Do you beat your child?

Well first I would recommend not beating your child. You need to make the child feel like you are disappointed. When ever my parents made me feel like they were disappointed I would always learn a lesson.

He is at that age. Most 3 year olds don't eat what you would like them to eat and they are messy. Have you tried a fun clean up song to do with him during clean up?? When my daughter who is 4 years old makes a mess with her toys and refuses to clean up, instead of yelling at her, I sing a funny clean up song, I make things up as I go and then I will even pick up a few toys to get it started and then she will finish cleaning the rest up before I even finish the song. You just need to find other ways. Sometimes you need to just throw yourself out there and try new things with your kids and see what works and doesn't work. With the eating thing, I would just offer him something different with every meal. I mean if you don't like something, are you going to eat it? Just make things fun. Screaming at a child or spanking a child isn't the answer. There is always a solution to the problem.

well, i don't think a 2 year old is "quite big to start understanding". Yes, he can understand some things, but he is still INCAPABLE of understanding everything. I have a 5 yr old and a 3 yr old and they dont' put their toys away..you can't expect a 2 yr old to do these things. And, about the eating...he will eat if hungry. My daughter hardly ever eats. I don't get mad or frustrated...I get worreid. I have talked to her doctor and she says it's fine as long as she's healthy. There is no set amount a toddler should eat. In fact, a toddler's stomach is no bigger than his fist...you can't expect him to eat more than a little bit! "Do you beat your child?" That's a harsh question. Of course not! And, if you do...you might want to think about some anger management classes. All children can push our buttons and make us mad sometimes, but you have to be able to control that anger in order to be a good parent.

I understand that feeling very well. However, you NEVER beat a child. EVER! I admit to A swat now and then, but even that is CONTROLLED and regulated. However, I don't swat him over not eating or not picking up toys. You know what I do? I "throw" his toys away. I put some of them in a garbage bag and take it out onto the porch, after he cleans up, he gets them back. I myself cannot help him at the moment, because of my pregnancy, but this does the trick for that. As far as eating, that is a whole other ballgame. Mine will only eat cereal, waffles and peanut butter sandwiches. And for awhile I let him eat peanut butter only, hoping he'd get over it, but he didn't so tonight I took away privleges. I told him if he didn't eat he wouldn't do ANYTHING until he at least TRIED some food. And he ended up eating some chicken! And while it was still warm!!! Imagine that. You have to find what works with them and stick to it. And its not beating or spanking really. I do mine as an attention getter, not as a punishment. Because even if you spank them, they will get used to it and it will not affect them... take it from someone that knows....

i have a 3 year old daughter and when it comes to cleaning up..its like talking to a small wall..lol..at the ages of 2 and 3 you have to kind of make cleaning up like a game..i try doing that with my daughter every day..i say things like"i can put more toys in the toy box faster than you...wanna race mommy"? and she laughs while doing it but it gets done with lots of praise telling her what a great job shes doing..i dont think they at this age really grasp the concept of cleaning up..eventually they do..so if you can maybe make it fun it will happen!

No, I dont beat any of my kids. That is too barbaric for me. I am going on my fifth child and I can tell you from experiance with my own children and my experiance from working at a daycare for 3 years that children that age can understand but they just don't listen, your son isn't different than others of his age! Just because he can understand you can't expect him to really listen at this age. Even if he just listens to one thing a day that you say, that is good! Just start by "catching" him doing something good like cleaning. Praise him big time! Try and ignore any negative behavior. Be a good roll model! Be the example, let him watch while you clean your room, or the kitchen ect. Remember with time outs, that he should only sit 1 minute per year of his age otherwise it won't be effective. hope this helps and good luck!

I think beating your child would not be the right thing to do. However I understand how frustrating this must be for you to have to clean up his toys and try to get him to eat for you. Been firm is always good .Tough love always works for me with my daughter. When you speak in a strict voice without getting angry this has a big impact on them and the way they behaviour.I would recommmend you use tough love on him.

it is better to ignore them than to beat or encourage them...if we start to ignore if they do some thing aggresive ignore them then they will get bored doin it.....and stop doin and began their work.........

well at first you have to make eye contact with him.Also when you have that just make sure your as big as your child so you have to bent.Then you talk to him.When a child doesn't listen you let him sit on the chairs until you allow him to come of the stairs.It takes patience but in the end it works,but never hit a child it's unnecessary,because most of the times it's not the child to blame but the parents.

