Do you think vegetarian can DaTe Meat eaters....?
@totalearnings (1603)
India
April 7, 2007 1:00pm CST
I have been a vegetarian for all my years and honestly I had only two girl friends. One of them was a pure veggie and the other was a meat eater but never ate when she was around me.
These days I don’t even bother looking for girls as most eat meat and the thought of being intimate and kissing a meat eater kind of revolts me. Has anyone else had this problem? the reason I am asking is because I have made a good friend with a really smart girl that I like. now she of course eats meat so it’s a no go further I think.. hmm I don’t know ahh!
what do you think? what are your thoughts?
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
I don't see anything wrong with people who eats meat other than the fact that, their mouths smell so differently from those of pure vegetarians. I have already encountered a lot of vegetarians and I never thought that they consider people who eat meat to be revolting. This is new to me. Of course I eat meat. So I'd tell you to give it a try. Then you can decide whether to proceed with it or cut it off after being with her for sometime. It is better this way than for you to be wondering forever, as to how could have it been if you had tried.
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@totalearnings (1603)
• India
8 Apr 07
thanks. My feeling is that the relationship is just so much easier when your partner eats the same way as you.
@mememama (3076)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I married a meat eater when I was a vegetarian. I am no longer a veggie, long story but it was my choice. I did date other vegatarians back in the day too. I've never based my interest in people in if they eat meat or not, that's just narrowing it down too much.
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@michelledarcy (5220)
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8 Apr 07
I am a vegan and was living with a meat eater for nearly 6 years. His attitude towards eating meat and the fact that I had to have his meat contaminating my kitchen was part of the reason why we split up.
He did give up eating meat in the house when I was pregnant with our second daughter as the smell of it cooking made my morning sickness worse, but it didn't last long.
I am now going out with a vegan and it is so much better. Not only do we share the same views about life we also share the same tastes in food it is great.
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@totalearnings (1603)
• India
10 Apr 07
well I cant live with that plus meat in the fridge and everything else that comes with it. sometimes the neighbours cook bacon etc and the smell drives me nuts.
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@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
8 Apr 07
One of my friends is a vegetarian, and has been for the past 20 years. She has been with her current partner for the last 7 years, and although she's not too ken on it, she will cook meat for him occasionally, so long as he prepares it. She refuses to touch it.
I see where you're coming from with the whole not wanting to eat meat, but honestly, I do think that as far as dating goes, not wanting to be intimate or kiss a girl that's a meat eater is going just a little too far, but hey, that's just my opinion.
I'm certain there are a lot of vegetarian girls out there and of course you could hold out in the hopes of finding one. I personally would just got for someone who I like and hope we can come to a satisfactory compromise.
Good Luck.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
8 Apr 07
I am not a vegetarian but I have colleagues and friends who are vegetarians. I can get along with them, joining them in their meals. At times, I will eat non-vegetarian and they do not mind. They go on with their vegetarian meals.
In any friendship, I would say that it is all about give and take. I am really amused by the thought that intimate and kissing a meat eater can be revolting. Perhaps it has something to do with the reason why you are vegetarian.
True friends and love surpasses all obstacles. Perhaps things will change when you really meet the girl you liked and loved. I am of the opinion that vegetarians can date meat eaters. Eating is at most 3 hours out of the 24 hours in a day. Do keep an open mind :)
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
8 Apr 07
A good friend of mine has been a vegan for years and she is married to a meat eater. When I was a vegetarian I dated quite a few guys who were non-vegetarians. I never had any issues with it.
@mansha (6298)
• India
8 Apr 07
Why not, if a non vegetarian person does not force you to eat meat, you also respect his or her choice in food. My mother when she married my father didn' used to eat non ve but she changed for him and even learned to cook excellent non -veg preprations. same goes for my brother's wife. though she was a vegetarian she has learned to cook meat for my brother and she eats a bit too. If a woman can change her habits for man why not the other way round.
even without bringing gender issue in to it, follow the policy of live and let live. if she is not forcing you to eat non-veg why should you too.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
8 Apr 07
thanks for your response. i am not against anyone that is non-veggie nor i think i am better than them being vegan. in fact i appreciate hearing everyones thouts out here.
