Does a certain ammount of Domestic violence strengthen marriage Relationship?

I know where i am from this kind of behavior constitutes as abuse and a man can end up in prison for this kind of behavior.and it definatly does not help a relationship it might ruine it.and if you hit a women then it means you do not love them.

It's not true to our culture. VIolence is a sign of disrespect and ill mannered behavior. If you really care why use domestic violence? Love does not mean violance but care and protection. Where is protection in violence? I have nothing against women in your country but maybe not all of them are thinking that love means having domestic violence.

I am not into being slapped around. My husband is not from Uganda, but from Algeria. Instead of being slapped around I prefer respect, kindness, going out for dinner, and vacations. To each his own.

What a load of rubbish. violence in any situation is not acceptable. Violence doesnt show love or caring quite the opposite it shows control and manipulation. No one should put up with violence. omen in these situations need help because often they themselves are helpless especially if they love the violent perpetrater.

Men hate woman love to complain about! This is a male friend told me.

I find that piece of information quite disturbing. Where I am from, it's absolutely intolerable for a man to beat his wife. That's a crime here and he could be put in jail. I don't think most women I know would like being treated like that. At any rate, this may be different in your country. I don't think I could give you accurate advice because I find it difficult to relate to your circumstances.

You slap your women around and they still haven't smartened up? In North America this is a crime and the men who end up in court usually get jail time and some must take anger management courses. I hope for the womens sake that your country passes laws to stop what we call abuse and domestic violence. I really can't get myself to believe that your wifes and girlfriends need to get slapped to feel loved! Take care Academic2.

Exchange of words are ok with husband and wife but beating is some thing which is barbaric in my opinion. Supposing the wife beats the husband, how will he take it? No body has right to beat the other person even if it is his wife. No dosa (eatable thing) is without holes in it and no husband and wife without misunderstanding and small fights. Later they themselves understand who is right or wrong and they will patch up themselves. With these sort of small fights, they come together closer, certainly not by beating. A sensible girl never wants her husband to beat her nor does she beat her husband.

I think that in the United States we have gone way overboard on the DOMESTIC VIOLENCE thing. For example: My boyfriend was standing looking at stuff in my china cabinet. I was listening to his mother talk on phone. I said something after quite sometime and boyfriend STARTLED turned to where his elbow knocked the phone out of my hand. His mother called the police. I was arrested-because someone has to be arrested if the police are called. The policeman further said in all his stupidity...that: In OREGON it's against the law to ACCIDENTALLY knock a cellphone out of someone's hand. I don't think beating someone strengthens relationships. I think it does more harm than good-for the most part, but wanting to get beatings or slaps is not showing love to me...it's showing abuse and that's not nice. Husbands who love their wives or girlfriends surely should be able to show their love without verbal or physical abuse.... BUT I might also say...some women need a smack sometimes. Especially, the ones who provoke the husband to act out..AND YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!

it's so strange. who is the happiest woman in your country? the one who receive the severest domestic violence? what leads people to marriage in your country? love, money or parents' arrangement? if it is love, how can they evaluate love with domestic violence.

OMG. Domestic violence NEVER helps a relationship. Honestly, I couldn't criticize your culture. Every culture is different and what may be normal for one may not be for others. If you say that's how women feel then so be it. But you can be sure that I'm NEVER staying in your country.

i find your culture very strange. i never thought physical violence is considered a positive gesture in any parts of the world. what country are you from? when a person inflicts physical pain on another person it usually means he's angry or extremely displeased with that person. how can violence be an act of love when it is usually generated by anger? aren't there any movement there that's at least trying to change that certain culture? are you a woman? married? have you experienced the same thing? do you like it? women all over the world have been fighting for the right to equality. that they should be treated equally with men. it seems that your country is stuck in the past. i don't see how a violence in any form can become constructive or help a relationship. i don't agree with that. if my husband would try to hit me with no reason at all or even with reason, there will surely be a big problem with that. women of all ages, race and color deserve to be loved with tenderness and not with a heavy hand.

If my fiance hit me, I'd hit him back with a frying pan. Where I live, beating someone is abuse. I even believe beating children can be abusive to them. There are other forms of discipline. I doubt beating a woman would strengthen any relationship. What country are you from? How would you like if your wife beat you every once-in-a-while?