downsize our house. Unfortunately, I still have tons more to give away.
We don't have any kids but we do have a very old dog and a very old cat who loves to persecute our very old dog. Such is life...lol
Hope to talk to you later and I definitely hope that I was able to brighten your day for a few minutes.
People care!
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@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
2 Apr 07
Hi bluebird 1956. Hey I'm fine, it's a great day here in Victoria Australia, tis Autumn and the weather is mild and sunny and I'm about to go out and visit friends on a farm property so that will be lovely.
Hey are you going to smash the old plates - it's very therapeutic they tell me, just make sure the neighbors know what's you're up to! Clutter clearing is really excellent.
So re the responses. It can be hard to keep up and I'm totally blown away when there are more than three - that makes a kewl conversation type thread which are fun. It's when you continually reply to other people's and you know they only want you to respond and have no intention of acknowledging it. It actually feels empty - exactly like talking to a brick wall. All it takes is one quick response, even a thank you to know they have at least read what you wrote.
If you respond to this, I'll respond much later as I have to shuffle off. Have a great day yourself and thanks.
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@bluebird1956 (404)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
But to answer your actual question, I feel somewhat miffed if I don't get a response when I have answered someone's post. I try to put a lot of thought into my replies.
At the same time, if smeone starts a lot of discussions, I honestly don't see how they can possibly keep up. I have two discussions right now and one went to 66 replies. I had a horrible time keeping but I felt it was my resposibility to do so and thus I did.
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@bluebird1956 (404)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
Wow, all the way from Australia. I have always wanted to visit there. Just think, you live where most people want to visit....it's that sexy accent that you Aussies all have!
Ni, I am not going to smash my plates. I will give them away to someone who needs them. Yeah, yeah, I know, I know...I'm boring.
And of course I answered your response. But don't feel you need to answer mine. One member and I just continued on and on and neither one of us was getting paid for it but we were both too polite to be the one to stop. Therefore, I am hereby authorizing you to be the rude one and end it now! ;?
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
If ever possible, I always want to urge everyone to take time in reading their own posts, as I always consider this as a challenge in making an effort to give our best opinions.
For me, I do not respond to posts with only ttweo sentences, as I want to voice out and give details on whatever I have to speak the things I have in my mind. Though there are times where we cannot agree at other's views, it is always nice to exchange other informations with them.
The only thing I don't like about responding is, when people give negative imputs in 'wholesome' discussions. I find them sort of a 'Kill-joy'!;)
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
I am very happy to see some responses to my discussions. At most times though, it takes me sometime before I am able to respond, but I do make responses always.
I don't mind if I don't get responses to my answer to a discussion. There are times when we get busy somehow and so, I understand why there are some who may not be able to respond to mine once in a while.
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@Anniedup (3651)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
2 Apr 07
A mouth like that deserves honey! I feel exactly the same, I had a discussion not so long ago, with the same thing. My point on this is, if the person that responded to my discussion took the time and effort to respond, deserves a comment, even if it is just a thx, it will do. At least then I'll know my response was actually read.
Some are full of excuses, I sit here till whee hours in the morning, commenting on every response I've received.
And you are spot on, it is all about communication, friendship, and courtesy. I'm lucky most of my friends feel and act like me, there are only a few that don't. I gave up on them, as soon as I've responded I don't go back anymore to see if thy made a comment. It takes up my time, where I could've spent it on commenting on my other friends
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@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
2 Apr 07
You like the lips, the new me? Thanks honey!
You see exactly what I'm talking about, even if it is just a thx, it's an acknowledgment that you took the time to answer their question. In time I'll get to know who doesn't respond and not bother answering.
Thanks Anniedup
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I love to respond to a post and get a response to mine. But you have to be realistic. With as many people that are here and some of them have a whole lot of discussions there is no way you can get a response to every response that you post. I would love it if you did but I don't get overly concerned. I do love this place and am addicted to it. I love to read the discussions and the responses but as addicted as I am to here I have a life away from here and there are only so many hours in a day. I don't think I am being ignored when I don't get a response. In most cases anyway I just think people are busy and do the best that they can.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
I agree that those who do not get responses to their posted responses should not feel bad. Let's just keep on posting. We just don't know what is the cause for the poster for having not answered immediately to our responses.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
No I don't think negative thoughts at all I love myLot. The
only thing I do find frustrating is not being able to talk anyone into joining. Most if not all my friends are working but there are a few others I need to talk to. I agree with you I'm here for the communication and the friendships. You take care.
