Should I tell the school counseler, CSB, or psyciatrist?

Legally, well at least where my sister lives, the parent must have one bed per each child. At a certain age, boys and girls can not share bedrooms. Her ex does the same thing and she's going to use that for ammo to get full custody, along with him not feeding them when he has them. I would look into the law and see what they say. Until recently, I had my son cosleeping (toddler), but I still had a crib just in case of this law, some family members were upset with our natural lifestyle and I was worried they'd call CPS.

I don't know that it's a big issue that your girls sleep on the floor at his house. Maybe they like it. Have you asked the girls how they feel about it? Do they want a bed their own at his house? It's always a tough thing for the girls to have two places. Get their input on it...

Yes you should tell your girls' school counselor because it isn't right to let the girls sleep on the floor while the father & boys sleep on a bed. The father should buy a convertible sofabed or something similar if he doesn't have an extra room for the girls. I do hope you'll find the solution soon. Good luck.

Some people just don't use their thinking skills. I think I would be upset as well if my kids were sleeping on the floor. They need beds at their fathers house. You did it, why can't he? I would say something to him. Let him know he needs to get beds or they can't come over anymore until he does and then if he still refuses to get beds for them then take it to court because I'm sure they will be on your side. In my sisters court custody fight with her daughter she had problems with her ex not giving her daughter a bath and complained how she always comes home dirty and he was ordered to make sure that the child has a room, bedding, clothes and a bathtub to bath in during her visits. So you might just have to push it some. Good luck!

I think if I were you, I would talk to the counsellors at the girls school and express your concerns. Also, maybe discuss it with your lawyer and see if he has any thoughts that it might be neglect or not. I think the school counsellor may be able to help guide you and may be able to keep an eye on the girls too.

There is an issue here which is I think that you 2 cannot talk about things ( im sorry I dont mean to be rude), But it looks like you try and do the right thing on how you are bringing up your daughters, then he gets them and ruins everything, letting them get away with things. Is there a court order or someone like a councellor that you can talk to about these issues , It sounds like pure laziness on his part and it needs to be nipped in the bud before they get older and the problem escalates. But yes definantly talk to someone about this issue and any others that you might have, if thats not the right person, I'm sure that they can steer you in the right direction.

Oh that is not good that when your children go to their father home that they sleep on the floor, I think that he must be lazy, or plainly stupid as you say that the floor is dirty. I don't know what you can do about it but I would be reporting it if I lived in your country to the rightful authorities.

I guess it depends on how much it really bothers you. Maybe bring it up with the counseller - just to see if they think it's anything to be concerned about. It could be a little of all 3 reasons you gave, laziness coz he just cant be bothered, inconsideration well i dunno, stupidity, more than likely! I would NOT be approving of teenaged boys sleeping over there either, so that i would be telling the counseller coz that's more of an issue. As for the shaving thing, my Mum always pushed for me not to shave - i ended up doing it but not until i was in high school - i'm a jeans wearer anyway so no-one saw much of my legs!

I think you need to do what's best for your children and by that I mean try to have a calm discussion, if at all possible, with your ex-husband. As long as you both make separate decisions for your girls while each is in one another's home, you will always have these conflicts and you need to find a way to resolve them. Is it right for them to sleep on the floor? Obviously not, but since we are only hearing your side of the story, there may be other mitigating factors that we do not know and therefore any other advice would be unwarranted. I've worked in family law and one thing I did learn was that there are three sides to every story; his side, her side and somewhere in the middle is the truth.

I think you should talk with their father first. Men don't think about things the same way women do. Maybe if you bring it to his attention, he will do something about it. It's worth a try.