what would you do?

I believe I would have to take me some medication before I ate the food the neighbors had prepared for me. I love hot, spicy foods though. I would want to make sure I was protected from the food affecting my ulcers. I would try the foods they prepared for me. I'm sure you did not offend the neighbors. Did they know you suffer from ulcers and that spicy foods affects it? It really sounds like you did try the food and I bet they felt okay with the amount you ate. At least you tried it. Did it have an affect on your stomach ulcers after you ate it? If so, I beleive I would have to explain to them next time, that you just cannot eat that type of food because of your medical condition.

That would make me so uncomfortable! You did great, much better than I would have. I don't even know how I would have behaved in that situation. I also don't eat spicy foods..so I probably would have tried to leave as soon as possible and thanked them. It was really nice that you ate some even though it wasnt good for your tummy.

I have had stomach surgery so I can't eat some things. When faced with foods that will give me problems I just politely tell them that it looks and smells wonderful but I can't. I explain (not in gross detail) that I am not able to eat certin foods due to a medical condition. I think this would work for you too.

It sounds to me like you handled it very well. And kudos to you for going and trying something new. Did you tell them spicy foods hurt you? I would have done the same thing as you, trying it and thanking them nicely for the great time and meal.

You handled it very well but I wouldn't be able to do it. I love to eat and when I don't like it, I just can't eat it, it's even worse if it's bad for my stomach because afterwards I will be in pain. I know you didn't want to offend them but you should have said you couldn't eat spicy food. You could feel really bad after eating that kind of food, imagine if something happened to you in there, it would have been very bad. As you thanked they for "the wonderful meal" mayve they thought you really liked it and will invite you to join them at dinner again. Just imagine that!!

I use to have neighbors who liked extremely hot foods as well. I explained to them that I couldn't eat spicy foods because I was on a very bland diet due to my health. This made things alot easier on us both. I think that it is easier to explain to someone up front what the problem is so that they can understand why I wouldn't be able to eat much food.

You did fine honey. If you are very friendly with them, you may consider explaining that down the road to them. Otherwise, you will have to decline in the future, or do what you did. Usually, people should ask their guests if there is something that they don't like or cannot eat. That is propper manners. But, you did fine sugar. Have a great day. I rated you a + for a fine posting. It will help you with your stars and points.

I have had this happen and in my circumstances I hate the food and regretted it for a week since it destroyed my stomach so much I had to seek medical treatment. Ever since I voice my opinion right up front and tell them my stomach won't allow me to eat such foods and I would glad to stay for the company and have a drink but the food will not do that much pain to me again. I make sure of that.

Well if this was me,and I knew that they were going to make something that was hot ,I would of told them thanks but I am sorry that I can not eat this kind of food, because of my stomache ulcers.I don't think they would of felt bad about it. Maybe the next time they would invite you over they will have something that you can eat.

I would say you handled this situation very well - much better than I would have. I'm afraid if I knew the people were going to fix food that I couldn't eat that I would have nicely declined the invitation or would have done something like mentioned my eating concerns and possibly offered to bring something I could eat without causing health problems.

once i also faced such a problem when i was invited by my friend on their festive occasion and i knew before hand only that it will be a very difficult situation for me to face at that time. but i left everything on time and GOD. i went there and there every item was spicy and full of oil, very rich food, all non-veg items cooked. but i m strict vegetarian. it was difficult for me to say no. my friend said, that i can eat egg based things, but i dont even eat egg, so i said that i m having ulcers in stomach so my eating all this tyope of stuff is banned. they also ten didn't forced me and i was also comfortable. GOD , i just thanked him for saving me at that time. After reading your discussion i was shocked that something as same as happened to me can happen to someone else too.

Well i think what you did is a right thing,sometimes it happens when you don't want to offend someone or to refuse somethin but you get yourself in such a situation that you end beinng or thinkin that you have offended or insulted the other,you don't have to worry about others you top priority should be yourself,and waht you did was right otherwiseyou could have landed yourself in a big mess!!!!!!!!!!

Wouldnt it have been better to be upfront about it and explain that you can not eat hot foods due to health problems? I love new foods and would love the experience.

It seems like you handled the meal very well. You were polite in declining the next course. It's great that you went to their home to experience new dishes. I'm sure if you explained to them that you and spicy foods do not get along that they would be understanding. If I were invited to a neighbors to eat I would probabl ask about what they were thinking of serving and making sure they kno a few of the things I do not like so that it would not make for as much of an ackward moment later on. But I would be happy to go and try new foods.

That was a very polite way of doing it and I think you did it right! But what will you say next time they invite you over to dinner? :)

Nicely handled by you. You are good to handle the situation. Infact If I were in your place I would have to take some to think that what should I do. But you have done extremely good.

Now thats an example of being polite.That wouldn't have been a problem for me cuz i love to try out new stuff.Besides there 's nothing hard in trying something new.But in your case you had ulcer and handled it very well. My sister too has ulcer and I've seen being choosy on whatever she eats.But she never minds going out a straight no cuz she's the one going through the whole ulcer thing and if she doesn't pass on that, the ultimate suffer would be her. Besides people usually understand when you say that you've got ulcer.So there's no need to have been so polite.But anyways that was so nice of you for having dealt it that way.

ive tried that too but i seemed to like their food and it is totally great and deliciouse.maybe we just have different taste...

Yes u have done better to ur extent.But first keep yourself healthy..Becz ur healthy then can able to attend several parties n can be no bother of any type of food..So health is wealth..This is ur photo the child is nice.. Bye take care.

I have dinners with my friends, who cook for us. We come from different places. Our tast is different. Sometimes, the dishes she love she will often buy it, but i hate it, i won't speak out, I will have a few stands for i am not hate the dish.