What are the common problems between married couples?

Hello,samrat, i think the problems that most of the married couples face are they feel bored about the marriage,it is not as romantic as in the past when they were dating, and if a couple does not have children,the problem may be more prominent.All they do everyday become routines and the married life is lack of spice.They want to meet up with their friends but they do not want to let their partners alone, that is why they have to reject to meet up with friends.They may have more argument as they are living together,there may be more conflicts about some small things,they may not like some bad habits of their partners.It is very important for the married couple to be tolerant to each other so that the marriage can last forever. Hope you have a happy marriage.

I think probably the biggest problem married people can face is boredom. once you have spent afew years together an dknow each other perfectly well then the boredom sets in. the question of what to do all the time gets to be s msjor reason to fight. Also getting bogged down by all themundane day to day things.

I am not married, but through careful observation of those that I have known that have been married one of the biggest things they fight over is money. And or if they have children, how to punish their wrong doings. But above all money, money isn't everything the only reason it's around is so that we can pay off debts and live. lol

Well...in my marriage...we fight over the silly things...but seeing other marriages...it seems like the in-laws causes some of the problems...I dont know...

Anything could case an arguement without good communication. Before we got married and early in our marriage money was very tight and we argued more than we do now. I'm not saying keep lots of money and everything will be great. We still look back on how hard we worked and how far we've come. Sometimes it just seems hormonal and when you spend so much time with a person I think it's just bound to happen. An arguement isn't always a bad thing, sometimes making up is fun.

The Common problem is always Money and wives not respecting their husbands. Respect is very important to a man. Especially a husband who works all day, comes homea and just wants to rest or relax or do whatever with his wife. I would have to all a man ever wants is respect first, then love second.

well, usually accepting each other's differences is the biggest problems among the couples... at least it is for me and my hubby... this always become the source of our argument or our fighting... there are big differences between us and we have to try to adapt to each other and accepting each other's weaknesses... i think this is the common problem with other couple as well... that's why we have to be really prepared before we make a decision to get married...

hey samrat, I like your discussions since they are very next to reality! but i really cant comment on this since i am not married yet...now dont be jealous of me okie...u might have also enjoyed your bachlorhood and that s wat iam doin now!! Though i persoanlly feel( with all maturity i have for this subject!!!) is that a marraige is a bond of not two ppl but two families ( in india it is for sure!!) and comman problems would certainly arise if both the partner are not understanding. atleast one has to be subissive when the other is dominating! other wise the entire marriage could go for a toss! For me, i am happy replying post and discusions, marraige is a distant dream! Happy married life to you!

It depends on the couples. For some, it is the in-laws who often interfere in their married life, especially if the couples are living with their in-laws. So the solution is to have a house/home which is away from in-laws. I have avoided this problem because I dont live with my inlaws, and though we live in a unit owned by my parents, they are not living in the same house/residence. Another problem is money or financial difficulties, but this is just minor for me. There is also misunderstanding, lack of communication, jealousy that result to some problems in married life. A third party is also a common problem when the husband or wife cheats. These problems will seldom occur if the couples try to work out their married life.

iam not married so i cant say from a personal point of view but from what i observed others i think each partner seems to think the other one SHOULD like everything and everyone that they like! they never seem to agree to disagree...you really cant a persons prefrences so suddenly ...lol iam not clear i know! what iam trying to say is no one seems to 'accept' the other person with all their good and bad points!

i think your views are right the first thing is to understand and listen the talks of each other. if this does not happen then the quarrling starts. married couples generally debate and quarlled with each other on small and nonsense things, only due to of there ego. they donot try to settle down in the new environment .they thinks that they are right and what they are doing is true, this is the point from where debate between married couples starts. to avoid this situation they have to take care of each other and give respect to others view. the main complaint of housewives are that there husbands donot help in there works of home. the other quarlling place is market where ladies spent money without using there mind.

