my 16 year old

In my case, I have been through this. Sometimes I get lazy and dont want to clean, but you have to lead by example. YOu can't ask your daughter to do what you yourself aren't willing to do. That is what she is seeing. So, it is important to step it up a bit and start cleaning and set the example. Then she can see that you are doing it and that this is what is expected of her. Have a sit down, tell her that if you did it together, it would get done quicker and you can motivate each other to do it. She is obviously not lazy when she is at work. Which means she has clear and concise instruction there, she has guidelines to follow. That might help as well. Good luck!

If the cause is from her waiting for you to make the first move, then make the first move. I'm sure she'll follow your lead; especially if you offer some small token of your appreciation. She might be looking for attention. So, what I'd do is offer to help her clean the kitchen, she does dishes and you'll mop the floor; then offer the invite to make a cake together and clean as you go, like she does at work anyway. In the living room, have her vaccum and you dust or put things away; then, offer to sit down and watch a movie with her. The laundry is simple too, you wash and dry, and she folds, then you both put them away separately. Hope this helps somehow! Lots of luck.

I have the same problem. I hate housework too. Do you amd your daughter by any chance suffer from attention deficit? I do and have found that when I take a med that it is much easier to get things done. I am able to focus.

i think she depends on you very much in household chores. just continue to ask like "would now be a good time to help me?" if she doesn't just respect her decision and who knows maybe one day she'll come around and realize that she has to do things for it is her responsibility. don't nag. it will just make things worse and make rebels out of it. be kind, gentle and patient.

well you answered the question of why lol. kids tend to do what they see as they are growing up. not al the time but sometimes yes. she knows you dont like doing it and will let it go so therefore she thinks ok cool i dont need to do it either. things that we see as not a big deal in life sometimes drive us nuts later. sometimes though it is a stage. my kids at one point figured they didnt want the allowance so they were not going to clean well that was fine at first then i relized i had alot of cleaning to do cause they no longer cared how big of a mess tehy made since mom would clean it. after about 2 weeks i got tired of it and well i went on strike. so did hubby. the kids were really confused. i wouldnt cook, clean, nothing. they got stuck with sandwhiches since they were only like 7 and 9 at the time. they ran out of clean towels and tehy started getting worried and all. but the kicker was when they rean out of unerware. that is when they decided that cleanign might be a good idea. lol. it sounds liek though she has hit that stage of most teens and just has more important things to do and figures mom will do it. the best thing you can do is talk to her and explain why you are worried. from other discussions y0ou have had she sounds like a good kid and will probably have no issues with talking to you.

At age 16, your daughter should be helping around the house. I would take away privledges if she isn't willing to contribute to house work. Although it does sound as if she is taking after you, since you said you are lazy when it comes to housework. Maybe you should make an agreement with her thatyou will take one weeknight when she doesn't work, and the two of you will clean together. My kids all have the responsibility of cleaning their own rooms, bringing their laundry to the laundry room and putting it away when it is cleaned and they also clean their own dishes at dinner time. If I need something else done around the house and they put it off, then when it comes time for them to hang out with their friends I don't let them go until the chore is done that I had asked them to do. Talk to her and work out a schedule that is agreeable to both of you.

Children tend to follow the examples of their parents. If you don't want your child to be lazy you need to set a good exacmple by behaving the way you want your child to behave. Maybe if your children see you doing something, they will follow your positive example. Otherwise you are setting a negative example,

it sounds like your daughter might be taking after you.she has watched you be lazy doing the housework so now she thinks that its okay for her to be the same way.maybe if you try not to be lazy on the housework she will pick up on that after all our kids learn from us.

I wouldn't worry about this as she is a teenager and I don't know a teenager alive that won't get into some habit that you won't like . I wouldn't worry that this is who she will be when she is older . When you get worried about things like this ,you can try doing what I do and focus on what she could be doing instead at 16 . It sounds to me like you are doing a really good job with her if this is all you have to worry about as there is so many worse habits she could have at this age and chances are she will outgrow this later on . Take Care :)

It's normal for teens to be that way. But I think since you admitted that you are quite lazy yourself, maybe she's thinking that it's okay not to work around the house because you don't do chores much too. They say that parents are the role models of their children. If you have been this way since her younger years, she must have gotten the habit from what she observed from you. What you do is what your children will do. Maybe it's high time to put some order in the house and show her that you are seriously willing to change your ways so she can follow too. It doesn't help that you wish that she doesn't end up like you, you have to do something about it by starting the changes within yourself and your ways first. Goodluck! :)

I have the same problem, I'm not so sure it is as much laziness as it is disorganization. I have tried a number of different methods for getting the house under control. All of them will work IF you stick to them. The real core of all of them is to have a schedule and stick to it. I know I personally tend to be a mountain builder------see some crumbs on the carpet, think I need to drag out the vacuum and really do a big job of vacuuming, then I look and say, wow, I really need to dust----and all those knick-knacks need washed, so do the walls and the ceiling, and do those lights and fans need cleaned. See what I mean?? Now, when I have a schedule I can just sweep up the crumbs with a wisk broom and not worry cause the rest of that stuff is on the schedule and will get done. In your case I would sit with your daughter and work out the schedule, involving her will help her, and her realizing what the problem is [disorganization and lack of schedule will help. Good luck!

I can understand about the lazy ness I have a 16 yr. old son and he does not like to even clean his room so we tell him that if he cleans his room then we will give him a allowance or by him a game all I can suggest is to find out what youre daughter likes or money and tell her that if she helps you then you will either pay her or get her some things.

Your the parent, make her clean. When you get up and start working, make her do it with you. Assign her specific tasks and insist that they be done imediatley. Even if she does have a job. Do you have one? If you do, don't you have to clean the house anyway? Don't let her use that as an excuse. Offer incentives too. Say some thing like, "ok, lets get this stuff done and then we'll go and....." Does she have certain porivilages? Like driving your car? Tell her she can't do it untill her things are done

Well, she is 16 and obviously has a mind of her own, but you are still the parent. You make the rules and when you tell her to do something she needs to be reminded to show some respect for you. I am a mother of a 1 year old, so I am not speaking from experience, but when I was a kid and young adult I was expected to do what I was told. I think it is great that your daughter is doing so well at her job. It is also important for her to learn how to balance job-work with home-work (chores) because when she is out of you house she will need to have the time management skills to make both parts function. I am trying to balance work, housekeeping and raising a 1 year old and it is hard to do it all.

well, suggest that you will pay her to do some of the house work. dont clean her things and make her do it herself.

I think that many teenagers are that way, and worst of all the teenagers who create a big mess in the first place! I know there are some people whose mother does everything for them so they don't even bother bringing plates to the sink, or putting things in the bin.

I do not think that u need to worry. First of all, she is a teen and teens dont always do what u want them to do. 2,nd u cant really ask her to do something you dont do yourself. IF u start doing it i am sure that she will as well!

I don't know what to tell you. My daughter who is 10 is a great help. I usually do all my housework at once. I turn on the music and we whip through the house. The only thing you could do is say fine if you aren't going to help you can't go out with your friends or something like that.

if you're so worried that it is a problem then why don't you change and be a good rolemodle to her? I don't mean that in a horrible way, just that if you think you are lazy then how is she supposed to know what normal is. She is just a normal teen.. me and my brothers were always terrible at cleaning, my brother's new flat is a pig sty but it doesn't bother him. If living messey suits both of you then there's nothing to worry about.

Your the one in charge of her. Make her do something that deals with house work. Make her do sports that make her work hard. She knows that you are lazy so she thinks that it is ok. Banks619 see you later.