Jealousy - what do you think?

I think there is nothing more miserable than being in a relationship like you describe. I have been there done it, twice. Sucked each time. I also found that the more jealous a person is towards you, the more likely they are the ones doing wrong things. So the transfer their guilt onto another. I mean we all have our jealous moments. We are human but it is how far you allow it to go. I wil not ever be in a relationship like that again personally.

I think jealousy takes an awful lot of time and effort and if one were to put that effort into making the relationship work it would have a better outcome. It is sad to see our friends with jealous people, because ultimately it changes the person that they are. Let's face it, none of us can be under scrutiny day in day out and not feel the pressure. I hope that your friend realizes that she is worth so much more than that and moves on to a healthy relationship. If you can't trust the one you love, than what is your definition of love?

I have not been with a person that has been real jealous like that. To be honest having been in a relationship where we don't have that problem I am not sure if I could handle it at all. I mean to me that is not a relationship that has trust in the other person. And to me if you don't have trust you don't have anything.

Jealousy is not good for the person who feels it! It is really a thing which has destroyed so many people's relationship and who ever felt that and was unable to control that has suffered a lot in his/her life till got out from that bad feeling!

Wow, that is really ridiculous! I guess I'm lucky I haven't been in a relationship that bad before. I've been with a couple of jerks before of course, but it wasn't jealousy that messed things up. I can't imagine how awful it must be to have someone never trust you even though you're not doing anything wrong!

I am in that kind of relationship, my husband is very jealous and possesive. It is definately a miserable relationship, so I know how she feels. He will call me at least 15 times a day while he is at work, I am sitting home with the kids and I'm not doing wrong so it is really annoying. He has also accused me of sleeping with my girlfriends. When I go anywhere I have to check in with him, call when i get there and before I leave. If I don't he will call and argue because I didn't call when he thought that I should. He definately has issues. I wish your friend luck and if at all possible, if there isn't kids involved to get out now, because it only gets worse. I'm happy for you that you have a trusting relationship. I don't beleive I've ever had one.

halla! hur mar du? hehe. anyway, yep. i had been an 8 year relationship before. it was a relationship full of jealousy. my ex boyfriend always suspects me of having an affair with someone. and it was really a hurtful relationship. i was a fool for 8 years and finally, i am glad to be out of that relationship. it's okey to be jealous, i am still a jealous girlfriend to my boyfriend up to now. but i know how to handle things well. and i get jealous not that often anymore. my boyfriend is so accepting of me and he understands a lot about me. and i am glad that our relationship is a good one. and i will be in sweden soon! hej da! happy myLotting!

I have been in one too, and they are scary. My advice to your friend would be to get out as soon as possible. People who are so jealous of their partners do not really love them in my opinion, they are just controlling and want to "own" their partner. Where there is no trust there is no respect, and when those two things are missing from a relationship, there is no true love in my opinion.

if you trust your partner that much you dont get jealous. we also have a little jealous with my boyfriend now but not that much sometimes it is also a joke level too. we dont take it seriously coz we know that we love each other and no one can take separate us. when u get old you learn how to minimize your jealousy, i accept that before i was kinda a jealous girlfriend but i have learned from it thats why i get rid of it. and i also know in my heart that my boyfriend wont just leave me that easily simple bec he loves me the way i love him. i guess we should put in mind that too much of everything is not good and it applies in every aspect of life including relationship.

i am glad you are in a good relationship now, after the jealousy. yes i was in such a relationship, i even was not allowed to talk with friends, my family or strangers. he followed me at every workplace i was and controlled me there too. i had to do lots of phonecalls with several men, and he was alwayas jealous. he accused me of lots of things i never did. im glad i could escape after 9 years of fear and pressure. jealousy is a sign for someone not being sure, they should work on themself before they start to terrorizize their partners.

A relationship without trust is not really good. Both partner will not be happy. So, if this happens to you or your friend, you must really sitdown with your partner and talk about it, and if things don't go ok...i suggest that you get out of the relationship.

well, i think your friend deserves a better guy. she cant grow in that relationship. a healthy relationship's foundation is trust and respect. if she cant have that than she could maybe find it somewhere, with someone else. that guy doesnt respect and trust her and that shouldnt be it. she deserves to be happy. and staying in that relationship is like trapping her, inprisoning her with his selfish love. well, actually, am dropping by because i like your avatar! how did you make that? it's really cute!:) nice one you got there!:)

There is just no room in any relationship for jealousy or envy. Having said that, these are human emotions and everyone experiences them from time to time. It's best to let the feeling pass and not feed it with any negative energy, lest it spoils a good frienship.

I think all of us will be jealous in sometimes, but different people have different ways to solve it,someone who can't control the jealousy,he or she maybe do someting to hurt another.I think the importance is how to control our jealousy and how to have a wide heart.

A moderate amount of jealousy is good as it shows that each party in the relationship cares for each other, rather than being unconcerned with what the other party is doing day in day out. That can also have the effect of taking things for granted. The only thing is that this jealousy do not turn into feelings of overpossessive which can make the relationship turn sour and strained.

I admit I was the jealous type in my previous relationship and that contributed to the disaster. But I think I have improved since then or at least I'm working on it. I know very well it can destroy a good relationship.

First of all i am glad to read that you have a balanced relationship that is based on trust. In those kinds of relationship jealousy does not take a great part, like on ones that lack the trust issue of one of the people that are involved in them. I know that i could not be in a relationship, like you described your friend was in. I need my space and i need to know that i trust the person and he trusts me. I know that if i would have been involved in such relationship, i would just take my legs and run as far as i can. Yes, even if i loved this person. I do not think that i have to suffer that much because i love the person.

Hello,marie2473,I had not ever been into a relationship with jealously,I think it may not be easy for the relationship to last long if jealousy is present, it is hard for nboth parties to trust each other,withput trust, relationship cannot last long and there will ne more and more argument when times go by.

In my opinion, jealousy is a sign of insecurity, and insecurity kills a relationship! Really, who wants a boyfriend or a girlfriend who is endlessly delusional of one's partner being unfaithful? Such person has no place in a civilized world where there is love and trust. Of course, unless it is really proven that one's lover cannot be trusted at all. I am a married woman, and my husband displays some jealousy fits from time to time. Please, I tell him. If you don't trust me, it must be because thinkers are doers? I am basically a trusting person, that is why I cannot take people not trusting me or their partners. It takes one to be trusting in order to be trusted. Am I the jealous one? When I was single, I guess I was. Now that I'm married, I am generally secure with my relationship with my husband, until further notice of course. What would I do/feel if I discover that he is unfaithful? Well, I guess I'd just cross the bridge when I get there. But one thing for sure, it's gonna be messy!

I am not a jealous person. However, I have been involved in a relationship with entirely too much jealousy for almost six years. His jealousy became so bad until he accused me of cheating with my own step-dad. It got to the point that I would walk around with my head down so that he wouldn't think that I'm trying to give another guy "the eye". I had become a very miserable person. The only reason that I put up with it for so long was because of our two children. Then one day I woke up with some sense and decided that it was time for me to leave. I packed up my babies and left. I knew that his jealousy would only get worse and that would not be a good thing. Jealousy can always lead to physical abuse.