Am I the only one or are there any other at home Mom's pulling thier hair out?
By MissDylynne
@MissDylynne (87)
United States
April 3, 2007 9:07am CST
Maybe it's JUST been a rough week and maybe I need a few dozen Midol to relax but I am officially an "at home Mom" now. I was a career woman for the past 6 years and have really made an impact as an IT Consultant. My husband decided he wanted me to be home with our 2 kids and now, I stay home with my 3 year old son (what a handful!) and my 12 year old daughter(Gotta love preteens!). I miss the corporate, "Thrill of the hunt" sales game as I am DIE HARD independent but am loving being the nurturing, loving Mommy my kids deserve. I miss my 6 figure salary as I made 3x's what my husband does but still feel that what I'm doing right now is more important. Am I wrong for having the "missing work blue's"?
3 responses
@coalasice (87)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I get frustrated at home sometimes too. I have 3 and a half month old twins and I stay at home with them. I miss my job sometimes just because I miss talking to other adults all day! Babytalk gets old fast. I find myself watching a lot of TV and it makes me feel lazy. My best friend still works at my old job, and she might be getting promoted to store manager, and she offered me my old job back, and I was so excited at first, but I think staying at home with my babies is more rewarding in the end.
I'm finding better things to do with my time while they nap, like reading, crocheting, using mylot.
Hang in there, you'll get some kind of system down soon I'm sure!
@MissDylynne (87)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Hopefully...
How do you manage twins? You are so courageous! My husband wants another child and the 2 we have keep me on my toes and they're almost 10 years apart! I could imagine that you are always busy and probably as exhausted as I am at the end of the day. Kids are much mre rewarding I'm sure..sometimes you miss the rat race. (at least I do at times) and the speaking with other adults. You can only listen to "Elmo" for so long before you feel like your brain is warping! lol
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Oh, no, we all pull our hair out at times. Even with having the greatest job in the world (being a mommy), I think we all romanticize about life in 'the real world' now and then. I quickly come back to reality when I remind myself the stress I used to be under and had very little control over. Now when I am havin a stressful day my son and I go to a park and act silly together... works everytime.
What a huge decision to stay home when you made 3x what your husband is making. You won't regret it. Mommies never do.
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@MissDylynne (87)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I know I won't regret it. I just hate seeing my husband work so much when I was able to work half the time and still keep us afloat financially. I have a lot of ideas in terms of building a business from home. I think I may eventually get accomplished what I hope to. My son and I play a lot during the day. We go for walks when it's nice out and play a lot of games when it's not. I just feel that there is still more that I can do other than cooking, cleaning and raising the kids. I guess I have a bad "wonder woman" complex that I need to get over. :)
@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
3 Apr 07
I think every stay at home mom misses it at one point or another. I know at times I do but then I think about it and I would be missing so much thats going on in my childs life. I have a 21 month old and am pregnant with my 2nd one due in June so I will have my hands full and probably will go crazy even more then lol. Maybe you can set up a playdate once in a while just so you can get a break. It will make you feel alot better. Its nice for my aunt to take us somewhere b/c her kids run after my daughter for a while lol.
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@MissDylynne (87)
• United States
3 Apr 07
You are REALLY brave! My husband wants another child besides our 2 but I'm hesitant as i am going on 35 this year and already have a 12 year old and a 3 year old. My kids have play dates but I still miss the working thing. I do some different types of Internet work from home but it's not the same. I am home 24/7 and don't drive at the moment. I think my problem is that I don't get out much and I run CRAZY from 4am until 11pm 7 days a week and just need a break. My son and i are VERY active when the weather is nice...we are always taking walks, playing at the park, etc but I still miss the "me" time that I really don't get. :)
