which do u prefer, a working mom or a plain housewife?

"Plain housewives" ARE working moms. They're just working for their family rather than a stranger. They're also working 7 days a week, 16 hours a day and on-call the rest of the time. They don't get scheduled breaks, vacation and sick days, or a regular paycheck. What they do get is a great "benefits" package...all the free hugs, kisses and smiles they want, time to really enjoy that milky sweet baby scent, and all the joys that come from being there to watch their children grow up.

I just had a son 7 months ago. I was working full time prior to the delivery. I can stay home for 1 year- that is what our budget will allot for. I have not had to work and be a mom at the same time - yet. But I can say- after staying home I would like to continue staying home. Or maybe go back part time if it is doable. Advantages of staying home: if its your style- being a "homemaker", simply spending more time with your child, taking care of the house, cooking etc... Disadvantages: not having the professional attachments, relationships, feelings of accomplishment. I think its a switch in our brains that we have to make - like "ok I am accomplishing alot by staying home and raising my child" instead of feeling like you are slacking b.c you are not working. I miss work... but I also love staying home with my son... ~athomemommy~ http://mommyathomefornow.blogspot.com www.personalgrowthresources.net

Yeah, this is a difficult choice for a mother. Being a plain housewife means you have more time with your kids, you can educate them by yourself, and grow up together with them. But, your husband will be the only one who brings in money for your family, where he'll be quite struggling. And also, you will miss the joy of working and having your own career. I really enjoy working and I like to have my own career, I'll choose to be a working mum in future. My husband and I have decided to let my mother-in-law take care of my kids when they are young. I actually feel a bit sad of this as my mother-in-law stays in another state, that means I'll be only seeing my kids perhaps once a month. :p

since i'm a kid, my dream is to be a plain house wife. but now, i think it's not gonna happen, i'm so workaholic...

I prefer a maid which is neither housewife or working mom and has nothing to do with my wife.

Yeah, I agree, both are difficult tasks. Being a housewife is never plain.. Im agine all the dirty dishes and stuffs, the cooking jobs that you d at least three times a day, while maintaining the cleanliness of the house, an more. Doing all of these while taking care of your kids.. Hayy.. can be so frustrating at times, but fulfilling too. Because you get to spend most of your waking hours with your kids, you see them every minute and do all the things for them first hand. Working moms, however, have their own reasons why they have to work, sometimes its because of financila struggle or because of self-fulfillment as a carreer woman. It's not that easy too. Because even if they are working doesn't mean they are free from taking care of the home, too.

Given the choice, I'd rather be a housewife than a working mom. Kids grow up too fast and if moms are too busy with work then they will miss out a lot. I actually have a list of the advantages and disadvantage of both roles. Stay-at-home / Housewife + Taking care of children + Monitoring their progress / milestones / baby's firsts + Creating an unbreakable bond with the kid/s + Be the one to teach them new things like how to dress by themselves and good manners - No additional income for the family Working mom + Have a stable source of additional income for the family + Fulfillment in achieving career goals - Less or no time at all for kid/s - Not experiencing first hand the milesstones / baby's firsts - Entrusting the welfare of the kid/s to another person

I prefer to work but i have a 11 months old daughter i don't want to leave her in anybody else coz i don't trust them.So right now i'm a stay home mom,but i like to watch my daughter.The advantage of working mom is that you can help your family financially.The disadvantage is stress,your stress when you got home coz after work you need to watch your kids or do the household chores,wherein if your a plainhousewife that's all you do in everyday life,take care of the house and the family.The disadvantage of being a plainhousewife is you don't have your own income.

Ok, first of all I want to just say that I am in no way a PLAIN housewife. I kind of take a little offense when people say that about us mom's that stay home with our children. It makes us sound unworthy of respect, which we actually deserve a lot of. Just had to say that and get it off my chest. ;) I have done both so far. I highly prefer staying home with my children to having to be a working mother. With staying home I actually get to see my children and feel like I am an active participant in my childs upbringing, not having someone else raising my child. I do realize that this is not an option for some people, and I do not look down on parents that have to work. That is life, you do what you have to do. I had to do it for a couple of years. I hated having to drop my kids off with someone else for the whole day to go to work to pick them up after 6 at night to only have a couple of very short hours with them to cram everything into. I just felt like I was somehow being cheated out of being a part of my own kids childhood. I was missing out on all the milestones and all the best experiences of their young lives. So when I got the chance to send my husband to work and stay home with the kiddies I naturally jumped at it!lol But I am trying to gradually make my way up to creating the equivalent of at least a part time income online so that I can help out with the household finances. I figure that is the least that I can do to repay my hubby back for giving me the opportunity to stay home with my kids when I want to. ;0)

I would be a stay at home mom hands down! I would be too scared to miss out on anything if they were in daycare all day. Plus I don't trust many daycare places. Both me and my fiance had bad experiences at a day care, the staff was mean and sometimes hit us! (I know this was about 20 years ago but still) so we both agreeded to never put our children in that enviroment. His mom doesn't work but I dont want my baby to stay at his parents without me there because they have a German Shepherd that has bitten people and children plus their loser son and his gf live there and I dont want them around my baby! I dont even have children yet and I am already worried about that whole situation! I also don't mind doing all the housework and cooking! I love having a nice home for my husband to come home to after a hard day at work! He works hard and keeps a roof over my head and food on my table and a vehicle for me to drive so I tihnk he deserves all that!

i used to be a working mom and now a stay-home-hands-on mom. i was working when i had my only child. i hired a nanny to take care of her while i work. financially we were doing well. when my daughter became sickly i took leaves more frequently than the other working moms in my workplace that i realized i needed to quit my job. i couldn't forgive myself when i was told that the nanny whom i had full confidence to take care of my child was the one who made her sick. from then on i never entertained referals of nannies & will never consider hiring one. we may not have the financial advantages we used to enjoy then, but now at least i've forgiven myself for allowing a stranger to cause the love of my life terrible pain when i should have been there for her at a tender age. she's turning 8 come july and we're inseparable! it's the strong mother-daughter bond we have that we will both treasure forever.

I personnally want to work. I miss my daughter, but I also still wantto have a career. I also think that what if something happened to my spouse I woudl have to work anyway. But I love to be able to help provide more for my family.