oneilldubberke

@oneilldubberke (28)

United States • Age 63

Joined myLot 13 years ago

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DIVORCE! What's the Positive nd Negative Aspect of it

Ley @dsw313 (320) • Philippines 13 Aug 12

In my country, Divorce is not allowed. Only Annulment that has no guarantee if it will be granted or not. Filing an annulment will cost you PHP 150,000.00-200,000.00(regular) or much, much more higher just to get the freedom they...

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oneilldubberke I do not believe in divorce unless there is abuse involved or infidelity. Divorce has been used too many times to resolve conflict in a lazy relationship. What is amazing to me is that if you can't resolve your conflict with the ones you love, then what does...

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Physical or Emotional Abuse

Ley @dsw313 (320) • Philippines 13 Aug 12

Many women in our country or other part of the world are suffering from physical and emotional abuse, when your partner hurts you physically, it is also as painful as experiencing emotional/word abuse. What's your point of view...

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oneilldubberke Abusive relationships are everywhere. You may know someone who is abused and not even realize it. Most suffer in silence. Whether you are physically or emotionally abused it drags you down to little self worth. It is a type of mind control, making you believe...

15 Aug 12

People who keeps you down

blinjk @blinjk (617) • United States 13 Aug 12

There are lots of people who always keeps you down even if they are your own family.They hurt your feelings every time they tell that you can't and you have no guts. Hearing this makes your self-esteem low and your confidence.They...

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oneilldubberke I understand how hurtful that is for you. Family is where we look for encouragement and support. Unfortunately not all of us are blessed with such families. If we could change that for ourselves it would already be done and we would not be having this...

15 Aug 12

What to Make for Supper...Oh Wait there are Leftovers..GOOD.

Jshean20 @Jshean20 (14348) • Canada 14 Aug 12

I'm not one who finds much enjoyment in cooking, the less I have to do it the better! I will purposely prepare meals with a bit left over to put in the fridge for left overs for the next night. Do you have a lot of leftovers at...

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oneilldubberke I try hard not to make too much food because leftovers are not a favorite in my household. There are a few exceptions. Lasagna and chicken are big hits for the men in my house. As for me, I love taco salad after sitting for a day. It blends all the flavors...

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Your role as a wife..

angelkarah050182 @angelkarah050182 (4980) • Philippines 14 Aug 12

Let's say that not all wives are enjoying their roles as wives. Are there any complaints that you murmur or any regrets in being a wife? Share your view everyone. Happy myLotting!

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oneilldubberke If a woman does not enjoy the roles that come along with being a wife, then she should not have gotten married. The subject of not enjoying this role is much different then the occasional complaint that invades every marriage. I have been married for over...

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One more favor please.....

Katlady2 @Katlady2 (9904) • United States 14 Aug 12

My dear friends....I hope you don't mind....but I need more of your prayers and positive thoughts. Yesterday, I found out not only that my daughter is in the hospital, but also that Bill's 8 year old daughter had a seizure as she...

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oneilldubberke You have a lot going on in your family right now, my heart goes out to you! Tears will continue to fall, such a good release of tension but as hard as it may seem always find something positive. The Lord will always give you strength when asked. I tell you...

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mY fahther smokes!!!

Akibur @Akibur (28) • Bangladesh 14 Aug 12

My father is really a smoker....... he finishes 4-6 packet containing 20 cigars..... is there anyway to get him out from smoking??? I tried many times but didn't work.........

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oneilldubberke Unfortunately what you want and what your father wants are two different things. Ask yourself how you would feel if he would want you to stop doing something that you enjoy very much just because he wanted you to. Look at it from that point of view and it will...

14 Aug 12

She's a stuffed toy addict!

angelkarah050182 @angelkarah050182 (4980) • Philippines 14 Aug 12

My sister loves collecting some stuffed toys. Whenever she sees her favorite characters, she won't miss buying them. She couldn't say "no" to them. She's like adopting those stuffed toys. They are like her lifeless children. How...

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oneilldubberke When I was younger I loved to collect stuffed animals. Mostly any thing from the feline family. I had so many that I even had them hanging from my ceiling. I still have some of them, but they are just sitting in a storage box with the exception of a couple of...

14 Aug 12

They smell fear...

Toni @toniganzon (72553) • Philippines 14 Aug 12

Or do they? I'm referring to animals. Old people would tell me that animals have this distinct kind of sense and that is the sense to smell fear among people. One good example is when a dog tries to attack people. They said...

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oneilldubberke I have heard that same thing about smelling fear. I think it is more about your body language the anything they may smell. Some dogs do bite when threatened, but we must be aware that there are some dogs out there that are just mean and will bite without any...

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My stepson has a son that he has not seen in

kylanie @kylanie (1205) • United States 14 Aug 12

My stepson recently got his son to live with him well he has not seen him in a few years and never really was there for him the boys mom and grandmother tried to raise him but they did some things that was wrong they locked him in...

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oneilldubberke This is a difficult situation, but one that must not be ignored. This child is screaming for help and it sounds as if every one in his past would just shut him up by locking him in a closet. Children need love and discipline. He may be so traumatized from his...

