Birthday depression

AFFIRMATIVE. 2 days that i just hate are my birthday and overrated valentines days. I just hate the fact that i will be a year older, it makes me wonder what i've done so far and that life and time seems to be short. i always hold on to the very last minute of my age. i still say i'm 22 even if i wil be 23 in a month!! Arrrgghhhh!!! so to calm me down i do go for a summer/bday getaway.. i know 23 is still young..but not for long!!! cheers!

For my 25th birthday I was depressed b/c I wasn't were I wanted to be in life. I'm alot better now but I know how you feel. I don't want to be 30. Its like wow 30 is right there even though I have a couple of years. Everyone I know who is 30+ put themselves on a diet b/c they said they just started gaining weight like crazy. As you can see right now I'm not worried about my weight but I'm sure I will be as soon as I have my baby.

First of all a belated happy birthday to you for Tuesday and sorry to hear you're feeling out of sorts. I do get quite depressed around the time of my birthday but get over it by having a night out with as many friends as possible, usually 30-40 friends and family come out to a pub and then onto a nightclub. This year I'll be 40 and this one for me is the one I think I'll be most depressed about. I wasn't too bothered when I turned 30 but now 40's approaching I feel like middle age has really hit home! I have no real tips for getting over the blues apart from trying something different - go out for the day or evening with a special person or friend or group of friends, do something different, take pictures, make some memories so you can look back at the time of your birthday with fond memories. I hope you feel back to normal soon *hugs* x

i do get depressed on my birthday in recent years. i think the main reason for this is that i have been growingh up. and the used-to-be happy festivals are no longer happy, just like new year 's day. i used to cheer this special day with my friends and relatives. but now i am finding that i am doing it on my own. i would not go out during these holidays. and i would probably choose to be alone. like last year. i went to karaoke alone and sang a lot of songs in the room without thinking about what other people would think about me. and i eat noodles alone. eating noodles alone on my birhday is a traditional habit in my country. which means u could live a longer life if u have noodles on your birthday. i had meals with a lot of my guys when i was younger. but i now choose to have it on my own . i do not know what is wrong with me. maybe i am being aged. i have just done a psychological test. which told me that i had been 35. while actually i am only 24. really weird. so what am i gonna do with next incoming birthday then?????????????????

It is my Birthday next month and already I am starting to not look forward to it. I don't even know why. It is just another day. I think it is a reminder that life is not forever and things change whether we want them to or not. It is a time that as a kid you were suppose to look forward to because it was a 'big thing'. As we get older we wonder why we don't have those same feelings or we have a walk down memory lane and it stirs up old feelings. I think if you look around you, everything is as it was a week ago, you have not changed, you are not old, you are you. Happy Birthday it is said as though you are suppose to feel Happy. You do not have to feel happy so don't beat yourself up if you don't. Move on and focus on the now not what could have been or was. It is the day you were born nothing else, celebrate what you have now. All the best and I hope you soon feel better and yourself once again. I hope I take my own advice next month!!!

Hi there! I'm 34 & I've gotten the Birthday Blues for several years now. I don't answer the phone on my b-day. Sometimes I just go to work to give myself the impression that it's "just another day." I don't talk about it to anyone. I just hope no one will say anything about it ~ because it usually brings me to tears. I think that for me, a lot of it is that I'm unhappy with my (lack of) accomplishments. I feel like I should've accomplished more, experienced more, etc. Someone else said this, but I'm going to repeat it. Probably the best thing you can do for yourself is to surround yourself with friends. You can ignore the birthday itself, and whatever it means to you. But it should help to just be with someone you can have fun with & forget everything else for the time being. Go out for lunch with a friend ~ or to the mall ~ or whatever you like to do best! Since your birthday has already passed, the (negative) feelings should start to go away soon. And as they fade, you can set goals for yourself. Just little things like watching a movie you've been wanting to see, or reading a book that caught your eye. Btw ~ I'm like this about holidays in general. They bring back memories of my childhood ~ during which I suffered from physical & psychological abuse for 10 years. So anyway, I hope I have helped you at least a little. Happy birtday to you! I hope you will be thankful for the very fact that You Are Alive. It is a celebration of your birth and your existence. And I am happy that you are alive! And I trust that things will get better for you! Blessings, Gwen *******

I have gotten depressed over birthdays-especially the turning 30.Then when I turned 40 I did something really special with a party and I had my friends in my band play a couple of songs and just being myself.I think if you start feeling blue,plan something special for yourself,maybe just going away overnight with your partner \friend,doing a shopping spree etc.Dont think about the number your turning or what you may have or not done yet just know that there's no-one like you and have a great day.

