My friend died no one told me

Maybe the reason they didn't tell you, was because they were afraid how you would take the news. I'm not sure what your condition is, but you said you aren't well a lot. Maybe they thought the news would make you worse. My grandpa got sick and went into the hospital. After a few days there, his brother-in-law was admitted for ammonia. He had emphasema as well and this was his fourth time in the hospital for ammonia. My grandpa and his brother-in-law were right down the hall from one another but unforunately it didn't stay that way. My grandpa passed away very sudden and we were afraid to tell his brother-in-law. Eventually we did and he went into a state of depression and soon after passed away. Now, I'm not saying that would have happened to you, but maybe your friend's family were predicting the worse when they thought about telling you. Maybe they thought it would be a bad idea. Hang in there!!

oh sweets that is so sad! I am sorry for your grief ray and I do understand how you must be feeling! I don't think it would just be grief that stopped her sister and cousins from contacting you - if they know you have been ill they probably did not want to burden you with more grief - please do not get too upset - remember we all love you! xxx

That must be a terrible feeling. I am sure her family did not intentionally exclude you from the news, but were just busy trying to take care of things for her. You could still send a card to her family just to let them know how much she meant you you. I am sorry you are feeling so sad about the whole situation. It is hard enough losing a friend to cancer without finding out that way. *hugs*

I am so sorry for your loss. I too know what it feels like to be "overlooked" when someone you know passes on. I would like to say that perhaps the family was so overwhelmed and greif stricken that they somehow forgot. It is a rough time for all when someone passes away unexpectedly. You have every right though to feel hurt. My suggestion to pay your last respects, is to go to the gravesite with flowers. I know it isn't exactly the same, but at least you will get some closure. Again, I am really sorry for you loss. Bless you.

I am so sorry. loosing someone you are close to is never easy. I am sure they would have told you, but they were probably griefing and to occupied with all the arrangements. You can still visit her grave and pay your respects.. Again - i am sorry for your loss!

May her soul rest in peace. Do not think too much about it. It just happened. There is nothing much you can do about it now, so, do not worry. They would've forgot to tell you.

oh hon, I can understand how hurt you feel, but in a time like that people who are grieving don't act normally, and they may have forgotten many people not just you.

First, Im sorry to hear about your friend dying all of a sudden. Secondly i do not think you are selfish, you just wanted to know this sooner and you didn't expect someone like her to die. But life is so full of surprises that you will never know. Who knows why her family didn't want to call you, or maybe they forgot. But i think they had their reasons. Hopefully you get better. Just remember that we must accept that people die. It is part of life.

I can certainly understand your reason for feeling the need to vent . I am sure their was a reason for them not telling you and it was nothing personal but I understand your feelings of hurt as we would all expect that in a situation such as this that someone would have told you . I am very sorry to hear of the loss of someone you cared for and it must have been hard seening something like that in the paper and not being able to pay your respects , but she will understand this as she is in a better place now , I am sure . Take Care :)

I am really sorry that this happened to you. Please don't try to read into it. Grief is a hard thing and they may have just forgotten to tell you. Now that you know you can still pay your respects to the family and visit her grave. Take care.

Awwwww so sorry to hear about that raydene. The family should of at least informed you and replied to your calls. Maybe they were grieving so much that had forgotten about you and probably others. I don't think they meant any harm by it. Maybe they also thought that because you havent been well yourself, they thought not to trouble you or burden you even more. Sorry that you never got to say goodbye to your friend.

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. Your upset is totally understandable. I hope you find the right way for you to say goodbye to her. x

Awww (((Raydene))) I'm so sorry. Unfortunately this has happened to me twice so I can understand how you feel. No you're not being selfish at all, just the opposite. Those of us with chronic health issues get bypassed a lot, sometimes to spare us the pain, sometimes when your going thru a long bad spell and lose track of people they think you don't care anymore and they don't bother to find out why. You should have been given the opportunity to pay your last respects publically but now that you know you can do it privately. She'd understand. Chalk it up to human nature and try not to take it too personally.

It could be a relief for your friend to have gone. I know and understand it is sad to lose a friend. Perhaps it is true the family are grieved and had forgotten to inform you, or that your friend could have instructed them not to inform you then. Instead of dwelling over the past, perhaps you can continue to pray for her or her family. If you know where she was now, perhaps you can also pay her a visit and talk to her over the grave. It is also considered paying respects. May God bless you.

I am sorry no one notified you. I am sure they did not mean to. It really would have been notified since you had been there for her. They probably were caught up in their own grief and did not even think about it. She knew how you felt about her. Try to remember the good times, that is what she would want you to do.

I am sorry to her about your loss of your friend and sorry you weren't informed about it. Sometimes people just get so bummed about things that they forget. Jut praise God that she is no longer suffering. God bless you so much.

Hi there. I am sorry for your lost. I think since you consider yourself as a close friend and the fact that you are close to her family gives you all the reason to feel bad after not being told about this incident. Maybe the family knows that you are also not well and that somehow this news will make you more sad and eventually make you emotional, that's why they opted not to tell you. Also consider the possibility that they didn't want to talk about it, and just want to make this fact go away by trying in as much as they can to keep it to themselves. I am deeply sorry to your lost though. I pray for her soul, as well as for your speedy recovery.

So sorry for your loss...it is very difficult to lose friends anytime...I feel badly that you were not informed and had to find out in a rather impersonal way...You did deserve to know but families in their grief do overlook notifying people sometimes...they are so wrapped up in trying to cope they simply mentally shut down and aren't operating at their full capacity...I hope you can speak with them and present your sympathies in your own words.. Cancer is such a tragic disease...it has taken so many of my friends...I'll pray for your own good health and also your ability to forgive their oversight...God bless you...

Oh my friend, I'm sorry to hear about this. I know what you're feeling. I would be in a state of shock seeing my friend in the obituary notice. I like to think that the family was grieving and forgot to inform you. Let's give them the spaces they needed for now. After a certain times, I'm sure they will remember to call you again. :)

I am so sorry for the loss of your friend raydene. It could be like others have said that her family knew that you were sick and they were afraid of just how you would take it. I know I was at my mom's (March 31st this year) when she got the call from the nursing home about my grampa passing and she could NOT make any calls at all. She had me call the ones closest to us and asked them to call others for us as I was to upset to call everybody myself. At least her family could of returned your messages by now. I would try calling them one more time and pay your respects to her by visiting her grave and maybe upkeeping it throughout the year.