Have you ever been hit by your partner/boyfriend/husband/wife?
By julaqq
@julaqq (141)
Philippines
April 14, 2007 12:56am CST
I have a violent boyfriend. If he doesn't get what he wants from me or even follow his commands, he would inflict pain on me. At one time, he boxed me at the neck while I was driving and I almost lost control over the wheel. I couldn't break free of our relationship because he was always there and knows my whereabouts. I tried to change his ways but it did work only for a long time. He never got violent ever again. We are still together for 7 seven years. What about you? Have you ever been in a relationship like mine? How were you able to manage it?
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6 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
14 Apr 07
No I have never been in a relationship like that and if I ever was the minute I got hit the first time I would be gone. Women are killed all the time by violent men, it is a big problem.
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@apakabar2007 (1693)
• Netherlands
21 Apr 07
I'm sorry to hear that you have a violent boyfriend. I hope the relationship between you two is getting better by now. I'm lucky that I've never been in such a violent relationship. But I do know some people that in the same situations and my advice to them is just leave him while you can. Life is just to precious to end up beaten up by a violent boyfriend. I know it is easy to said than done....at least, try to get some help from your families or relatives. Because you don't beat up people that you love. What if later you are planning on having children, would he beat up your children too ???? I really hope that you'll find a best way to solve it so it won't happen again, my heart really goes for you.
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@julaqq (141)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
Thank you apakabar2007. I'm so touched by your kindness. Thank you so much for understanding and sharing your point of view. I'm now so happy with him. He really did changed. I'm positively sure he won't be violent ever again. We both have changed for the better. All I can say is that when things go wrong, hope and faith would always be there to make things right.
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@Mickie30 (2626)
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27 Dec 07
It is very distressing when women get wrapped up in bad relationships they cannot see what they are in. I have had many bad relationships, but at the time I couldn't see what everyone else was telling me about the man being bad for me. I never thought I would find a man who would love and respect me for who I am but, I have and he is my husband and my soul mate. I love him dearly and he loves me. It is easy if you have an abusive relationship for that to carry on like a viscious circle. A lot of the problems for women stem from them not respecting themselves so men won't respect them.
I am sorry to hear of your experiences you need to get out before it is too late. Men have no excuse to beat women.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
17 Apr 07
To be frank, I am in no position to comment on your relationship, but I just cannot help myself to keep quiet. Personally, I feel that you deserve someone better, someone who can appreciate you, love you and support you.
If your boyfriend is so abusive, I really wonder what is so good about him that you are still sticking to him after 7 years? If he is always there for you, he should be a loving guy but according to you, he is one violent one and abuses you. I certainly hope that he does not harass you.
I do not normally encourage one to break away from a relationship, but this case is an exception. If you really want to break free from the relationship, you surely can if you are firm about it. Why not report him to the authorities or seek help. I believe if he really loves you, he will attend counselling and try to improve the relationship and stop abusing you. Anyway, the choice is yours.
It would be good if this scenario is given only for the sake of posting a discussion, and no truth in real life. May God Bless You :)
@julaqq (141)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
I appreciate your comment. Thank you whyaskq. I'm still with him because he has changed for the better. He stopped hurting me like he used to. I tried to break up with him and he realized how serious I was and that made him changed for the better. Like there was a complete overhaul on his system. That is also the reason why I believe in second chances. People change for the better if they're given the chance. I have never expected that it would turn out for the best. Countless people have advised me to leave him but I hold on. that's why we are still together for seven years, and it's been two years since he had changed. I can say that we have weathered the storm.
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@AnakSuNamun (2084)
• United States
18 Apr 08
I have been and i'm still in it.Will figure out what to do.Abusers don't change,no matter how much we want them to