@lossforredwords (3620)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
I don't think that eating preference should affect the way the relationship go. I think you feel new with it. I'm have been a vegetarian over a year now and up to now I don't have any problems with friends who are meat eaters actually I only have one vegetarian friend and the rest are not. I don't have any comments to vegetarians who date meat eaters cause I know its a separate issues regarding feelings.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
10 Apr 07
well i am not against eating together. i do eat with all my friends at lunch who have their own veg or non veg dishes. i only dont share non-veg stuff.
@Makena1968 (682)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I've been a vegetarian for 40 years, and I totally sympathize with your situation. I've had similar problems as you, and once or twice I was with men who ate meat that I was crazy about, and I'd force myself not to think about their eating meat. Of course they usually wouldn't eat meat around me, (at first anyway), and I'd never cook it or serve it or have it in my house. Even if I was in their house, they would refrain for the most part. A few men didn't care, and they'd eat it in front of me to prove to me they were free to do as they wished, no matter how uncomfortable it made me. Im not with them any more. I'm by myself now. Are there any vegetarian clubs in your area? Check that out. There you can meet fellow vegis, male and female. Good luck to you!
@Makena1968 (682)
• United States
8 Apr 07
sorry..didn't mean to post twice...thought the first post was wiped out by a mistake I made. But obviously it wasn't.
@Makena1968 (682)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I totally sympathize with your problem. I've been a vegetarian for 40 years now, and I've been with vegetarian men and meat eater men. Most the meat eating men didn't eat meat around me, although sometimes at resturants they'd order meat. If I lived with them, I'd not allow any meat in the house, and certainly no cooking of it. They were pretty much ok with that. (Unless it was their house, and if it became a problem, I'd move out). Yes, sometimes being intimate with someone who ate meat would be a real problem...if I really liked them, I'd force myself not to think about it, but if I did think about it, I'd not get intimate with them. Anyway, now I'm alone. I live in an area where there are few vegetarians, so I'm not planning on meeting anyone in the near future. Certainly not being intimate with anyone. Do you ever talk to her about her diet? If you two do get closer, it can be important to work that part out, because you sound like a dedicated vegetarian. Are there any vegetarian clubs in your area? Check that out. If so, then you can meet fellow vegis, male and female. Good look to you.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
8 Apr 07
Im now seeing this girl and also asked her not to be offended if i wouldnt go near her after she had eaten meat. She sometimes brings over some dinner for us to eat and its always veggie and I of course always cook veggie meals for us. So far so good.
@deepti15 (1190)
• India
7 Apr 07
Well, it is really tough , I can tell this to you because I am a hard core vegiterian and my husband a staunch non-vegetarian. But we have been together for years now. But yes whenever he has non-veg food I really feel bad, in the sense that he is not realising what he is doing. But the better part is , currently he is on a vegetarian diet, that is his own decision, so I am quiet happy these days as far as his eating habbits are considered.
@smartmom (826)
• United States
8 Apr 07
From one vegetarian to another - yes they can!!! I am married to a meat eater and we have to meat eater children. Of course, it does depend on how "fanatic" you are in regards to your vegetarian status, and by this I do not mean whether or not you eat meat once in a while, no by using the term "fanatic", I mean whether or not you respect other people's choice to chose whether or not they want to be a vegetarian.
I really think that in your case you have to do some serious thinking. Would you rather date and marry a vegetarian woman, with whom you might necessarily be commpletely in love with, or would you rather date a non-vegetarian woman, who you fall totally in love me.
In my case I chose love over personal preferences, and I have never regretted this decision.
I have dated lots of meat eaters, and yes I completely understand the kissing issue. My husband and I made an agreement very early on in regards to the vegetarian issue. If he eats meat, he brushes his teeth before he kisses me. Yes, it might sound funny, but hey otherwise I seriously would hate kissing him, I just cannot stand the idea.