I know exactly how you feel, my two and half year old is the same way. And the bad part about it is I have no patience for any of it. The hard thing that we need to understand is that they are toddlers, this is a stage that kids all go through at some time. You just have to understand that and make sure your child knows who is boss. If you let them get away with something even just once, they will continue to trample all over you. Try to make things fun, like picking up their toys. I find that if I make it a game, she will be more apt to help clean up. If they start to throw a tantrum explain to them why they cannot do it, can't have it, or whatever may be the case, and if they continue to pitch a fit, leave the room for a minute. Then return and tell them again. Repeat until the tantrum is done (it will stop eventually). This is what I find works the best for me. It is so hard not to discipline my child by spanking them, but if you walk away from the situation, it will give you a minute to cool off.

he is just three years old.so i think he is still very young.just try to be patient with him.if you beat him it gonna affect him mentally.he would end up thinking that you do not love him.childrens at his age would like to receive attention from people.just advise him nicely

When my daughter was of the same age as your son,I had the same feelings as you do today.I think that's because little children at this age haven'e formed the habit of having meals regularly and sometimes when we feed them, their attention is drawing away by something more interesting to them or they don't feel well at the moment.so when feeding them,we'd better take them to the dining room and when they don't eat as much as or much less than usual, it's time for us to have them examined by the doctors.Children of three years old might not have clear sense of "clean" or "dirty". They may know whether their hands are clean or dirty,but it doen't go for their toys, for maybe we never wash their toys together with them when they are not as old as three. They just know the toys belong to them,and when we try to make them wash their toys, or want to put the toys away,they might think they would lose them, so they might refuse to do so.

I don't have a child... but I still remember getting hit on now and then by my parents... I grew up to learn that when I do have children to not hit them. I can still remember those incidents and they're imprinted into my mind.Instead of disciplining, it just made me afraid of my parents when they were mad. Definitely not a good idea. I would try making a game that involved cleaning, such as singing, racing against each other, or a rewarding system. It'd help if you both did it together so copies you since you're his role model at this age. I hope all goes well, good luck.

hello, Im sorry if my engl. is bad, but i try to sugest u. I have a girl she has 6 mounths. I don`t know how i will manage hen she will grow up, but i don`t want to beat her. They are child, they don`t know what`s good or bad;dou know? Is true from 2 years they start to understand some things but not enought. From 3 years they understand better. About the food, don`t force him to ea if he don`t like that. For example my doughter, she din`t liked potatoes and i npt give her. Take him gentile with small rewards the litles like very much the surprizes,and when he is bad and this dosen`t work ignore him is a hard punishment for them.

I have a seven year old and he is same too, does not eat. I remembewr I also as a kid didn't eat my greens. I spoke to the doctyor and he says let him eat whatever he wants to. so we prepared a menu adn I stuffed things he hated in to his burgers and pizzas and he never came to know. Both my kids throw allmtheir toys around the house. I don't mind as long as they help me to put them away. DO not beat your kdis for being kids thats very wrong. join in the fun. you will never get their child hood back when its over once. I had my son after seven year of marriage and daughter after fourteen years. till they came along my house was so neat and impeccable that I used to find it boring. I wanted someone to create a bit of mess around here. I love it no matter what but their messy looks and twinkling eyes and naughty eyes are my life line.

no i don't beat them because i have no child.

An almost three year old is still incapable of understanding many things. Getting angry won't help because he doesn't know what he did wrong in the first place. Kids that age are messy and they don't understand the concept of putting one thing away before getting another out. Motherhood is all about patience and of course, it can be very frustrating and tiring at times. Try not to worry about his eating habits. My boys were both fussy in that they never seemed to want to eat when the rest of us did, but once they got hungry, they had food and now, they're big and strong. It was a case of waiting till they were ready to eat. Your son will let you know when he's hungry.

It will be wicked for anyone to beat a child. I dont support this as it may affect the psychological aspects of that child.

your son is too young to obey your order. my son is 13 years old but sometimes his books are in a mess. be patient with your son but to tell you the truth, sometimes i lose my temper. however i seldom beat him even when he was very little. when he was naughty, i would ask him to stand in the corner and examine himself. i think it always works especially to a boy.

your child is only three years old. how would you suppose that he will listen and obey your all sayings. because at last he is child and he is not able to understand things and take right decisions.you are his mother and it is your responsibilty to make things understand to him. give him practical examples as much as possible. so that he can learn and understand things better. beating a child is not the solution of any problem.think first why he is doing so? then try to make things understand to him. tell him that these are good things and these are bad things of this particular task and give him the chance to opt the one option, if still he chooses wrong thing than try once more to make things to understand better with few more examples. and i am sure at last he will choose the right one becuase he has also mind.