How well do you listen to your kids?
By lynpreety
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
Philippines
April 7, 2007 8:18am CST
Me sometimes i felt guilty when my kids rushed to me and want to tell something. And I ignore them coz i have some important things to do. (But not all time i do that.) I'm just wondering why they always come to me when i have no time to listen. How about you guys did it happen to you?
5 responses
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
7 Apr 07
You are the go to person. Your mom, your the predominate person in their life. So of course they will come to you to ask questions. I try to not ignore my kids when they ask questions even when I am at my busiest. If you continue to do that, they will eventually stop asking you and start asking others especially when they get older. In their minds as they get older, they think to themselves "mom doesn't have time for us", little things like that make a big impact on kids. You definitely don't want them asking their peers for answers. I went through this and now I take the time to answer the questions busy or not. They want to feel important. I always look at it this way, how would you feel if you asked a question and were told I am too busy or just got ignored. It wouldn't feel good to you. So, that is why I always take the time to help them.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
Im very thankful to your advise maybe its time for me to have my ears on them or just a little explanation why sometimes i can't listen to them.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
11 Jul 07
That is a great idea. Sometimes when I am too busy to stop, I will tell them that I can talk to them in a bit, but let me finish what I am doing so I can focus on them totally. That always helps and we can take the time to figure out the problem or sometimes by the time I can stop they have figured it out for themselves but they still talk to me. Thanks for the best response rating! I really appreciate it!
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@Rachelg (221)
• United States
7 Apr 07
That happens to me often. I am the mother of 3 , ages 6-9-11, and they always have to tell me something. I am constantly busy, but being mommy is my full time job, so when they come to me, I try to take the 3 min, (because it rarely last longer than that)and really listen to them, because in all truth, when I talk to them I want them to listen to me. so I believe that we need to show them that respect , in order to get it back.
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
7 Apr 07
My children do this to me quite often.I don't believe that they realize that I am busy. Normally I will stop what I am doing unless its something that is on a time restraint, then I explain that I can't stop what I am doing ,would they please write down what the wanted totell me so that we can discuss it later.
@nicole6 (43)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
yes, i guess we all go through that stage with the children annging you to hear them out.But lucky me, my daugheter is so understanding that she have to wait asking me before i finish doing someting.But sometimes it happen to me also that i cant answer her right away.
@TeeandMe (104)
• United States
7 Apr 07
This happens to me quite a bit. I do a work at home and they will come to me when I'm working and I will have to tell them that I can't listen to it right now that I have an incoming call. I do feel bad but what else can I do? Now right after I finish work I will sit down with them and listen to whatever they had to tell me.
