Teens being parents

Well, this is a sticky subject for me, because I was a teen mom. I had my first son just a month after my 16th birthday. I know that there a lot of teenage mom's out there who can't handle being a mom that young, and I know that I struggled daily being one myself, but on the other hand, being a teenage mom and being able to handle it, all depends on the person and what they as a person are capable of. Do I think it was right that I had a child that young? Well, no, not necessarily...but it happened. I'm not even sure giving a teenage mom consequences for her actions is right either tho, given the fact that the "consequence" has already happened. She's pregnant! Now as far as a teenage mom who refuses to except her respnosibilities and take care of her child, then yes, I believe adoption should be an option. I don't agree with abortion, especially given the fact that there are many, many, many good people in this country who cannot bare children of their own, just for someone who was careless, to kill one. That's just not fair in my eyes. I could continue all day on this subject, but for now I'll stop. lol.

Wow that was straight and to the quick but I have to say from personal experience that tomorrow is not promised to you. I personally was the victim of rape and became pregnant. I was a virgin and did not have an intimate communication with my parents. This happened at a time when only bad girls got pregnant. I was a straight "A" student and did not even know where babies came from but as life would have it I said nothing out of fear because we didn't even discuss a womans' monthly visit from Aunt Flow. When she first visited me I thought I was dying and my grandmother grabbed me in the rest room and pinned a cloth on me and said now you are a woman. I was eight months pregnant by the time I found out where babies come from and I was afraid and just kept wishing it would go away. My poor mother found out when I could not go to school and was in severe pain. She sent a friend to meet me at the clinic where after hours of questioning the nurse discovered "You must be pregnant that's all I can think of" she pushed me in a cab and my mom pulled up in a cab behind us as I was being ushered in the first one and was told "she's having a baby" my mothers' mouth dropped as she said " a What?" and when I got to the hospital since I had never been to a doctor for prenatal I was denied. My mom being a nurse rushed me to the lobby where she removed a man from his wheel chair and rolled me up to the delivery room. I will spare you the details of that horror. But low and behold 29 years later my loving son is an only child and after multiple surgeries for cervical cancer he still has no siblings from me. In my case the means justified the ends, so as for me personally I would say I'd be there and encourage them to go through with the birth. But to each his own.

how could any ever kick out a child at any time. if my child came home and told me that there is a baby on the way i would sit down and ask questions about what they wanted to do. i would surport their answer no matter what it would be.

If it was my child I think I would want them to keep the baby, with my help of course. I mean, it's my grandchild either way, no matter when it was conceived, and therefore I think I would feel strongly about raising it within my family... this is to say that the 'kids' decided to have the baby at all. I do not judge those who seek abortion, and if this was their choice I would be understanding and supportive, as it is a hard choice to make. If the baby was born, though, I would do whatever I could to keep it in my family.

My parents were teenagers when I was born. Im so glad that they worked hard to raise me. They always said when I was born that I had to be on the team and I grew up very quickly. I know in my heart that they wouldnt be without me and all their grandchildren it was certainly worth the sacrifices they made for us at an early age.

I think that I'd rather give the kid up for adoption. having just gotten past being a teenager myself, I'm just too aware of how traumatic it can be. The sudden responsibilities that parenthood demands are just too much for teenagers. Which would you rather have: A happy kid with a decent family, or a ruined youth and possibly a not so happy family life?

If this ever happened to my kids Iwould probably share their burden and help them raise the child wiothout any shame or guilt. I am all for teaching my kids all birth control methods but with times we are living in one can never be too sure. I just hope they wont throw away their lives rather would make sensible choices.