I have always felt that way too, even when I was younger. I think that quarter century thing was about where it hit me... Anyway, try not to dwell on it, and spend as much time with your friends as you can. Hopefully it will pass quickly. By the way, Happy Birthday!

Any holiday is grounds for depression for many people. Make sure to take extra special care of yourself during those down times - even pamper yourself. Get a massage or take a "mini-vacation". Spend time with those you most enjoy being around. Be sure to laugh and experience as much of the positive as you can.

Probably it has less to do with your birthday and more to do with the feeling that you need to celebrate your birthday as you did as a child and not finding the right reasons to celebrate it ? I don't feel depressed on my birthdays because I am around friends and family ,well, at least friends when I am away from my family.I suggest you plan your celebrations a month or two before your birthday.Invite your friends over and celebrate it just like you would have celebrated when you were young.I am sure with good friends around you will enjoy the day rather than being depressed over it.

My birthday is a month away and i've been thinking about it, I don't really get upset be I keeping thiunking of a time when I was in my twenties I want to be there again. I got ill a few years ago and it took me atleast 2 years to get completely well so, I don't remember alot about those years and sometimes it stuns me I have passed 35 for I am thinking I am still that age. Weird, I know. On my b'day I usually spend sometime with myself, writing in my journal, treating myself to something special and just reflecting on the past year. Why we feel melancholy is the fact that we are getting older, things are passing us by, even our children are growing up, some leaving home. Take heed, because you are still on the land of the living.

Four years ago, I got depressed on my birthday because the most important person in my life neglected me. Although he had his own reason, a very important reason, I felt he doesn't really love me at all. A person's birthday is one of the signigicant days to remember and to celebrate. I understood he made his job his priority. But that hurt me.

I believe I do know what you're talking about. I actually battled depression throughout most of my life (even as a child) but it used to hit me quite hard on my birthdays. There was a type of expectation on those days that was based upon how great or not-so-great the "celebration of my birth" was (i.e. my birthday). It was like if the birthday celebration wasn't that great, I thought my birth into this world or myself as an individual was not that important. Or basically, I was some kind of a loser because everyone wasn't celebrating this "great" day. This was not so obvious to me until I really did some soul searching. I think for me it was basically because I had a sense of not being content with my life. My life wasn't horrible but I just didn't have peace within and I actually felt dread around my birthday. When there is a lack of peace within ourselves, it surfaces throughout different areas of our life and has a tendency to worsen as we grow older if we don't get a handle on it when we're younger. For me, my answer was spiritual and it was gradual. There was no immediate overnight cure or revelation. I had to learn to accept myself and know that there was a purpose for my coming into this world and that I was a loved and valued human being. I had to realize that we all have a purpose and not to be focused so much on or jealous of the gifts and callings of others but to realize how my own gifts and callings were just as important and needed. I no longer suffer with depression on my birthdays and I do have peace and joy that flows from within. I wish the same for you on every future birthday and everyday.

Birthday blues can be for many reasons. Maybe you don't feel like you have accomplished what you wanted by this point in your life? It is easy to have had dreams of where you would be or what you would have achieved at a certain age. But, life has a way of stepping in and changing what your dreams are. If this is your situation, please allow yourself to adjust your dreams to more achievable ones. You deserve it. Happy Birthday!

As year passes we feel ourself mature n celebrating birthday seems a child play.you should recall the memories of your childhood,how u were feeling during these b days.coz the way we think is the way we feel,think young n feel young...n the most imp tip mix up with more kids n spend times with them coz this will always make u feel that u r young.......................

probably the reasons are obvious. We are getting old, time has gone faster than we think and yet we haven't reach any of our goals yet. No one remember our birthday or someone who are close to us doesn't even remember our birthday. Birthday is a special occasion for everyone and you have a reason why you get depressed if no one remember it. I would rather prefer if no one knows about my birthday. :) normally, i will just go to my favorite fast food / restaurant and treat myself a good meal. Buy myself a new clothing. :) That's more than enough for me. But im grateful enough since my parents remember my birthday every year.

You are not alone I would say. This is a very common problem or rather I would say a state of thinking. Its all up in your mind, the way you approach your life. Most common is for the people to start feeling getting old after the age of 25. Yes.. crossing that 25 year mark has become like a pschycological benchmark for being old or young. But I have seen people who are in their 40's and still live their life to fullest just like any 20's something would so.. So i would say forget the fact abt getting your age counter increased by 1 and enjoy it to the MAX !!

no... on my birthdays i never felt depress, because in this kind of days i usualy have fun with my friends and my family , and i feel great