What does my dad think he's doing?
By imsilver
@imsilver (1665)
Canada
April 8, 2007 1:38am CST
A few weeks ago my mom called. Well, she's actually my step-mom but she's been with my dad for years although they've never officially gotten married.
Anyways, she was a bit upset because she had found out that my dad had done cocaine. Many years ago, he had a problem with it and she stuck with him through the whole thing. She doesn't want to go through that again and I don't blame her in the least. I guess he told her that he'd only done it 3 times and that he was done with it.
Then the day before yesterday, my sister catches me on msn and is chatting about how it's becoming a problem for him again. Apparently he was even at her place looking for the name of someone to get some off of in town. She didn't tell him and gave him heck for it. Told him that if he was going to be doing that stuff he wasn't welcome in her home or around her children. Again, I don't blame her. Her oldest daughter is only 15 and already smokes marijuana because she sees the rest of us doing it, don't need her thinking that cocaine is alright to do.
We've (my sister and I) both at different times over the years had a conversation with my dad telling him straight out that the only reason we have anything to do with him or allow are children to go to their grandparents is because of our stepmom. She's the one in charge when our children are there and we trust her completely. Due to our childhood we each have issues with our father. He knows that if him and our step-mom split up that we are going to side with her and he will probably lose his entire family. Especially if it's over cocaine. There is no reason for it. He's told old for those kind of games now.
I just don't know what to think or what to say to him...
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@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
8 Apr 07
Wow, that's definitely a tough situation. Are things going bad for him again? Stress or something? Maybe you could talk to him and see what the deal is. Try and talk him out of it, make sure he knows the downsides to the situation and remind him what it was like when he had done it before.
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@Bizziebod (3497)
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10 Apr 07
Gosh that's a tough one, I couldn't imagine what you could do or say to snap him out of this habit! I've dealt with people before who have addictions, mainly drink problems though and unfortunately whatever you say or do won't have an impact unless he wants to actually give it up and recognise he has a problem. It really is the same with any addiction, whether it is just smoking or bigger problems, unless the person who is addicted actually WANTS to quit, then there is little anyone can do about it. Not sure whether nagging him will help, some people will go out of their way to do something they shouldn't if they are being nagged. I guess the only things you can do is keep pointing out that he's going to lose his whole family and make sure you tell him you mean it. Hopefully he will realise what he will lose and come through it. Good luck
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
9 Apr 07
He is too old to lecture. He already knows the consequences if he starts again. The best you can do is what you already have told him. So he already knows he is going to lose his family if he does this. All you can do is pray and hope that he stays on the right path. If he does start than he has to pay the price and a high price it is. But it is his choice and only his choice. No one else can make it for him. I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers and hope your dad keeps away from that awful stuff.