Well,if i have kids, I would definitely discipline them or instill in them the right values so they wont become teen parents. But, if the worse things happen and it really happened to my teenager, I would still be supportive of her. Of course, it would be normal or natural that I would be mad, but the child she's bearing is totally innocent and her own flesh and blood so I wouldnt want her to give it up or have it for adoption. Plus, I would want my daughter to raise the kid to learn to be more responsible and to know the consequences of her actions.

i think if it was my choice i would rather them give the baby up for adoption. it would be hard on them and hard on me to see my grandbaby given away...but adoptive parents could probably give the baby a better life than a teenager could provide. i'm not totally against abortion, but i think that if you can carry the baby full term and give it to a loving couple that are unable to have a baby then that is a better way to go. if my teenager wanted to keep the baby i don't know what i could do about it. i wouldn't want to force her to give it up because someday that baby may come back and hate me for making her do it.

I was a teenage mom, I had a baby at 16. She is now 3, and I love her so much. My family was there for me and helped me. If my daughter or son had a baby, I would help them. I don't believe in abortion's, and if they didn't want the child then I would talk to them and them to give the baby up for adoption.

I don't believe in abortion. I think they should give the child up for adoption. I don't think a teen is old enough to raise a child successfully, especially if she'd fooled around with a boy when she shouldn't have - that alone would be enough to prove to me she wasn't mature enough to take on such a responsibility. Furthermore, many of these teens are not even legal age and are not far passed the age where they're allowed into a rated-R movie without adult supervision. I just do not see that as being a good age to raise a child on one's own. JMO.

I would leave that up to my daughter or son and his girlfriend. I would respect their choice and help them with the child. Secretly, I would hope they would choose to keep the baby. But, I would respect whatever choice they made.

If I had a daughter that got pregnant at a young age, I would encourage her to keep the baby and help her raise the baby because regardless that is a part of her and our family. Im not saying im for teenage mothers but if that situation arises in my home, then it is best I am supportive.

I think that teen pregnancy is getting out of hand. Not only are more teen girls getting pregnant, but it seems that the ones who do get pregnant are getting younger. That's such a shame. I don't know if we can blame the parents for this epidemic. I think they try to do their best in raising their children the right way. I believe it may just boil down to peer pressure and what they are exposed to on TV and in the media. If I had a teenager I would prefer that they wouldn't get pregnant but I would support her in every way. I don't believe in abortion, adoption may be an option.

I wouldn;t be happy if my daughter would turn out to be a pregnant teenager,but i would do anything to help her.I would hope she would keep the baby and i will do my best to support her.I could never kick my own daughter out of the house. I think abortion is taking the easy way out,but you don't solve the problem with that.Ofcourse she has to take the consequences but i will never leave her side.That's the worst thing you can do to your own daughter.

Well, as for me..if my daughter get pregnant at a very young age. I will ask her what are her plans and support it,but abortion and adoption is excluded. I will not tolerate that matter. I will encourage my daughter to continue her studies despite of her pregnancy, so that she may give her child a better future.

Having recently left behind my teenage status, i'm not sure how i can even fathom having gotten a girl pregnant myself let alone my own son or daughter having a child to think about. But alright... honestly i doubt it would happen on my watch, but were it too I'd support them just like i know my parents would have if it happened to me. I'd only offer my opinion on what i think would be best if his or her mind wasn't already made up one way or another (adoption, abortion, conception).

Having been a teenage mother myself, I most definitely know what I would do in this situation. When I found out that I was pregnant with my son I was given few options by my family as to how to proceed. Those options could have made things a bit easier. Help. Help. Help. And prove to them that there is now a whole new reason for them to strive for something better in their life.

I guess in any situation, mistakes happen. This happened to my mother when she was just ending her teens. She adopted the baby out and never told her family about it. I think that some teens are responsible enough to handle it and there are a lot of great teen parents around. I mean, some teen parents make WAY better parents than some older ones do! Theres no point kicking them to the curb unless you've never made a mistake either. I think with something like a baby, you HAVE to accept the consequences of your actions. I mean, there is simply no ignoring the fact that theres another life growing inside you.

I guess I never really thought about what I would do If I had a child and she became pregnant. I always think about what if I become pregnant as a teenager. I think my response to that would be of course I would support my child to the fullest with whatever she decided. I have never even thought about having a girl child I have always wanted a boy but whatever.