i have a bad best friend....

Well that too bad having a back fighter friend and the one that hurts more is the fact that you considered her as one of your siblings/sister. As far as I can remember, i never had a friend like that and if ever there would be, ill never spend a minute and ill confront her and right then and there cut the string that connects us because i would never call a person a friend if she/he betrays me.

If I were in your shoes I would confront my friend and then break the friendship. I won't be able to trust her after that and I can't be friends with someone I don't trust.

Right away, I think if you think she is your best friend and you know her better call a meeting and sit down with her and talk about every issue that you have. DO not accuse her but ask her if what you both have comt to know is true or not as her behavior hsa left you both really disturbed. call the meeting at either of your houses and clear the matter up, thats what best friends are supposed to do.

its very disappointing to know that after all those years, there will come a time that a friend that you treat truly, very sincerely and that you also thought that she is also but eventually this time she show her real attitude and who she really is. You realize that she is not a genuine friend. It really hurts because you treat her as bestfriend and you found she was just pretending only to be a good friend. im still hoping she will realize everything and she will change her bad attitude and ask for forgiveness.

I think the best way is to confront your 2nd friend regarding the bad humors that came from your other friends.It is good to know from her if she had done it on purpose or just for the sake of making some humors to shared with.Then if she confess the truth of having the author of the humors then ask her if what was her motives.In that case you should be careful with her in sharing your secrets and if she ask your forgiveness and pledge not to do it again why not giving her another chance.Real friends nowadays is very hard to find.Just be friends forever.

Yes,let us keep caution even if with our friends.Remember in this world we can trust some people but this people are very seldom.If we want to share secrets with otner people let us keep one eye open.

Oh I do think that as your second friend has turned bad on your first friend and started rumours that you had best stay away from her as she does not seem to be a good friend after all and if someone ask you about this you can either deny it or tell them yes I did but that was in the past and we have changed now. I do hope that you get something good out of this as everybody does something wrong when they are young and deserve a second chance.

i have a bad best friend too.... we were together since highschool.. then when we went to college together, we went to the same school... we even enrolled in the same course.... we are very very close to each other.. then one day I got a boyfriend... the group was so excited and happy for me because it was my first time to have a boyfriend... it was really exciting.. then this good friend of mine was introduced to my boyfriend... since she was the only friend of ours who doesnt have a boyfriend at that time, with no malice i always took her wherever we go with my boyfriend.. my boyfriend and bestfriend became close, they even treated each other as brother and sister... but i never thought that after a while it was already a different thing... my group of friends were even wondering how come there was something fishy that was happening already.. they even confronted me... at first i didn't want to believe them... then when i myself discovered the fishy thing, i was very hurt and i even fainted... my boyfriend and my bestfriend got involved.... that was the kind of bad best friend i had..

The very thing you are wrong is speak ill of others ,no matter who is you cann't speak ill of others , you 4 are best friend ,and except you your friends also have other friends , imagine if you friend speak bad humors in front of you, what's you feeling ? no one like her friend speak her other friends ill . You may make friends with you parents ,if your friend speak ill of you parents ,what will you do ,maybe you never want to speak with you friends ,make you will quarral with her ,so stop to speak ill of others . if you cann't help them please don't hurt them .

I don't have such kind of friend and I have never had one before. I think both of you should try and talk to the second friend in a friendly manner (don't be harsh to her)and let her know you guys are not happy the way your relationship is going, try to let her know what friends really are, know that honesty is one of the best ingredient of friendship and above all, as you said; pray for her so that everything will be alright. Thanks, have a nice day and God bless you.

It may be so after being so close friends for such a long time. Maybe this is just a misunderstanding and will settle down soon enough. Yes I had a friend once who started to tell some insults and really bad stuff about me and I don't know why it became so. Just try too kep really good friends. :)

Like you I have 2 best friends that we shared a lot of things and supports each other eventhough right now we often get to see each other. But back when we were in high school like an ordinary students we do a lot of things together may it be for studying or doing naughty things. But gladly we never experience something like that as with the three of you. A little advice for you is you should confront your friend about the situation the 3 of you should have a talk on what's going on. So that you'll be able to help your friend who have done that and same as your other friend who is involved. Maybe afterwards you'll be able to clear all the mess between your friendship and start a new one.

yes sure u can have...after all bad ppl do have friends..thieves honour....gangsters men who wud give their life for boss...best friend just means that he has been ur for friend for long.....its ur choice how u cchoose and keep ur friends....but yes u can try to improve him...help him as a good frnd...

I don't have that friends.If she don't satisfact with you,she can tell you on face.Friends should tell every thing sincerely.I think you can talk with them to sovel the problem.

Well, I am sorry for you both. And thankfully, I do not have a friend like that at all. I don't know how I would handle them whatsoever.

I would not have a friend like that. Because that is not a friend. A friend does not go around saying bad things about you. If they have anything to say about you they say it to your face never behind your back. That is sneaky and mean/

She doesn't sound like much of a friend. That's one thing I can't tolerate from a friend. I think you are doing the right thing by praying for her though. That is a very Christian like example. She may be very insecure and that is why she does it. I think confronting her about it is a good idea too. As a friend you should be able to talk to each other about anything.

girls like gossiping.just let her know how you feel about the words she said.if she really cares about you she will quit it and say sorry.

i think she isn't a good friend ,the friend should be honest relatively,tells yours viewpoint to her,perhaps she can change,everybody has makes the mistake,therefore she also is may forgive,but if she doesn't correct,you should not make the friend with her.

Well evreyone would probably handle this different except I would of confronted her right away because thats what a man would normally do so I dont know how a woman would handle this. I figure if the friend is talking about you behind your back and the other friends back then theres no need in keeping a friendship with someone like that. Its like the old saying go's: With friends like that who needs enemies! Thats very true in my eyes because we as people we tend to trust our closes friends with secrets and everything so to have talk behind your back would tell me that person is not very trust worthy or reliable. In this day and age who needs all that kind of stuff so I say cut the ropes and end that friendship.