Have you ever been scolded by myLot staff?
By raydene
@raydene (9871)
United States
April 5, 2007 2:42pm CST
This AM on my email there was a short note from myLot scolding me for commenting and or repling.I am sharing this so that others will know that this is a no no.Sometimes I don't have anything to say but I want my friends to know I read their discussion and I want everybody to know that I thank them for their response.When my pain level is up I have a hard time putting the words together to say what I want to...Friends I hope you'll know that I read your discussions and responses but will not be answering every single thing any longer.I'm glad they let me know because I didn't get it from the rules but I probably missed it.Look below and you'll see what I mean...
MyLot wrote
"We have reviewed your account and noticed that you had a lot of comments that were unacceptable.
Please refrain from responding/commenting with:
Thanks for your reply, thanks, hugs, thanks for your response, thanks for responding and so on.
The rest of your discussions, responses and comments are great. Keep up the good work."
Does anybody else have any feedback from myLot to help the rest of us?Please share..I'm still figuring it all out.
Thanks
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48 responses
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I don't think that they were scolding. Just instructing you in participating in a real discussion type of way. This is something that a moderator would send and am not sure Management is really aware. As long as it is not every respondant and that you say something along the line of the discussion and the response you are commenting back on, I think you will do fine. Good luck with this.
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@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
if you have read the discussion guidelines, it mentions there in the DONT's...thank everyone for every responses for this will not increase your earnings.
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@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
5 Apr 07
I didn't realize we were not supposed to be doing this either . I thought it was better if we did it and thought we were supposed to somehow show we had read all the messages others sent out .
Thank you for posting this as I didn't realize this either and wouldn't want to do something against the rules .
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@GardenGerty (160721)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I think this is important for people to see, and it is a good discussion. What I do is to respond once or twice on each page, and say thanks to all of my friends who answer, I always rate them, of course they cannot see that, but I do. I will pick one response to comment under, but I will comment on everything that strikes me on that page, and thank people for participating.
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@BarBaraPrz (47388)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
5 Apr 07
You can show that you've read all the messages by rating them with the plus or minus sign on each one.
@caribe (2465)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I noticed that one of the people responding to this discussion now thinks they shouldn't respond to someone's post in their discussion. It is fine to respond to the post if you have something more to say and to interact. It is just responding just to say "thank you for your response" that is considered to be a "no, no."
@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Wow. I think it is great to respond to everyone, even if it is just to say thanks or that you read their comment. It is common curteousy. What is myLot thinking. This is absurd. I am glad you shared it. I have noticed it in the "rules", but never paid much attention to it, as I thought is was a bunch of hooey. I haven't received a "scold" from daddy-o yet, but I probably will in the near future, if they are reviewing accounts and sending out emails like the one you got. Thank you for sharing it with us.
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@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
6 Apr 07
If you are responding and answering questions or commenting on what they said I don't think mylot has a problem with. It's when you are just thanking them for responding that they don't want. I know for myself when I comment to people it's to add to what they said, answer something, or maybe argue the point of view type thing.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I haven't been warned from Mylot about anything yet. I know it says saomehwere in their terms that we cannot respond with thank you. I think they mean we cannot just respond with those words only. they want us to respond with more words than that, but I think we can add that at the end. I'm not sure. I started a discussions about this a while back and that is what other Mylot members told me. I asked if we cannot say thank you. They said we can but just not those two words alone. I hope this helps.
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@shell52 (144)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Thank you for sharing this with everyone. Being new to Mylot, this should help everyone that doesn't know about this, and help you enjoy a little more knowing that you don't have to be so polite. I agree with reading the responses and having to read everylittle comment, but each of us has our own feelings on being polite.
I hope you can spend more time on writing. You have so many wonderful ideas to write on. You have greatly added to the variety of discussions and should take the possitive of Mylot's email and write your wonderful ideas. That to me was a real compliment. I think that not having to keep caught up should help take some pressure off you and let you be free to write, write, write!
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@weemam (13372)
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5 Apr 07
no pal I never have yet , I have carpotunnel both hands and I am sure when my hands are sore that I have written quite a few answers like that , I am like you ,I try to answer as many as I can and I feel bad if I miss some out too , To be really honest sometimes I am stuck for words to say thanks and I am sure everyone else is too , I have gone to a lot of discussions where the writer hasn't ever acknowledged any responses , How can we win ? good luck and hugs xx
@raydene (9871)
• United States
6 Apr 07
My sweet Weeman,I will be answering some of my friend if I have to start reciting nursery rhimes...Honey do you like the sing song ones or the straight rhiming ones?I will try to find a few words one way or another as you can see by this post!
xoxo
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@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I was sent a email a while back because of creating duplicate comments and also for creating comparison topics. I apologized for the comparison topics and explained that my duplicate responses were not due to my fault that I was having trouble sending comments and topics through. Everything has been great since and I avoid creating comparison topics. That is good that you received positive feedback from them.
@raydene (9871)
• United States
6 Apr 07
Thanks Sweetie I'm glad I'm not the only one.I mostly started the discussion because I wanted everybody to know that they have to write more then just a thanks or a on or two word response.Just have to have a sentence or two to contribute to the discussion or read,rate and go on.
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@patgalca (18370)
• Orangeville, Ontario
5 Apr 07
I hate to say I told you so....
