Am I a born loser?

No man ever fails until he fails on the inside.I think you have payed more attention on the negative side of one thing,you should try to see the bright side.What's more,never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat. You have many opportunities to live a better life .Just remember that heaven or hell ,they are created by yourself.

I do not believe in luck and I would request you also to do that. It is only that some people have to slog it out harder than others to achieve their goal. And it is this that makes a difference and we start believing in luck. I strongly believe that one must not stop putting in efforts and it is only through continuous efforts that one can achieve one's aim. And believe me, the taste of success is much sweeter if it is achieved after putting a lot of hard work. One would cherish such success for a much longer time.

No one is born a loser, did you ever hear the song Count your many blessing name them one by one and it will surprise you what the Lord has done, You must never allow such thoughts to come, You are an engineer and if you are not satisfied with the current job you can look for another, So many are less fortunate they are not educated as you are God bless have a great day

I read all the responses carefully and be frank i also have the same feeling like you. I have talent, skill everything. But i can not succeed in life sofar. Both my brothers are well settled and am struggling to get my bread. I don't know why God is so cruel to us. Best of luck Subha.

Hallo there 'subha12'. You are the Captain of your own Ship! You are in control of your life and emotions not the situations that surround you. I know it is not easy to always look at the bright side of things, but we can always try. Everything has Two sides, Positive-Negative, White-Black, Light-Dark...etc. Add to that everything happens for a reason, and I believe that those reasons are always to the better being of the person. Start your day with a smile, do your best and things will be OK.

well, i think what is luck depends very much on your situation. luck is a very relative thing. for one person someting can be luck, and for the other person dont notice it or even is something bad. you descrive your situation, and think you are unlucky. Well, i come from brasil, i know thousands there who would like to change their life with you. Your situation, your life in USA for them would be more than lucky. I think it was the saint Francisco of assisi who said one time: i thought i am unlucky because i had no shoes, until i saw somebody in the street without legs.

No one is a born loser, but if you think you are you will be, be positive and only put positive vibes around you, and you will attract positve results but you must believe in your self and then others will see that....

Being a loser merely stems from the negative feelings you have. No one is born a loser. In fact, you must be proud of yourself. You are an engineer now and you must be proud of it. It is an achievement and the struggles you've encountered should serve as an experience. See things in a positive way. It is almost important to be grateful for the life that you have. Be thankful you have a job, as a lot of people have been struggling to find one. Be thankful that you are an engineer, as there are people who have not received an education. It doesn't help to compare yourself to others. Instead, may it serve as a challenge for you to strive more. Acutally, there are more unfortunate people in this world. Look, you've got a lot of responses now.

Life is always becomes the way you think it from the beginning. I don't see there would be any reason for you to consider yourself as unlucky person. You have your family, you have mother-father and all. There are lakhs of children in India only, who don't have anybody in their family, who don't even know who are their parents. You got the chance to study Engineering, there are many children in India only, who had to left their study from 10th only just because their parents couldn't afford any educational expenses after that. You have got a chance to earn about Rs 10,000 - Rs. 15,000 (Approx), their are lot many graduates who does not have job and working on tea stole, as newspaper boy, auto rikshaw driver etc. Luck has peculiar habit of favouring those who don't depends on it. So, just believ in yourself and have strong faith in GOD. If you compare yourself with others, you will never be statisfied with the things you have. There is one proverb in Hindi, "Doosre ki thaali ka laddu hamesha mittha lagata hain." So, if you think from your point of view, you might feel like you don't have anything, you might feel like you are the most unluckiest person in this world but if you look youself from other's point of view, you have got lots and lots of things. For example, you have a really good friend called Richa, with whom you have spent quite a good time during your hostel time. You know there are lot many people in this world who doesn't not even have a single friend.

I empathise with you. Like you, my life has never been smooth sailing since young. The only thing I am proud of myself is my integrity and the ability to work hard. At times, I too think I am a born loser, but I believe no one is born loser. You should already be thankful that you are an engineer, which is a professional job. Though you may not get the same opportunities as your peers, the opportunity may present itself. May I suggest that you do not harp the negativities, and look forward. Ever heard of the law of attraction? The mind is capable of attracting whatever thoughts and make it happen. Miracles do happen. Have faith in yourself.

Dear Subha from today u are going to be winner! This should be lookout, Then ur outlook will be different. when u are born u were a child, and what u have done to become big. So everything depends on how u respond to ur opportunities comes to you.Be a winner today onwards, good luck dear

But this time,you get best responses i think.Maybe i am agree with you.I think there are really someone born unlucky.It seems that they never got good luck.But totally,if they just be more active and do something for themselves,they'll be lucky then.One can change his situation throughout his active performances,i believe.

Before you said that, have you ever counted your blessings? The family, do you think it will equal the amount of any rewarding salary? You've been a graduate, have you noticed billions of people wishing they graduate but they did not make it. Now, start counting your blessing from what your spoon have. How often do you transport your spoon in your mouth? For sure it's 3 or more times everyday?How much pale of water you are allowed to used when you're bathing? Can you afford to drink juices or milk everyday? How soft is your bed? Everyday you did not notice the simple but still comfortable life you have. You know many people do not enjoy the one you're enjoying as of this moment. So, think that you're a loser. Cause no one was born a Loser.

you said that you havin a good supporting family you are an engineer and you were topper of bach or class. then ho w can you say that you are a loser. you got everything in your life. you can take example of those popls how never studed in good school even i m not good in studies. it doent mean that i m a loser.dont tyr to make nervous your self by thinking that u are a loser. you have a good enough gob in your hand only thing is that you have to work hard and be confident

i dont think we are born a loser its what we make life that counts most or what we are now if you think negatively then maybe you can conclude that you are then a loser..always think positive and all things will come naturally and bless you always

Having a good supporting family already proves that you are not a loser but actually one of the luckiest person. Just think of all the broken families or even families who dont even care about each other. In regard to your job, i dont think luck is the more suitable word for your situation. For me, i think, if you want to have more opportunities or have a better job, you should work hard for it and not just base it on luck. Like for your engineer, you had it after a long hardship but you got it as well. Would you be more proud if you rather got it just out of pure luck? SOmetimes things are better gotten through the hard way but at least you learned a lot through the process. Just dont give up and have more confidence and faith in yourself so you would think of more positive thoughts and maybe you would see that you are luckier in more ways than you think.

i would to say to you that it is totally wrong if you say you are born to be a loser. you must be optimize about yourself, if you fall to do something then try and try it again, try as best as you can, and someday you will get what you want. just make your past time experience to make a more success for the future, with that hope you can gain more from the past

no you're not a born loser. nobody is, but i do know what its like to feel that way coz most of the time i do feel like a big pitiful loser too. i even posted a discussion similar to yours entitled: "have you ever felt like a loser?" i think the best solution is to start COUNTING YOUR BLESSINGS & stop comparing yourself with other people just do your thing and have fun. think positive. Everyone experiences troubles and failures, you're not alone.

hey don't feel sorry man.there are many down here who are trying their hard luch to get something.So down show down.and as far as being unlucky is concerned spo you must do things you like to do not what you feel you should do because others are doing.

No one is a born loser and no one is a loser. I have felt like that many times and have had to go through counseling to stop thinking so negative. No matter what you do, no matter how bad it is, it doesn't make you a complete loser. If that is your baby in your pic then you have an adorable child and that right there shows you are not a loser.