Are you bothered by what others think of you?

You have put many good points here. about your question, Not really. though i try my best not to offend people by my language or action yet when it comes to certain principal or value i don't really care about what other will think about me. I believe that one should spread love and peace and be nice to everyone regardless of faith, culture and country but at the same time one has to draw a line after which one should not withhold one's position specialy when a certain value is at stake. I had problems with my boss and was his vocal critic, when it was about work culture, ethics, a project or work approach. though my colleagues would advise me to change myself and not to spoil my ACR (Annual Confidential report, which my boss was in a habit of showing to sub ordinates) and while they feared his temper yet i would go for what i thought to be right. and you know what i would end up getting a better ACR then other collleagues and having almost no temper problems with my boss. professionally he only wanted the work done and not the yes boss type of approach. here at mylot too, about certain discussions, i am almost sure that the poster or some other person will rate me negatively, still i don't care how they rate me. i would say what i think is right (which actually may or may not be right though:-)). I try to be myself, be nice to everyone but don't sacrifice the values and let other people think whatever they want. if one start trying pleasing everyone, one can't get anywhere. so let it be as it is:-)

I like your statement. But for me, I am very bothered when it comes to interacting with others. I am quite conscious if those people I'm with are real or just pretending to like me. But then, I've realized from your statement why should I bother, when I all should care about is myslf.

I used to be bothered but now I have learned that you can not make everyone happy so you need to stop thinking about it. Like you I alos had same problem with not one buit amny people and I tried to make aends by conforming to whatever they wanted me to do but realised I was not very happy with my situaton so now I say to hell with all of them, I am goig to make myself happy. Now I see if I am happy with myactions and I do that. I do not get bothered by what opinions they are forming of me. pretty selfish but I guess they only moulded me this way.

I used to be bothered by what others thought of me, now I realize what others think of me is their problem, and not mine. No matter what any one of us does, someone somewhere in the world will have a problem with it. It's not up to anyone to please others, just ourselves.

No, I do not mind what others comment on me. A little bit only, I disturb. After sometime it is OK with me. The people are free to comment on us. Actually they comment what they are, because they see the same thing on us so make unnecessary comments. What it matters if somebody makes comments. The other people know us very well. One's comment does not matter.

You are right about this. I use to worry about what others thought of me. Now that I am older I don't worry as much. I figure that they were hiding something about their self so they had to make someone else feel bad about it.

Usually people hate what they see in themselves. I really don't give a flying hoot what others think of me... except my husband and kids. My family is very important to me, and when I do something to upset them I trust that they will tell me so we can work it out, but otherwise, I really don't care. I am brutally honest, but not to the point of being dramatic. Most people cannot handle it though, and usually when they are upset with me, they turn it into this huge thing that it isn't, and when I don't reciprocate, they seem so baffled and talk even more! I won't say that I have never talked back to someone or defended my way of thinking, but I just think that whatever I say most likely won't change their opinions anyway, so I don't even waste my time or breath. I have a great life, and great friends, and everything I could want and more... I am very self confident, and I think that it really intimidates a lot of people, so instead of trying to be my friend and just accepting me, they try to find things about me that they don't like instead.

Unfortunately, I still care. I still care what other people think of me, in the manner that I do not change who I really am, but more likely I tend to be more careful with what I do. It actually isn't totally being another person, but rather being myself yet cautious of the things I do and the words I say. I know what's good and bad, I have my own limitations and restrictions for myself too. But sometimes, caring about what they think is exhausting and frustrating. There are things that I like, but there are considerations that makes me hold back. Sometimes it is good, cause it prevents me from being compulsive. Yet there are times when it feels like I am not living for myself but for what others expect of me. Actually, if my family agrees with what I want to do, I could manage to care less about what other people think. It is just that if they disapprove, I know I would not be totally happy doing whatever it is that I want. Knowing that everything is fine with my family makes all the difference, for me.

