Boyfriend,how do you need?
By vicky19810
@vicky19810 (1600)
China
April 9, 2007 4:49am CST
Have you ever asked yourself ,how boyfriend do you need?a mature man who can look after you ,or a childish who need your tendance?
for me,i can not understand what is in my mind and my heart.so i am alaways in the yea and nay.i love my boyfriend,even if he would not love me.but i can not bear with his non mature in the real life and his fractious temper.but i do not want to request something to him ,as i know it is unnecessary to let him a little change for me only.so,sometimes,especially when we quarrel,i would feel so sad and can not know how to deal with it.like today,we quarrelled again and are in the cold war.i am really so tired with all things.but i think the only way to relax myself is not to consider about all.
7 responses
@romel_ece (1290)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
I think it could be better to have some space to both of you. Then have it fix the next day by settling the situations or just forgetting it all.If you love each other then both of you must lower your pride and instead understand and respect each other.
@yanksdr (1)
• United States
10 Apr 07
vicky, i have the same problem as you. i am in love w/ my boyfriend of 2 years (1 month living together) and he is not in love with me. he has always taken things in our relationship really really slow. he is 34 and is stuck b/w his youth and growing up. i can see he wans to be more, but i think somehow he is afraid to take the next step or see things in a different way. he does have a temper too, but i don't want to change him either. he says i think too much into our relationship and that i should not rush things and that they are great the way they are. i agree, but i know i deserve more, and i am impatient.
@mdchennai (2129)
• India
9 Apr 07
Don't worry my friend, small fight and quarrel between lovers increase the love between them. But one thing, you have to speak out few things to your partner and try to explain him that you don't like these things. Unless and until we don't speak out the problems are never solved. Love can survive only if there is a good mutual understanding between the both, if that fails then the end of LOVE is near, so speak out and find a solution. Cammon cheer up now, after all he is ur lover. If he doesn't fights with you then with whom he can fight. Just enjoy the moment :)
@leasantos17 (98)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
True love is not needy. One should not get a boyfriend just because she needs him/her.
@dujiongxian (1)
• China
9 Apr 07
love is duplex.if you just pay it one-sided,your love won,t go far.and i think love is considerating of each other.maybe just let time prove all this.
@samrat16 (2442)
• India
9 Apr 07
It all depends on what you like...you should sit down and write on a piece of paper all the qualities you want in a man and if he mets or exceeds your qualities then he is the man for you. Me personally l need good communication, good listener, not afraid to cry, opens the car door occasionally and has a good sense of humor among other things.
