Friend requests
By winky73
@winky73 (1404)
United States
April 16, 2007 8:56am CST
I had not been on here for a couple of days and this morning when I logged in I had several friends requests.
All of them are fairly new members and none of them have ever responded to any of my discussions or have I ever responded to any of theirs.
When I first started....I picked my friends because I liked the responses they gave me or they had some discussions posted that I found interesting and I actually had something in comman with them.
Seems like a lot of new members are just picking people at random to give friend requests to and I hate to say this.....but if I have nothing in comman with them....I will deny it.
How do you feel about that and how did you choose your friends?
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6 responses
@rosie_123 (6113)
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16 Apr 07
Well actually I am like you in that regard. I cannot see the point of having "friends" if you are not going to have anything in common with them. At first, when I first started on MyLot, I tended to accept everybody, because I didn't know how the system worked, but now I check every request very carefully before I accept a friend request, and if I don't like the poster's discussions, or comments, or feel we have nothing in common, I will deny them. I have also been quite harsh in deleting friends lately if they have never responded to me, or I feel uncomfortable with anything they have posted. I would rather have fewer, good friends, than be drowned in endless email notifications of the ridiculous "Wot is Ur Favrit Colour?" variety!
@winky73 (1404)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I know what you mean.I had a couple people like that on my friends list as well and it gets really boring after a while.I think the worst one was 20 discussions started by one person in a day and none of them had any real content....besides something like what you already wrote.I mean....what's the point in that?
@theponch (198)
• United States
16 Apr 07
I asked to be your friend because I saw the beagle puppy you used as your avatar. I looked over the discussions you've started and one of them were about the tatoos. I actually have 13. If you go to the discussions I've started you'll see the pictures next to my questions (topics). I thought we had things in common and you bring up good ideas, that is why I asked you to be a friend. I didn't think I did any thing wrong in this. Sorry if I have been the one to offend you.
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@winky73 (1404)
• United States
16 Apr 07
I'm so sorry....I did not mean you in particular.I did have several other friend requests today as well and those are the ones I was talking about.You did nothing wrong at all and again I'm very sorry for making you feel like that way.I hope you would still like to be my friend....because I read your profile and you are absolutely right....we do have a few things in comman.
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@Bizziebod (3497)
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10 May 07
I'm with you on this winky, most of the friends requests I get are from newbies that haven't answered my questions and find it's a bit bizzare as to how they have come across me. If it's someone who has responded to my question, then I do wait awhile to see if we have anything in common before accepting or denying them. I also deny those who have more friends than they could possibly be faithful to also. Sounds harsh I know, but I would rather have quality rather than quantity when it comes to friends!
@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I tend to do the same thing. I only have about 14 or 15 friends and I'm fine with that. I do have a couple of friends that have never responded to any of my discussions even though I have responded to theirs but that's okay, too. They may not like my discussions, but I like thiers so I'll leave it that way.
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@winky73 (1404)
• United States
17 Apr 07
If someone has really good discussion topics that I can respond to....then I can see why I would want them on my friends list and I do have a few like that.It's the ones that never respond or only have topics that you can answer with a single word who bother me.I mean....what's the point in that?
I know it sounds harsh.....but I rather spent time with a good discussion then with something that has absolutely no meaning.A friend to me is someone I can share things with and I value their opinion on things that matter to me and them.A friendship should be based on give and take and not just a oneway street.If I have nothing to offer to someone....why would they want me on their friends list and vise versa.It just doesn't make any sense to me.
@mamakat0 (209)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I know that you are already my friend and I believe I am yours. It is just that with school starting yesterday and finding out I was sent the wrong book it is hard for me to try and answer everyone. But trust me, when I get notified in my email that one of my friends have started a discussion that I will try to answer it. Sorry if I am too slow in answering, but with everything with the school it was after midnight before I got in the bed.
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@winky73 (1404)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I like having you as a friend and it's okay if you don't always have time to respond....or if sometimes the subject doesn't interest you.I've had several friends request from new users and when I went to check their profile.....they became a member just a few hours ago.....but they already have hundreds of people on their friends list.
My guess is....they just send friend request to a bunch of people at random....thinking that they will make more money that way.I don't pick my friends that way....because to me....that's not what friends are for.
@Zorrogirl (1502)
• South Africa
26 May 07
it also happens to me. i mainly respond to friends discussions and that is how they get you. to get more responses. one guy invited me twice, and havent responded to anything i wrote.
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@winky73 (1404)
• United States
27 May 07
Don't feel bad....I had the same person send me new invites everytime I denied them.The discussions this person had started held absolutely no interest for me and they never responded to even one of mine.So what's the point.....why would they want me on their friends list?I just don't get it.By the way I added you to mine.....thanks for asking me to be on yours.