...been married for a little over six years now. i don´t really like arguing ´coz i simply cannot become that loud to convey my point -i am not a loudspeaker and when one cannot be loud will almost always lose the battle. but in my experience -one need not be loud to be able to argue a point. in the heat of an argument i usually call for a time-out...to cool off our heads and do a little thinking...then talk about it again later. in our case it always work. talking about the problems being married - i think it simply starts with the fact that two totally different individuals in terms of family, childhood, environment, education, profession, financial status, etc. are trying to start a life together and usually with the intention to grow old together -and that alone can be very challenging if not difficult. but i think mutual RESPECT is the key to it. never try or expect to change your partner to your expectations -its best to accept each other for who and what you are. Second, allow each other a little time away from each other - "absence makes the heart grew fonder", as the saying goes. being married doesnt necessarily mean being together every day of our lives - like my husband and i like hiking but since i cannot hike because of our two little girls -i allow him to go hiking alone -and when i like to go shopping he is then watching over the two. third, it is also important to decide together over the things involved in the relationship - sometimes, even when a partner has no idea about the thing to be decided on - it still feels better to be asked for one´s opinion. so i would say, respect and open communication can make wonders in a relationship. but like every relationship it is actually a lifelong learning process - and when one is willing to make such work -it will sure be fun and exciting ...can at the same time frustrating or discouraging -but then again, that´s life and that belongs to learning...and it sure is part of loving...

being married is not easy... its giving your life to your partner... its not being me, me, and me but us, us and us... the common problems are we tend to only think of ourselves and forgetting that we are not single anymore... being married is sharing your life to your partner... they should also be stable- financial and emotional... the common problem is having a financial problem... not getting the things that we want to have and thinking that being married is just an easy way...

i am not yet married but i think, it would be money. Because it will be difficult to have a family when you got nothing at all. Maturity also will be an issue, because if one don't understand the other, then there will be a problem. Good communication should be there between the couple, talk your problems out and try to resolve all your problems before going to bed. Third party will all also be an issue. i really don't know but for what i have observed in other families, these are the problems they are encountering.

third party lol

Oh this is qute an easy one for me seeing that I have been married for 26 years in regards to having a fight with your partner whether you are married or not the main thing is to sit down civilily and discuss your problems with each other and then this way you both should understand each other more do not just presume that you know everything about your partner.

Hi samrat,When two people get married and start living in the same house,it is somewhat difficult,each person has their own ways of doing things so you have to accept their ways and be tolerant of each other,we are individuals and we have different idea's about things and we have to accept their ideas and not get all mad because they do not do things the way you think they should.Money is another thing couples fight about.I think the best way to be loving is always discuss things with an open mind.Stubborness has no business being in a relationship,we need to be loving and not try and control...Let that person be their self,don't try to change a person...If you cannot agree on something just agree to disagree...Each person in the relationship has good idea's,and your mate might have a better way so be open.Marriage is a committment not a jail sentence,leave room for balance...If they like to do things on their own with friends on occasion ,let them..Support their idea's...

I am married since last four years. It is a love marriage and we have known each other since last seven years now, but still, problems find a way in. According to me the reason is that we expect more and accept less. Both husband and wife are working, they have less time for each other and most of the time they are preoccupied with something other. If they spend some quality time with each other, look for happiness in each other then may be problems would be less. It is very important for them to respect each others feelings. What is most important is they should be happy with themselves, then only they would be able to keep each other happy.

I have been married for almost 11 years & still my husband & I argue. Usually over silly things. NOt even married people can have everything in common, if they do then it would be a very boring marriage. People need to be a bit different to get along, they also need to have different opinions on some things or there will never be anything to talk about.

As a married I have no regret about it. You need to respect what your husband decision and listen first before react. You need give and take,I talk to him every night before going to sleep. what happen to the office, what happen to their office, and about his feeling. we need some information about what happen to their office because I'm the one affected if it lost. Goodluck to him.