When did the Vows change?

Not wanting to get too negative, I think too many marriages is when you can truly say it's at the obsessive compulsive stage. Part of the problem as I see it is that people are "supposed" to get married. Not really fall in love, commit, etc, but arrive at some point in the relationship where getting married is inevitable. The social logic is the real danger. There's the couple, surrounded by married people, what's the unavoidable issue? Some people seem to make much better friends than spouses. Some just shouldn't marry each other. Add Murphy's Law, and the heartfelt clashes of priorities that any two human beings can achieve if they happen to be on the same planet, and "until you upset me" becomes a bus schedule. Some showers are pretty cold, too.

I took have been divorced twice and I think it has to do with the man and the woman not been able to grow together as a couple.