would you/ could you marry just for money?
By amylou8521
@amylou8521 (324)
April 16, 2007 3:24pm CST
A close friend of mine has recently had a marriage proposal, however its not for love, or romance or even because she has met her soul mate, her partner may be in love with her, however she doesnt feel the same.
She is considering the proposal though as he is extremely well off and would never have to work again if she did marry him, but the feeling is just not there.
What would you do?
To be completely honest i can say that i wouldnt think about it but when it came to the crunch i would decline, but i am in a situation at the moment where love means so much more than money, so i would wait for the right person.
What do you think?
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15 responses
@amylou8521 (324)
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20 Apr 07
lol not a good idea then! Yes i believe golddiggers is a term used in these instances! You are quite money does not buy happiness, but then i am sure there are some people would argue this point, i love to hear all sides or opinions.
Thanks for the comment :)
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@wonderverb (152)
• Canada
16 Apr 07
How much money are we talking exactly...I could force myself to love someone if there are enough zeros.
On second thought, no I wouldn't!! My wife would soak me dry in divorce court...lol I forgot I'm already married.
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@amylou8521 (324)
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16 Apr 07
hahaha that made me chuckle! well... theres always been married to several women at the same time! now thats a whole new discussion!!
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
17 Apr 07
even though someone would propose to me because he likes me and he is rich.I wouldn't marry him as long as i don't feel the same.
I would feel so unhappy.I'd rather choose no money than being unhappy.
It's about love right?Money is not love.I'd rather wait for the right person.Maybe it will take years maybe not.
So i think your totally right
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@darthboard (229)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
I have know people who married for convenience, then later regretted the decision. In my case, I really cannot tell. If you have someone to marry who is a well-to-do person, and you love the person, it's a very perfect situation. Money can buy anything but for love and happiness. And if marrying just for money will bring pain and suffering, ending up regretting the decision, I would rather be a celibate all my life.
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@letzap519 (408)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
to be honest this situation is very tempting... because poverty was wide spreaded nowadays... it's one of the huge problems of our society... but this is not a solution to escape from poverty or from striving hard to earn..... maybe this will resolve your financial need but this may cause for more problems to arise...never stop believing that trials are common to our lives...a way to test our faith in GOD & a way to test our love for our family and strength as we face these trials...there's always hope..never stop striving and praying always have faith in GOD...we should always be honest also to our feelings...GOD bless
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@freestyler001 (2)
• India
17 Apr 07
Well,. I believe in me. This will never happen with me O:)
When you love someone.. there is nothing, you 'll need than your true love :)
and yeah,.. hardwork leads to success....
@jessycardy (684)
• Italy
17 Apr 07
I could never ever marry someone just for the money... It would make me feel like a hooker and anyway it's not something I want to do. I wanna be able to feel proud of myself at the end of the day, not like someone who just steals money from someone else... No, thanks!
@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
16 Apr 07
Marrying someone for their money is not something I could do. In my opinion its wrong to make the other person think something that is not true. Its the same as lying to the person your considering marrying. I would definately wait for love before accepting anyones marriage proposal.
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@terallion (37)
• India
20 Apr 07
Money has its importance in life. But, money is not everything. Hence, in relationships, money should not be given top priority. Especially in marriages, what should be considered is compatibility. If two persons are compatible, they can brave all ups and downs of life with ease. If a marriage is performed only on financial considerations, it would not be a very successful marriage. Because, in life a lot of problems have to be faced which cannot be solved with money.
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Although the idea of "being rich" and never having to worry about money problems is appealing, i dont think i could ever marry JUST for money, there would have to be something else there. I mean I would be really happy if I fell in love with a rich guy, but I couldnt just marry for money. Money doesnt garuntee a happy life.
It's good that the guy loves you friend, because he'll treat her right, but she should at least have loving feelings towards him.
@amylou8521 (324)
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16 Apr 07
Yes i know what you mean, wouldnt it be great though, a rich guy, who adored you, but who you also felt the same for, what more could you want lol!
Thanks for you're reply :)
@piropos (312)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
Sounds like a good plot for a soap opera! But no, I guess when you are the one caught up in this kind of situation, it would be really hard to do the right things. And I guess too, that you and your friend, would like to do the right thing. The truth is, you may or may not believe me, I went through the same grind, and you know what, I chose to be with the one I love who is not well off as the other woman, and again, guess what, I am happy! Of course not all the time, specially when I am feeling low because I couldn't provide for everything that my family needs, but still, the fundamental option that I chose, that is to love and marry my wife, doesn't change at all. So, is it money or love? One advise that I got and never forgot is this: know what you are leaving behind and know too, what you are going into. This way, no regrets later.
@amylou8521 (324)
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20 Apr 07
I think mine has already appeared, luckily im a firm believer in love, as i am currently experiencing it first hand, and have done for the past 3 years! I dont think i could marry for money but id be lying if i said i wouldnt have a think about it!
thank you :)
@charlestchan (1415)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 07
yes.. i agree with your friend.. nothing but money.. i know i might sound a little money minded.. but ..we are living in this realistic world.. we just have no choice.. but to be more realistic.. we're no longer a kid.. we don't live in dreamland.. and live with our fairy tales... this is what we call a living :P .. don't mind me okay ? .. i just have to agree with one of the side
@amylou8521 (324)
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20 Apr 07
Thank you, its nice to here an opinion out of the majority, its good to know some people dont agree with everyone
@pamilicious (265)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 07
i wont be able to live peacefully if i did marry someone for money. its just not right and although the other person's head over heels inlove with you the right thing to do is to reject the wedding proposal. but everyone's got their own opinion. for me waiting for the right person to fall inlove with is what i want and if he happens to be rich, then lucky me! hehe
@roshnichaudhary (1160)
• United States
17 Apr 07
Hi !
You're right someone shouldnot marry anyone because of money. Love is the factor which should be considered in these decisions. If the guy loves your friend too much then she should consider that otherwise no.