What would you do?
@dipasrisamanta (121)
United States
April 3, 2007 2:46pm CST
Suppose you go to a party and you are enjoying very much with your partner (husband or wife). You are asked by someone you both know to dance with that person. You do not know what your partner might feel about that. What would you do or what do you think is appropriate to do in that situation? Should you politely reject that person or join your partner again after dancing for sometime with him or her?
Please suggest.
Thanks in advance.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
3 Apr 07
If I was asked to dance with someone I knew then I probably would. I wouldn't see any problem with it and I do always ask my husband if it is ok though. He doesn't like dancing, and he doesn't mind me dancing with other men (if they are our friends). Sometimes I will politely decline and say "No Thank-you, I'm feeling rather tired right now" or something a long those lines, and they are often nice about it.
@michelledarcy (5220)
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3 Apr 07
I don't think it would be a problem at all to dance with them. I think that if you have a good relationship with your partner you should be able to dance with anyone without it being a threat to your relationship.
You really should be able to trust each other enough to know that an innocent dance is just that and you shouldn't have to ask permission to do it.
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@cutekristine (526)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
If i were in that situation, not knowing how my partner would feel, i will politely reject the other. I am enjoying the company of the person i love, why go to the other. Even if my partner will say its ok, still i will not go dance, i will not leave him. I think the other person will understand me why i have to reject him.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
4 Apr 07
You could just look at your partner and ask~ do you mind if I dance with him?
For me, I would definiteyl dance with the person. My husband and I go out all the time and he knows I love to dance. I dance with many men, but always go home with my special one.
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@magikrose (5429)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I would just go and tell my husband that I am going to have a dance with this person and that I will be right back. Honestly i dont see a problem with a harmeless dance. Then after the dance is over I would go back to my husband and give him a hug and kiss and say thank you.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
4 Apr 07
me, i would ask my husband first, and if it was someone we both knew, then they would ask my husband as well. if you're going to dance with someone who is taken, its proper to ask that person if they can dance with them. i'm sure my husband wouldn't mind. i may feel a little bit uncomfortable depending on the type of dance it was, but if my husband isn't going to dance with me, i'll find someone who will
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
4 Apr 07
I do not see why not. If we both know tghe person and it is just a dance than what is the harm. i would not get upset if he was dancing with a friend of our or so.
Dance is something that u also can enjoy with other people than ur partner!!!
@simplysue (631)
• United States
3 Apr 07
If the other person has good social grace, they should ask your partner if your partner would mind if he/she asked you to dance. If they don't show your partner that courtesy, you should either ask your partner if it's ok yourself or say no. Just my humble opinion mind you....I think it's important to be repectful of my partner's feelings above anyone else's in this type of situation. :)
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@Quadren777 (158)
• Canada
3 Apr 07
My wife knows only to dance with other women or with males that we both consider to be close friends. If some stranger came up to her we would have some problems. I personally haven't danced with too many women other than my wife, heck, now that I really think about it, I don't think I've danced with any but my wife. I kind of like it that way.
@Kappen (52)
• United States
4 Apr 07
If it was a good friend we both knew and trusted, I wouldn't think it would be an issue. My girlfriend does have some jealousy issues sometimes, though.
I'd say the smartest thing for anybody to do is to just ask their significant other. Tell them so-and-so wanted me to dance with them, and I just want to make sure it's ok with you first. This should avoid any and all problems.
@kamalila (193)
• United States
4 Apr 07
That entirely depends on your relationship with both your partner and the one asking for the dance.
Me, I would accept the invitation to dance. My husband knows I love to dance, and that he's not very good at it.
However, I would limit how many dances I give to another. I reserve all slow dances for my husband.
However, if your partner is the jealous or suspicious type, I'd politely decline.
@wenfri (1185)
• Canada
4 Apr 07
After more than 30 years of being married We trust each other fully
Neither of us have a problem dancing with anybody else Even if we don't know them LOL Makes for great conversation and fun.
I love to dance so when hubby nees to catch his breath I will ask another No prob
Last dance is always and forever his
Wendy
@spiritwolf52 (2300)
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4 Apr 07
I would politely reject the offer of a dance. It is hard enough to get me out on the dance floor to begin with. I certainly wouldn't dance with someone other than my hubby. The one time a friend of his dragged me out to the dance floor my hubby was all smiles as he was tired. I don't dance well and I would hate to embarrass anyone!
@stefan_diego (556)
• Canada
4 Apr 07
I say I wouldn't mind. It's just understanding the situation. What's a dance anyways? Afterall it's a party. It's a matter of security with your relationship. I trust my wife & I'm sure she trust me as much. Trust is the key here.
@ciaosamson (541)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
If it's ok with my partner and the person was not rude or anything, sure. But I would make sure that my partner doesn't feel left out or ignored because of it.
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
4 Apr 07
Well, i think dancing with a person you two both know is not a big deal.And most husbands and wives can understand.Excepting those who are narrow minded.