I'm not speaking directly to you, Raydene. There have been several discussions on this topic and I have always pointed out that these responses were discouraged by myLot in the guidelines.
Personally, I will read every response to my discussion but I can't always think of something to comment with so I don't. If people want to know if I read their post they can scroll further down and see if I commented on any other response. If I commented on post number 15, then obviously I have read posts 1 through 14 as well.
One over my very first discussions here received over 200 responses. I had a hard enough time reading every one without having to comment on every response. I commented when I felt compelled to. Everyone is grateful when people respond to their discussions. There is no need to say it every time.
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@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
6 Apr 07
Well I haven't had one yet but one never knows when that might change. I had read in the guidelines that we aren't to respond with thanks to each response made. I do always read the responses and I comment where I can to show that I am reading them but I only make comments that add to the over all discussion. I may also say thanks in it but that is only part of what I comment with. I do rate all the responses. I figure that's the least I can do :)
At least they were nice and just sent a gentle reminder and they did let you know that everything else you are doing is correct. That's always good to know when you think about it. It's also nice to know that they are checking what we post and such. So that should make you feel good, that they are reading what you post.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
6 Apr 07
Oh Emerald,I'didn't feel bad or offended but I did want others to know in case they were doing the same thing.And yes it is nice for them to appreciate my posts.It sometimes feels mysterious...this myLot site and I'm not always sure I'm doing ok so if someone else got this email I would hope they would share so I would know too.
@AnythngArt (3302)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I am glad that you posted this. It helps others know what MyLot is thinking. Personally I agree with MyLot here. When you are reading through a long set of responses to a discussion, it's kind of a drag to have to read a "thanks" after every response. I realize that is kind of selfish on my part, but when you have only so much time to read and participate in discussions, it does slow things up. I think that most people realize you appreciate them responding. You are really nice to do this, but it doesn't add to the discussion. Sorry, I'm not trying to be mean, just honest.
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@patgalca (18370)
• Orangeville, Ontario
5 Apr 07
I agree with you. I have seen so many discussions where people ask "Do you comment on every response to your discussion?" The majority were saying that they do say thank you to every response and left me shaking my head. I said in those discussions that this was discouraged by myLot but no one really cared. They just thought it was common courtesy. I don't do it and I don't much care to see the same response to every comment in a discussion. They are not getting paid for it and their time could be better spent responding to other discussions and making money from THAT.
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@linda345 (2661)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
I knew from the rules we were not supposed to respond to everyones discussion by just saying thanks or stuff like that. Sometimes it is hard not to. Lately, I have only been responding to a response to my discussions if I have something to add. It doesn't mean it is not a good response. I have picked ones that I haven't responded to as best response before. It looks like they asked you to stop with the short responses but they also gave you a nice compliment. I think that in itself says alot about your work on mylot.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
6 Apr 07
See Linda you can always find the nice thing for me.I only jokingly used the word scold.Besides it seems that words like scold get alot of responses when saying I got an email wouldn't.I really wanted to expose this to others that might be doing the wrong thing.I had alot of my posts deleted and this will help others and ultimately that's my goal.
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@wifeofharvey (1156)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I agree that this isn't really much of a repremand. More of a gentle explaination. And I do like it when people share this information with others. I know that I have learned some of what is and is not acceptable from reading posts such as yours.
I guess my only question would be were the phrases you were asked to refain from the entire post? or did you post more comments at that time?
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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5 Apr 07
ive never heard of this , lol. Im sure if it was common I would have got one because i break the rules by answering posts to my discussions all the time. Ill have to watch out for my official telling off. I honestly feel it is only polite to acknowledge any replies you might get
blessed be
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@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
6 Apr 07
No I have never had this kind of response from mylot at all I do not know why mylot would say this to you I always thank my friends for responding to my discussions although I do not thank every single one of them, that is quite strange to receive that kind of notification to me I will await and see if I get the same notification.
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@yanjiaren (9031)
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5 Apr 07
Oh dear..I respond like that but I never got one of those emails..what is that lol? I cetainly don't mind a hug from my mylot friends..especially now I am pining..
@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
5 Apr 07
I've seen this in the rules before but I know there are a lot of people who don't follow it lol.
I like to respond to responses but keeping this rule in mind, I usually type something else in response to their response first and then add thanks for responding at the bottom.
I feel it's only fair that we let our Mylot friends and other members know that we have read their responses and we appreciate the time they took to give a response.
@mummymo (23706)
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6 Apr 07
sweetie I have never had this ....yet and I am quite upset that you have! We both like people to know that we have read and appreciate the responses they have given and since we earn nothing from this I cannot understand what is wrong with this! Love ya babes xxxxx
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I didn't aeel offended or anything and Actually it will be so much easier now for you and me and lots others like us,because I will only answer every few as I won't have anything new to say to most.Although don't woory Sweets..I'll alway think of something twisted for you!
xoxo
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@jnetkris (213)
• United States
5 Apr 07
All of my posts or replies have those pleasing words. But I just do it at the last part, after one or two paragraphs. Mostly my post/responses are not one-liner.
(so far I didn't get that notice yet, and hopefully will not)
Maybe, most of which you wrote is a one-line or just for the sake that you've replied ( wherein I seldom do that too, only to few who comment on my post as a sign of appreciation.)
However we would stil be thankful that mylot gives warning.
In one way or another we do mistakes, so warning would still be fair.
Continue to have fun with mylot.
Enjoy!