I'm really not bothered by what other people will say. As long as I know that I'm not hurting anybody and I know for myself that I've done no wrong, then, that will be fine. Considering what other people might say only limit your freedom to express and do whatever you want. It suppressed the self will of being expressive when it comes to ideas and actions. Why should I be bothered, where in the first place, not all of them thinks the way I think. Acceptable to me might not be acceptable to others. We have different perspective in life, and that difference is what makes you unique. If you will just follow anything that the majority always do, then, you are just casting your shadow to others, leaving your identity unidentified. Doing things in accordancxe to your point of view and belief is what makes you a better person. By this, you maybe able to differentiate many things in life, giving you more knowledge when it comes to experience. Following someone else's footstep is like fooling yourself. You are not being true to yourself, making you vulnerable to changes. Live life the way you want it to and you'll know you are in the right track.

I'm far from bothered what others think about me. So long as I'm true to myself and my beliefs and values, people can think whatever they like about me lol. I'm sure there are people who don't like me, and there are people that I don't like in return, but it doesn't affect my life. I am who I am, if people don't like me then tough. I have better things to be worrying about.

This is a great discussion. You are so right about attitudes of others. It is what is going on inside of the other person that is reflected in their attitude. So many people have deep underlying issues that they never work on, but will critise others for the things they have not come to terms with. We have to set boundries on how we want to be treated. It is easier to not be around people we cannot set boundries with. This is not possible in work situations, so it is best to stand for what one believes.

yeah.. ofcourse.. it's very important to me.. i don't want people to judge me.. this is totally me, the real me..

i used to be worried and bothered when anone wouls say anything about me!even if i din't know the person but now off late i am not bothered by what people think about me!because i have realised people will talk no matter you good or bad!so let them do what they best know!i have alawys believed the only people i am answerable to are my parents and myself!so as long as i don't do anything for my parents to be ashamed off i dont care about what others think about me!

it's bothering me if that's not true and relate to my sons

Most of the Time, No, I could care less what is thought of or said about me. But I will tell you it does annoy me is people who run around and play the "He Said, She Said, They Said," Game and are twisting words to see how many people they can get fighting. Not ignorant act does bother me, and drives me crazy, I also get annoyed at false testimony... and liars.. But that is more a pet peeve act the actions of it, more than of what is being said about me. All I my life I been different and singled out and picked on, Very rarely can anyone say to me something I have not heard before... I will probably get red faced for a moment, Sigh roll my eyes, then vent to someone close but not say who did it... or if it happened on a forum I will report harassment or abuse if it's bad enough... but usually does it really hit home or hurt me? Rarely.. the answer is no I roll my eyes, and take a sigh and shrug it off, I have better things to spend my energy on, as I know if it's a lie, it is only a matter of time before the truth comes out either through them, or they are found out in another way. - DNatureofDTrain

I suppose it depends on who it is . If it is a friend then I do tend to feel brought down as I would be hoping that as a friend they would not think badly of me but if they do something that makes me mad or upset then I really don't care as I am too upset with them myself to care what they think at all . We spend too much of our time worrying about what others think yet if we were to look at it in the right way , we shouldn't worry about what other think because if they truely cared about us then they would back us up even if they didn't agree , they would at least be able to say that although it would not be something for them they can understand why it is important to us . I find this is what is so hard for children in school as they worry so much about what others think instead of just being themselves . As an adult we learn that our friends will be there for us if they really care and will not think badly about us for things we have done or will at least understand why we did what we did :)

Sometimes i do bother by what others think of me because i am a sensitive girl and i am easily get hurt about what others think of me.But sometimes i am not being bothered by what others think of you it depends upon how he/she think it and what she/he think.

I used to whine about people not liking me when I was a kid. But now that I way way older...I understand that I can't be liked by everyone.... But I am not bothered by that anymore. In fact, I don't give that a second thought. If someone doesn't like me...I am (as you stated) comfortable enough with me that someone who doesn't like me just doesn't bother me anymore. HIGH FIVE....we are ok!!!!

I literally could not care less what others think of me. That's their problem, and I have enough of my OWN problems!

Most important thing is to know yourself. If not if someone says you are bad you would really think you are bad. I'm not bothered by what others think of me. I don't really argue much either. In most of the arguments the people involved want to prove that they are right and don't want to listen to each other.