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@Streetracer21212 (103)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Yea it sucks a lot but i try not worry about it. After i realize it was a failure i go and make a new post.
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@venkyvenky (621)
• India
2 Apr 07
I feel ignored.It makes me sad.I feel very bad to see my discussions getting no responses.Are others not interested in topics that i am interested in. When will they respond.I really dunno!Right now I feel like tlaking to a brick wall
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@sweeetkisses2 (269)
• United States
2 Apr 07
same to me too.i say the earnings dont matter to me the only thing that matters is being able to meet new people.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
3 Apr 07
Tetchie I think you have voiced the cry of many of us! At least SOME of us here want some good discussions and friendships.
The simile of a brick wall is so appropriate. It is very difficult to find a really good discussion here now, in comparison with how it was a month or two ago. We sift through pages of "nothing" discussions, then with a shout of glee on finding one, we spend time and thought on responding. We feel good. We feel as though we have contributed.
Then we return - and return - and return - and return - and it seems the poster has never returned to his own discussion. We HOPE that he returned and at least READ the responses, but there is no evidence that he read or rated them and NO comments at all.
Is this a discussion? No. He didn't post a discussion. He posted words and forgot about them. Am I being harsh? I don't think so. I just can't see any sense in posting discussions and forgetting them.
Talking to a brick wall? Great simile!
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@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
3 Apr 07
Thank you, Tetchie. At least there are still a few around who stick to the old ways, and not just here to make pocket money. Thanks for the best response - unexpected. Thank you.
@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
3 Apr 07
That is exactly my thoughts and my friend you get the prize as you've nailed it. This is not harsh, it's fact. And the shame of it is that some of the posters actually ask great questions and they go nowhere. A great question usually gets great answers and they are the posts where you get knowledge, reflection, and satisfaction. You put great thought and even research into answers and you feel good that you've contributed to something worth contributing to....then nothing - the brick wall.
Bravo cloudwatcher!
@DanielMarvoloRiddle (331)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Oh but my dearest, you would never leave one of my discussions unanswered, so that despondency needn't ever worry me. And if you didn't live--literally--on the other side of the world, you'd have to be thanked properly.
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@DanielMarvoloRiddle (331)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Yep that book is well on its way. Thankies for virtual hugs :)
@sensesfail (2251)
• India
2 Apr 07
Most of the time i do get responses or comments to the responses i give out. But i do have my days where i feel like talking to the brick wall just as you do.I kind of figured out that this happens only if i respond to those in the top discussions.I guess this is because their discussions are flooded with a lot of replies. So i hope you figure out your reasons as to why people leave comments at your replies and stay happy at mylot.
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@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
2 Apr 07
Hi sensesfail, don't worry I'll be around for awhile, having too much fun. These people don't respond to anyone, it's not just me. But sometimes I don't know that until after I've put time and effort into a descent response to what I deem is a good question. At least I got to express myself, but to what!!
@bluewings (3857)
•
2 Apr 07
While I try to respond to every post in my discussions ,I couldn't do so in the last one because I have been a little caught up lately.I assure you ,you will not have that complain against me,lol.Just give me a bit of time :) Yes,I too like getting comments to my responses and as far as possible I comment back.Been different for the last couple of days ,but that won't be the case.
By the way, thanks for posting this because at times I am unsure to comment back not knowing whether the person would welcome that after I have responded and commented to his/her response once.Now there is less dilemma,lol.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
3 Apr 07
A continual thread is what a lot of myLotians are looking for - a really good "round" discussion with courtesy, friendliness and humour.
@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
3 Apr 07
You are always welcome bluewings. I understand some people like conversations, others don't. And we all have lives - some busier than others outside of this forum and we allow for that. It's more those that have never responded to people who respond to their posts that this is aimed at. You are not in that category friend.
@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
3 Apr 07
Yes, they are so much fun. I have a little time zone problem at times so conversations can be over several days for me. I can get missed in the loop but I'm learning to jump in and make myself heard. What are friends for if you can't butt in every now and then!
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
2 Apr 07
no. i don't really feel that way
and that because i know that other people
are reading my response
just like i do when i look at an interesting topic
but i really do not understand how this person that
opened the post does not replay back
dosn't it interest him..what i got to say?
@mummymo (23706)
•
2 Apr 07
Tetchie I used to hate that! I still try to make a comment to everyone who responds to my posts - I feel good when they do it for me! Unfortunately I am not here as much as I used to be so do not get a s much done as I usually do but I am with you on this one! xxx
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