Secondly, we agreed to respect each other's preferences, and only very rarely have he tried to get me to eat meat, and when he has it has been in a jokingly manner.
Third, I do prepare meat and cook it, but I do not necessarily like it. It is a choice I have made as a woman, in order to make sure that I respect my husband and my children's right to eat meat.
I have been a vegetarian for 10 years, and I have not had a single taste, I do not miss it, I never liked eating meat, and I seriously doubt that I will ever even get a craving.
I seriously think you should ask the girl out for a date and let life lead you instead of worrying so much about it. Just think about it, what if this is the woman who are meant for you. What if, you would be such a perfect couple, if you disregard the vegetarian status. Afterall, there is not that many vegetarians out there, and if you also exclude smokers....well then you are really limiting yourself a lot, and not based on love, more on principles.
I say let love get a chance to blossom in your life, and I am sure that you will be able to make arrangements that will make your comfortable, even if you do date/marry a non-vegetarian.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
10 Apr 07
thanks and appreciate your response. i have nothing against people who eat meat and and I grew up in a non meat eating household. i remain a vegan for moral and health reasons. anyway i am not serious to accept as soulmate, except for being a good friend. I have been trying to think what my 'equivalent' would be, so that I can understand more the vegan who wouldn't date a meat eater.
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@jc_star10 (953)
• Indonesia
8 Apr 07
It depends on you though. I had a friend too, he is a veggie and his girlfriend is meat eaters. They never had a problem with that, and of course his girlfriend never eat meat in front him. But she does eat meat with her other friend. So, i guess it depends on your thought.
@simran1430 (1790)
• India
9 Apr 07
Well while dating , I think there is no problem at all , but once they get married , I think that will surely pile up a huge lots of problems as married life means living together with all that your partner is .
@PowerSystem (72)
• Canada
10 Apr 07
I eat meat and I love it! Red meat is not big on my list though. Personally I wouldn't let meat or vegetables stand in the way of a great relationship if it developed.
@Mitch_Miyaka (797)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
what your problem kissing a girl who eats meat? i think the problem is not in the girl but yours. i dont mean to offend you but i think your being unfair. you said that kissing a girl who eats meat revolts you? so your judging person by what he eats??come to think of these, every food that we eat whatever kind it maybe, goes through the same process and the end result come in foul smelling thing we called waste..
would you want a girl who is vegetarian and stupid?
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
Seriously, I wonder what makes you feel revolted to kiss and be intimate with a meat eater. I have friends who are vegetarians and they don't mind me eating meats. Its a mutual understanding on both parties that its the kind of food that we're eating. I haven't felt offended if they stick with veggies alone.
As for you, you might like to free yourself from your rigidly fixed preconceptions about meat eaters. Its like you are being hard on yourself for choosing the perfect girl for you. :)
@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
8 Apr 07
Your friends aren't having a fuss over you eating meat because they don't have to kis orbe intimate with you. You are not offended by vegtables. Ther is nothing offensive about t hem. However, there IS something offensive about meat...especially to a vegetarian. The reason why it is revolting to a vegetarian to kiss someone after eating meat is becuase we can taste it on them. Vegetarians generally don;t like meat on any level whatsoever and it is more than simply a moral thing. They don't want to taset it ontheir lover's lips. Also, if you kiss someone after they have eaten meat, it is almost like you are injesting it yourself and you then feel likea hypocrite. It is disgusting.
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
10 Apr 07
I would "Think" that it would depend on their reason for being a vegetarian. Do they not eat meat on religious principals, or because they do not like the taste and texture? do they not eat meat because they think it is a cruel and evil practice? or do they not eat meat because it is the "in thing" to be vegetarian, or maybe because of health reasons.
I would think if they thought that eating meat was an evil practice then they would not be a very good match for an omnivore.
@mariyamaka (931)
• India
10 Apr 07
i don think its a big issiue! as am e veg and married a non-veg! and a love marriage! and we still continue eating our prefernces! and its well and smooth! i doubt it should hardly matter to you.... and go foward and don miss that girl just coz she eats meat. lol!