AndyJ1

@AndyJ1 (12)

Age 69

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Nursing Home

AndyJ1 @AndyJ1 (12) 19 Mar 08

Anyone know how to break the news to a loved one (my elderly mother) that she has to go into a nursing home? It's going to break her heart. She moved in with me last summer - totally independant - had a fall at Christmas, went...

breaking bad news

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AndyJ1 not sure the nurses have a complete idea any more. I can understand they are busy, and deal with the elderly day in and day out, but they seem to label everyone over 80 years old as the same. Mum has a personality, is a proud person and has an opinion. Until...

20 Mar 08

Nursing Home

AndyJ1 @AndyJ1 (12) 19 Mar 08

Anyone know how to break the news to a loved one (my elderly mother) that she has to go into a nursing home? It's going to break her heart. She moved in with me last summer - totally independant - had a fall at Christmas, went...

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AndyJ1 doesn't seem to work like that in england! had a major arguement with the hospital today. they have a bed crisis so want to put mum in a temporary home - tomorrow - a home of their choice not mine, and not close to where i live. after that it will be up to me...

20 Mar 08

Nursing Home

AndyJ1 @AndyJ1 (12) 19 Mar 08

Anyone know how to break the news to a loved one (my elderly mother) that she has to go into a nursing home? It's going to break her heart. She moved in with me last summer - totally independant - had a fall at Christmas, went...

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AndyJ1 Unfortunately very few elderly people have private insurance, and rely on the good old NHS. It is now at the point that she is "medically fit" and so needs to be discharged from hospital. As she is too frail to get about by herself she can't come home so...

19 Mar 08

Nursing Home

AndyJ1 @AndyJ1 (12) 19 Mar 08

Anyone know how to break the news to a loved one (my elderly mother) that she has to go into a nursing home? It's going to break her heart. She moved in with me last summer - totally independant - had a fall at Christmas, went...

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AndyJ1 I know you are right - but it is difficult being hard when she is confused and tearful.When I told her she wasn't allowed out of hospital until she was up and about and able to walk to the toilet, she told me to leave her there to die!! Long sulks followed...

19 Mar 08

Nursing Home

AndyJ1 @AndyJ1 (12) 19 Mar 08

Anyone know how to break the news to a loved one (my elderly mother) that she has to go into a nursing home? It's going to break her heart. She moved in with me last summer - totally independant - had a fall at Christmas, went...

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2 people

AndyJ1 Yes - I think all old people see nursing homes as the place they are sent to so they can be forgotten about and die!! I've been through the "you can't cope on your own" routine, but she insists that if she wasn't in hospital with everyone ordering her around...

19 Mar 08