Do You Know Where Your Children Are?

I myself have a three year old child. Our family lives in a mobile home park. We do have a yard and across our street is a vast field where sometimes the farmer grows corn crop. I am going to be worried this year if there is corn, because it grows so tall, and heaven forbid if my son should somehow get lost in there, I don't know what I'll do. As a matter of fact, my son is with me right now. As a mother I worry about my son all of the time, and I share your concerns about the society out there. It is hard to know who to trust. I personally think that you can't be too careful or concerned. As a matter of fact, it is really good to know that someone has concern over our children, like yourself.

My kids are all in bed now, its almost midnight here. My kids go out in our fenced backyard, and sometimes the front but only if i'm watching like a hawk in the front. They think it's very unfair of me because they like playing in the front yard, but when I am making dinner I cant watch them so they cant go out. They just dont understand, but its for their safety. Even living in a gated locked down military base I do this. I wouldnt be able to let my kids just run thru the woods. Not sure at what age that's even acceptable. But I am a worry wart.

you know my friend that my children are grown up now and two of them have teenage children of their own , but when they were living with us I always knew where they were , they always know where their children are too , they have a mobile phone each and if they turn it of and their parents can't contact them they are grounded , even Ross when he goes out will phone me to say when he will be in and where he is , he knows I worry about him ,, in this terrible world you can never be too careful my friend xxx

yes it is so sad, this day we live in. I am 38 and when i was a kid my friend and i use to wander and have that freedom. My daughter is 8 and she doesn'y have that freedom. I am incredibly sad for her. I just can't take that chance. Some parents let there young children wander but i just cant take that chance. My child doesn't go anywhere without an adult. It does sound restricting but if anything happened to her i wouldn't forgive myself.She is ok with that at the moment so all is well but there will come a time soon she may not be.

even i dont have children yet i stillprefer to answer this discussion.as what i've observed from society many parents dont know what their children doing,sometimes parents dont mind of their children they leave them and do what they want.some parents are very protective thats why their children want a rebellion,stay away from their parents stay to friends just to escape from protection.i dont know whats happening now to children now.are they want only to have freedom cos of the new era right now?if i will have children i will explain to them everything whats happening in the society.i will not be over protective.i will guide them and check if they study well.i will be a good mom in the future.lol!

Wolfie, my children are all grown. My oldest son is in South Korea (hes in the army, My middle son is in Seattle going to college and my youngest son is here at home. When they were growing up. They told me where they would be and i got a number. They had to call me when they got there and had to call me right before they left. They knew if they went anywhere else they had to call and ask me first. It worked. It was a good system. The reason that it worked is because their privileges would be taken a way if they didn't do what I asked. My sons tested that one time, by not calling me when they got there. (they forgot) I called over to the house where they were. I told them because they didn't call me right as soon as they got there,they had to come home right now. They NEVER forgot to call me after that. Follow through on your discipline . Its the only way.

Wolfie I always knew where my Children where I told them about the Dangers of Life and told them that I always need to know where they are They alwasy told me and if it got to dark and they forgot the time I would ring their Friends house and then pick them up Even when I was still living with them and they went they still would send me a message to tell me they would not be home and where they are staying.

You make a very valid point my friend!!!! Let me start by saying that I DO know where my children are. And sadly, I can not offer them as much freedom as they would like because I must know where they are at all times! My younger children are not even allowed to play in my front yard by themselves because I fear something happening. The fear of some stranger picking them up. The fear that a car might come racing down the street. The fear that another child will come along and be a bad influence or even be a bully. The fear that they will wonder off and I will not know where they are. Heck, I remember when I was a kid, as long as we could hear out mother yell it was time to come home or we saw that she turned the porch light on...it meant it was time to come in. LOL But nowadays...forget it! The world has become so crazy that there is no way I would let my elementary kids walk home on their own. When I was a kid, I was in K-grade walking home on my own with my sister that was in 2nd grade! There is no way I would want my children walking home on their own!!! As for the woods...forget it! That would be off limits. You never know what is lurking just beyond that tree line. So, in some way, my children have lost their freedom and carefree ways that I grew up with. Quite sad...but necessary!

It's so difficult for me because due to circumstances I am a part time mum so I can't always be present to monitor my son's whereabouts. But when I am with him , we go places all together and I don't let him go places on his own. We all do things as a family, they have the garden and the park I take them and outings. They have computers and music and play with each other and go to each other's houses.

