My Future Mother in Law Drives Me Nuts

Unfortunately this is all on you guys - save faster, and get out ASAP. She's using you as slaves in a way, and her increasing your rent is her way of keeping you there longer. Maybe saving up for awhile isn't worth it - go grab somewhere cheap to live and get out from under her - she's using you. Oh, and she sounds like a really crappy human being. Buy her a personalized-for-her headstone to express your gratitude when you leave.

It is obvious that she resents your presence in her home. If she was going to be helpful and understanding she wouldn't try to make you pay more rent when she knows you are trying to save for your own place. It might even be her hope that she will cause problems between the two of you so that he will stay with her and YOU will leave, which is probably most likely. I suggest you take whatever money you have and go ahead and get your won place. The two of you will probably have to live on macaroni and cheese with beans but everyone goes through some hardship when they have goals they intend to reach. In your shoes, I would rather avoid giving her the pleasure of torturing me out of my relationship with her son, and simply move.

Lets see, you are living with her trying to save money? Sounds like her house, her rules. I would resent someone living with me to save money so they could probably leave soon. How about get better paying jobs and/or extra jobs to increase your income and move out now. Become more self sufficient. Its not her duty to let you live there.

Sounds like you might want to hurry up and get out of that situation. If you are having troubles with your future MIL you should try to remove yourself from that situation or things will be bad later. If you are paying your mother in law rent, why don't you get yourself an apartment and pay someone else rent~ that might settle the problem.

Things will get worse and worse and worse.....so you better get yourself out faster......If not..you have to deal with her and bear the situation...I feel for you...=(

maybe you and your boyfriend can look for another place to stay in and it doesn't necessary mean that you have to stay in a big house you can just rent a room or a little space that's good enough for you and your bf. because if you have your own place you can do whatever you want to do and based on what you have written it is very obvious that your future mother in law is making her own way because she doesn't want you to stay with her....

Ouch!!! It's bad enough when it's just a bad roommate but when it's your future mother in law you must be walking on eggshells. You're unable to say anything about it becuase you can't simply move out and be rid of her. You have to put up with her the rest of your life. It you're paying rent there anyways then how much more would it cost on your own? Is it really worth the hassel to save money. I know at one time my husband and I lived with his father and it was to save money. He ended up spending more because his girlfriend and her son drove us nuts so we went out all the time to get away. We spent so much money eating out it really wasn't worth it. We didn't feel comfortable at the house at all. I guess either put up with it or get out. You just need to decide how important is saving money and is it worth the bother. Also by living there you are risking that the relationship with your future mother in law could take a turn for the worse.

I am sure that she is driving you nuts and that she ges on your nerves but there is not much to doabout it except to move out. It is her house so u can not really say anything either. What does your bf think?

that was difficult for you then...if you think that it really bothers you then you must have to move out to avoid any confrontation..its your mother's bf you must respect her despite of her behavior..

Check the local papers to see if there are any apartment complexs that are looking for on-site people. More often than not they give you free rent as long as you take care of some day to day stuff, handle complaints and minor repairs. It is a great way to get free rent and some really nice experience.

One of my kids lived with me with their b/f and I didn't like it. The difference is though that we all got along together ok. You need to remember that it's her home you're living in and and you should be appreciating and respecting her. Get a battery operated toothbrush or a manual one. Who pays the utilities? If she has a b/f you are probably robbing her of her privacy and raining on her parade. She obviously resents you being there. I'd be feeling used and taken advantage of in her place. You need to do yourselves and her a favour by moving out. Try to show her the courtesy, respect that she deserves as your b/fs Mum and be friendly & helpful.

It sounds to me like she (and you) might be happier if you found a new place to live. I do not know what you are paying her for rent but you have said that she keeps trying to raise the rent each month among other things. Can you and your boyfriend afford to move somewhere else? If so, you might be happier if you found another place to live. It sounds like a very stressful situation for everyone the way things are.

Beware she'll drive you crazier when you and your boyfriend got married. I heard a lot of horror stories about mother in laws. Sometimes they truly act unexplainable. The truth is for mother in laws nobody is really good enough for their sons but her. They see the girlfriends as a competitor for their sons' love and affection.

oh my gosh.. what a terrible future mother in law.. erm.. i think you just have to tolerate with her? unless u're planning to move out and stay by yourself... your mother in law is not showing any good examples to her son....

Having a Mother In Law that you can not stand is very frustrating. Maybe it is just worse now that you are living with her..and hopefully things will be better after you guys have saved the money to get out. I have one of these mother in laws that I can not stand..and i dont even live with her. The small amount of time that I do see her drives me absolutley crazy and I am counting down the hours or trying to make excuses as to how to get rid of her. It is terrible..and I wish I didnt feel this way....but...what to do..

I sympathise with you.

thats kinda hilarious ,,,no offense well may be she tryin ur patience and how u tackle things and never forget like mother like son so try to win her with u love and care as u love his son and we all females shud be greatful to mother who gave birth to our dream man and shud be thankful in all ways to her ignoring flaws and drawback which we all have.

There will always be potential problems when you're living with someone. If I were you I'd move out and find another way to save money. There are lots of ways to do so, or earn extra income.

Well...my husband and I have friends who where living with his mother until they saved enough to buy there own house. They lived with her for about 6 months. I can tell you how she survived. 1. she remembered that it was her mother-in-law's house. 2. She bit her tongue and delt with it. The only advice I can give you is deal with it. Remeber its short term not long term. OR, you can do what I did...moved 3,000 miles away from her:) Good luck!! jonikijava www.joniki.com

wow thats horrible!! All I can say is save like you have never saved before and GET OUT WHILE YOUR STILL SANE haha. It will only get worse if you stay! Who knows, maybe on ce you move out you two will get along great.