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girljar @girljar (287) • United States 7 Jan 08

I am going to tell my husband I want a divorce, but I don't know if I should wait until a)I talk to my therapist, b)We are in a better financial situation (about a month) c)He finds a job in Indiana d)We kick our tenants out of...

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girljar I think you are right about waiting until I talk to my therapist. I worry about how this will affect him, since he is already battling depression. I guess battling is not the correct word, since battling something means you're doing something about it, and...

8 Jan 08

girljar @girljar (287) • United States 7 Jan 08

I am going to tell my husband I want a divorce, but I don't know if I should wait until a)I talk to my therapist, b)We are in a better financial situation (about a month) c)He finds a job in Indiana d)We kick our tenants out of...

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girljar Yes, he goes to therapy separately, by himself. I am sure; it's just very scary for me. But, I did leave him last January, and lived on my own with my 17 year old daughter for 6 months. During that time, I felt more free and content, and at peace than I ever...

8 Jan 08

girljar @girljar (287) • United States 7 Jan 08

I am going to tell my husband I want a divorce, but I don't know if I should wait until a)I talk to my therapist, b)We are in a better financial situation (about a month) c)He finds a job in Indiana d)We kick our tenants out of...

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girljar Wow. I care enough for him that I want to make it as easy as I can for him. I won't wait forever, because I do want to get on with my life, and be free to start trying to find someone else to spend my life with. Thank you for your response.

8 Jan 08

girljar @girljar (287) • United States 7 Jan 08

I am going to tell my husband I want a divorce, but I don't know if I should wait until a)I talk to my therapist, b)We are in a better financial situation (about a month) c)He finds a job in Indiana d)We kick our tenants out of...

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girljar Thank you for your response. My therapist back home has been telling me for years that I have outgrown my husband. I am a recovering alcoholic, and have been sober now for 5 years. In my recovery, I have grown as a person, and that's what he means by...

8 Jan 08

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girljar @girljar (287) • United States 6 Jan 08

I have been married for 21 years. Our marriage was built on a lie, in that I broke up with him, and he started crying (literally), so I married him. I was only 19. We have 2 kids, ages 18 and 14. I left him a year ago, and...

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girljar I can totally relate to your losing respect for him for his weakness. Over the years, I have gotten to where certain things he does just make my blood boil. Like when he's hungry, he says he's 'weak'. Just ticks me off. I'm thinking, "oh for crying out loud!...

7 Jan 08

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girljar @girljar (287) • United States 6 Jan 08

I have been married for 21 years. Our marriage was built on a lie, in that I broke up with him, and he started crying (literally), so I married him. I was only 19. We have 2 kids, ages 18 and 14. I left him a year ago, and...

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girljar I gave him a last chance when he came to Florida. Our marriage has never really been good; I slept on the couch many times during our first 6 months of marriage because he constantly rejected me when I was 'in the mood'. That went on for about 15 years, before...

7 Jan 08

girljar @girljar (287) • United States 6 Jan 08

I have been married for 21 years. Our marriage was built on a lie, in that I broke up with him, and he started crying (literally), so I married him. I was only 19. We have 2 kids, ages 18 and 14. I left him a year ago, and...

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girljar Thanks for your advice.

7 Jan 08

girljar @girljar (287) • United States 6 Jan 08

I have been married for 21 years. Our marriage was built on a lie, in that I broke up with him, and he started crying (literally), so I married him. I was only 19. We have 2 kids, ages 18 and 14. I left him a year ago, and...

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girljar Thank you for your response.

7 Jan 08

girljar @girljar (287) • United States 6 Jan 08

I have been married for 21 years. Our marriage was built on a lie, in that I broke up with him, and he started crying (literally), so I married him. I was only 19. We have 2 kids, ages 18 and 14. I left him a year ago, and...

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girljar I think the reason I resent him so much for his crying (I have seen him cry many times, over the years, just not like this) is because that was why I married him. I guess, cold hearted as it may sound, I feel like a man shouldn't cry like that. Don't get me...

7 Jan 08

girljar @girljar (287) • United States 6 Jan 08

I have been married for 21 years. Our marriage was built on a lie, in that I broke up with him, and he started crying (literally), so I married him. I was only 19. We have 2 kids, ages 18 and 14. I left him a year ago, and...

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girljar I really want him to find hapiness, too. I don't want him to grow old alone, but I'm not going to stay with him just because I feel sorry for him. I've already done that for 21 years. I doubt he will remarry, because he doesn't want to put in the effort to...

6 Jan 08

girljar @girljar (287) • United States 6 Jan 08

I have been married for 21 years. Our marriage was built on a lie, in that I broke up with him, and he started crying (literally), so I married him. I was only 19. We have 2 kids, ages 18 and 14. I left him a year ago, and...

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girljar Thank you for your response. It is my husband that will be moving, not me. I love where I am, and I love my job. He hates it here, and all of his family and friends are in Indiana. My family is there, too, but it doesn't bother me to be away from them. Also,...

6 Jan 08

girljar @girljar (287) • United States 6 Jan 08

I have been married for 21 years. Our marriage was built on a lie, in that I broke up with him, and he started crying (literally), so I married him. I was only 19. We have 2 kids, ages 18 and 14. I left him a year ago, and...

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girljar Thank you so much for your advice. I might just do that, because everytime I need to tell someone something, I always walk away with a million things I had wanted to say, but forgot.

6 Jan 08

girljar @girljar (287) • United States 6 Jan 08

I have been married for 21 years. Our marriage was built on a lie, in that I broke up with him, and he started crying (literally), so I married him. I was only 19. We have 2 kids, ages 18 and 14. I left him a year ago, and...

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girljar Thank you for your understanding and support. It is much appreciated.

6 Jan 08

girljar @girljar (287) • United States 6 Jan 08

I have been married for 21 years. Our marriage was built on a lie, in that I broke up with him, and he started crying (literally), so I married him. I was only 19. We have 2 kids, ages 18 and 14. I left him a year ago, and...

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girljar You are so sweet. That does indeed sound like my marriage. We do sleep in the same bed, and on occasion, satisfy each other's most basic physical need, but there is no passion there-NONE whatsoever. Thank you so much for your advice, and for the perspective of...

6 Jan 08

anniepa @anniepa (27955) • United States 20 Nov 07

I know I risk sounding like a dummy but I don't care, it won't be the first time and I'm sure it won't be the last! I was trying to place a banner on my profile here on myLot but I'm not sure how to do it. I assume we can do that,...

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girljar Sorry it took me so long to get back with you on this. But, if you still need it, here goes: 1. Click 'add content' on the right hand side of your profile. 2. Select 'sortie container' 3. Select how many columns you want-I use 2 columns for banners. 4....

27 Nov 07

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girljar @girljar (287) • United States 24 Nov 07

What time did you eat Thanksgiving dinner? We went to my aunt's house, and she said we would eating around 5:00-it was after 9:00 before we ate! It was good, and I enjoyed spending time with my family, but my husband was a bit...

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girljar At least you were ablet to be with family, and share a meal together. That's what's really important. Sounds like you had a nice time, anyway. I feel sorry for people who don't have any family, or who are away from their family on the holidays. When I was in...

24 Nov 07

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