Would you follow your head or your heart?

Its easy to say that the head must follow rather than the heart but when the heart dectates all its hard to make decision.

In my opinion, It's always mind over heart. I don't usually fool myself whatever my heart has to say. I balance it with my principles. And after that, I will come up a very satisfactory decision. It happened to me a lot of time. And it's effects are really good. It even brought me peace of mind after. For instance, I found out once in my past relationship that my girl has another man. She has loved 2 men at the same time. That was really a mess. After knowing that, I frankly ask her to choose between us. She can't choose one because she love us both. That's crazy. I love her so much. My parents even love her too. But what my mind said was to let her go and settle with the other guy. I did that. I let her go. Well, look at her now, she keeps on coming back in my arms. No way.

Basically, no matter how I hard I try to get smart when it comes to dealing with my emotions especially in love, I just find myself silly. I am weak when it comes to the matters of the heart. I am stupid and no matter how striking the mockery I got from friends when it comes to my present relationship I continue with my stubborness. I don't know, sometimes it's really too hard to let my mind rule when it comes to love. I'm such a submissive person that is perhaps because I am into love.

This is actually a difficult question to answer since, in my opinion, we need to follow both our heart and head together. If we were to follow only one, we might end up not in the situation that we had expected to be in.

No matter how I convince myself to use my head, I always tend to listen to my heart. I don't know...I get confused too. Even if I contemplate on things before entering a relationship, it hasn't really worked out with anyone else yet since I let my feelings overcome my thoughts. But thinking of how to work around my relationships has helped. Oh well... We all get a little crazy when we fall in love, right? For me, I guess it'll be "Follow your heart, but listen to what your head has to say."

both siz.. but i used my head more than my heart!

I have always and will always follow my Heart. Following your head is not the right thing to do never has You can not build a Relationship by followning your Head, it does not work and to me you are wasting your Life by doing that So I say follow your Heart.

I would like tot hink that a combination about this is the bestthing. You need to follow your headm but also listen to your heart

Strike a balance lol... Aren't you in the balance beam? In Love, The heart rules, and sometimes the mind says no but your hears says don't let go, gushh... what song was that again? But it's true, your confusion is valid, So I say whatever you do, strike a balance, or at least leave 10 percent for yourself.

I chose to follow my heart. I lived in a different country from my hubby. After we married, I moved to Scotland to be with him. If I had chose to follow my head, I probably would have stayed in the States and asked him to move. I had a good job, a car, a nice apartment, family and friends. I gave all that up to follow my heart. Did I make the right decision? YES. I love my hubby and I will follow him anywhere.

ofcourse i will follow my heart but i mustuse my head too to not fall down

definately with my head. Whenever I allow my heart to make decisions, it has led to nothing but trouble and a great deal of pain. I think if I were in relationship now, I would use a combination of head and heart but mainly head.

To be honest, I tend to follow my head that's why I'm still single. No regrets!

normally it depends on the seriousity the the decision, if the case is casual thing, i'll might follow my heart, if its serious decision, i'll follow my head. Means for both case, i'll start with my "head" 1st, NOT heart :)

I used to follow my heart but experience really is the best teacher. I realize now that decisions pertaining to relationships should be a balance of both head and heart. I don't know for other people but in my case it's not best to trust the heart alone. Mind is important, reasoning is needed to check whether what the heart dictates is the right thing.

I will answer this with great experience. I have done both heart & head and found the same problems either way. Even if you use your head, you would only ask yourself this question if you found some sort of attraction to that person in the first place. Attraction is what causes the issues. Heart and head runs second place every time. The only way to avoid this would be to pick someone that you have absolutely no attraction or interest for. But how on earth could you develop a relationship with someone that you have no liking for and nothing in common with? Attraction comes from what you learnt as a young child; how your parents were as people, how they intereacted, how they treated each other, how they saw themselves fitting into the world. The only way to cure attraction is to get some serious therapy. Have fun!

I am a sentimental person. Most of the time I would listen to my heart rather than my head. Sometimes its good but sometimes you have to use your head before making important decisions. It's not always a good idea to just follow your heart.

I would really be confuse too but then usually I don't know even if I tell myself to use my head but then sometimes my heart would like do against my will but then I'll try my best that I'll use my head from now on. I don't want to be left alone again. What's so bad about it is that your loved one will left you even if how many times you'll choose him/her so it'll just be a waste of time to even choose the person who doesn't care for you.

i will probably follow my head. as in my life i have been scrued many times due to my heart. now days even if i make new friends i make sure that they are good from there heart and they dont want my friendship just to get something. i am ever carefull now days as i dont want my heart to break once more. once i know i am safe then i give all the responsibilty to my heart as relationship are the matters of our heart.