My daughter can play outside as long as she tells me where she's going to be in the yard. We have a 3 acre backyard and live in the country without any other people living close by. She's only allowed to stay by a friends house if I know the child and the parent so I know that she isn't going to be able to run wild and not be supervised. She still gets to do lots of fun stuff, I just make sure as best as I can that I do whatever I can to keep her safe.

yes I have always know where my daughter is and who she is with. It is very true that alot of parents don't know where their kids are As I remember when my daughter was younger her friend was over and I would ask her does your mother know where you are and she said they don't care where I am or who I am with I was surprised to hear that.

My husband and I won't let my 4 years old daughter out of our sight. We've never leave her alone nor leave somewhere without her, except when she has to go to school....even that I still try to keep an eye of her. For us, our daughter is a really sweet girl....but we always be around her to make sure that nobody will hurt/harm her nor she accidentally hurt/harm other kids when she's playing with her friends doesn't matter where.

Well, mine are teens now so we have moved out of the "out to play" phase and into the "out doing god knows what" phase. LOL! But seriously, I do like to know where they are at and what they are doing and so far the have been very forthcoming and honest with me. (The 14 year old girl, I think I am in trouble with that one though".) When they were small, i was a nazi about them being outside without me because we usually did not live where there was a fence so I was always with them. I do not know what exactly I was afraid would happen to them, i never thought about it. I just went with pure instinct.

I ues to know where my children were most all the time. When my children wanted to play in the front of the house with the neighbor kids I was out with them doing yard work or visting with the neighbors. I had to make sure my kids were safe. When taking my kids to birthday parties I went in and met the parents, I often stayed for the party to make sure my kids where safe. A lot of the time the neighbor kids where at my home. I often was tired because I worked nights but I would let my kids have friends over in the afternoons. I would let them go in the back yard and play. On Easter egg hunts I was there, at school dances I was there. I even went to parties if my high school children wanted to go bad enough. Well we did not go to too many high school parties with my son. He did not want mom around so he stayed home. Now when the commerical comes on the TV and it says it is eleven o'clock do you know where your children are? I say NO because my children are 29 and 26. I feel confident that they are safe, and when I become a grandmother my children will be going to partiens just like I did.

Yes I always know where my kids are..like right now they are in the kitchen feeding the animals..then they'll be heading back into their tv room....We live out in the country now so they're pretty limited on where they can go without getting a ride there and home and they know the rules when they are at a friends place so I dont worry about them too much.....When we were still living in Canada, the neighbourhood we lived in was the one i grew up in and some of the old families from when i was a kid are still there (including my miserable mother who liked to call me to try and "rat" on the kids in hopes that I'd be upset..long story) and they knew the kids were mine so I didnt worry too much then either plus we had two cops (my nieces step dad), and an RCMP that lived in the neighbourhood as well and the police station was right around the corner....however they werent allowed to go to certain areas (back in the bush or in someones house I fi didnt know them etc)...to be perfectly honest wiht you I worry about them more when they are at school actually...

Sadly all to many people seem to have no idea .. or even care .. where their children are .. just so long as they are out of earshot and not hassling them they are happy .. I suppose I was very lucky .. I grew up in an age where you could walk in the woods, pedal your bike along lonely back roads .. and approach strangers for help .. To some extent when my kids were growing up in the 70's they still had a lot of freedom to just run around .. but even so we mums always had a rota for being outside with the all the kids .. just keeping a quiet eye on them .. but they could still play freely .. Funny really as I always knew where my kids were as children .. but now they are grown men I haven't a clue where they are or even which country they live in ... they chose to walk away from friends and family in their mid 20's

YES i believe in giving them some freedom but there are places which they know are dangerous at the moment youngest daughter is driving hubby up the wall in the garden. I have to know who she's with, where there going and she has to have her mobile switched on so i can contact her but she agrees to these safety rules her friends mums are the same they check with me at times to see if they are together freedom is fine but it comes with risks i just try to minimise them i wouldn't let my kids go to the woods.

Well, i know my childre are in my house with me. One of my daughters is with my mother in bed and my other daughter is curled up at my feet. Keep in mind that my daughters are a dog and a cat, respectively. However, if i had people children...no, i would not keep them locked up inside all the time. i would make sure they were supervised at all times, but you can't heep people locked up like that, no matter how old or young they are.

My daughter is 4 years old and as of now she is my only joy. So I'm quite strict on letting her playing outside. Because nowadays, I have noticed young children had such a bad way of communicating. And I feared her picking up some of those bad habits. So as of now, I don't think she is ready yet to play outside. Maybe once she had started to go to prep school. I can let her play outside once in a while, but under my supervision of course. (^^,LOL) Have a nice day Wolfie! (^^,)

my son isn't allowed to go anywhere that either my husband or myself aren't present. grandparents may babysit for short periods at our home which is childproofed and has all he needs to keep him entertained. if i don't know what he's being exposed to or who, then he can't b there.