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Kids are driving me mad!

CDCNichols @CDCNichols (28) • United States 14 Aug 12

Everyone woke up at 6:00am for no reason. My kids are upright just driving me mad. My oldest is asking tons of questions, hyper, wanting everything, picking on his baby brother, being nosey, and getting into everything. He will be...

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oneilldubberke Oh how I miss those days! I have four children and all are out except one. The days when my kids were little were the best days of my life! Hang on to all those days...the good and the no so good. You will treasure them one day. I had many days just as you...

14 Aug 12

Charge To Experience

visavis @visavis (5934) • Philippines 14 Aug 12

Hi there, In our life mistakes are always part in our daily life none of us exempted. Even in our family, friends, office and community mistakes are not expected when you will experience sometimes un-expected and sometimes...

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oneilldubberke We as the human race are continually making mistakes. No one can avoid it,thats true, but not all learn from the trials of life. That is what separates the successful from the, should I say not so successful people. You are only cheating yourself if you do not...

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Do you listen to music while cooking?

velentina @velentina (891) • Mauritius 14 Aug 12

I like listening to music while cooking. I have a small radio-cassette in my kitchen. In the morning when I wake up I put the radio on. There are beautiful songs played in the morning which really make my mood jovial. I also...

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oneilldubberke People who listen to music regularly tend to be happier in life. I love to listen to music when I do all my household chores. Keeps my energy and mood up and brings in an essence of cheer to the hum drum of chores. I learned the love of music as a child from...

14 Aug 12

I still can't figure out what I want to make for supper

SomeCowgirl @SomeCowgirl (32191) • United States 14 Aug 12

I was leaning more towards tortilla soup, but now I'm thinking chili. I'm not much of a chili person but that's basically because of the beans. I figure if I substitute the beans for something else, maybe just more vegetables etc...

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oneilldubberke You keep going back to the chili, so go for it and have the chili. I would suggest that you take time to make a weekly dinner menu plan so you don't have the struggle to make decisions. It helped me keep peace of mind on my busy days and eliminated excess...

14 Aug 12

Your Mother Knows

Pocs39 @Pocs39 (39) 14 Aug 12

Just a short poem I wrote for my 4 daughter, I thought I would share it. I see you feeling sad without speaking words. Those eyes tell the story of troubles inside. The smile on your face speaks of happiness and joy. A touch...

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oneilldubberke Absolutely beautiful! My kids are all grown now but they always wondered how I always knew what was going on inside them. When I was little, I would ask my mother how she knew and she told me a little birdie told her. The love and wisdom of a mother knows no...

14 Aug 12

Prepared at home or served at restaurant?

moulee87 @moulee87 (320) • India 14 Aug 12

Hi all! World requires more and more people at work! Today we do have opening for many works but the knowledge of the people does not match to tag them to the work. Talking about the tagged workers, they always work for 8 or...

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oneilldubberke I do enjoy eating out occasionally, but I prefer to eat at home. This way I can control the quality of the ingredients that go into making my food. I do not like to eat processed and fatty foods. Fat does make the food taste better and that is why many...

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How have you overcame your fears?

McCreeper @McCreeper (777) • United States 14 Aug 12

I had an intense trepidation for public-speaking / Presentations. Whenever I hear the words, Mandatory, meeting / presentation, and a specific time, I automatically get cold sweat. Through experience, they are a little bit more...

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oneilldubberke I had fear of public speaking while I was in school. They were giving us topics to speak on and some of them I had no interest in. Lack of confidence on the matter which you are speaking compounds your fears. After graduation I had opportunities to speak on...

14 Aug 12

Are you a giver enough?

BethelSophia @BethelSophia (538) • Philippines 14 Aug 12

Many people think they are indeed a giver, some claim that they give better compared to other people. Some have different reasons of giving as well as perspective in giving. Though some people are living in an affluent life still...

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oneilldubberke Giving can not be defined in one definition. It is different for every person based on their personal circumstances. But what is universal with giving is that it must be from the heart to be defined as true giving. I do not look at others and judge on their...

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Wishful Thinking

adforme @adforme (2114) 14 Aug 12

Lately it seems I am grasping at straws. Well, at least I am grasping. I want to be able to find answers to my questions and solutions to my problems. I do not need to be enabled to be dependent, but I am getting a feeling. Some...

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oneilldubberke Some people call it wishful thinking to get what they want, but it comes down to if you have the drive to do what it takes to get what you want. I can wish all year long that I make a million dollars, but if I don't the work in, it will never manifest in my...

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Body Weight and Image

hmkoct5 @hmkoct5 (2065) • United States 14 Aug 12

In all honesty, I hate the way I look. I really feel out of shape and out of control of my weight. I am working hard right now to get back into shape. I want to feel good about myself again and actually like to look at myself in...

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oneilldubberke I have had those same feelings in my life time. They continued to stay with me until I took responsibility for the choices I make in my life. It was not only about losing weight, much more then that. I was living my life like there were no consequences to the...

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