Do Parents really knows whats best?
By sechsey
@sechsey (1831)
Canada
May 12, 2007 10:55am CST
I know as parents we always want whats best for our kids. But do they really know it? Is it really the best or just something that they themselves want for themselves? Some parents have dreams foregone because of family and kids. As a frustration, they want their kids to achieve those things for them. Saying its d best thing. Is it stll the best thing?
Do parents really know that the things they want for us is really the best? What if its a situation they have never come across to before? Maybe situations are the same but times have changed?
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13 responses
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
13 May 07
Well, though sometimes we hate to admit it, but yeah maybe 85/100 parents know what's best, given the experience they have been through, a lot of times we would like to contradict when they say "I have been through that road." Honestly sometimes, I don't believe that they have, and I think that of course they can just say that. But at the end, I almost always have that realization that yes, it is true that they did know better.
But then, there is also things or situations that parents have to adjust to given the changes from what life, environment, customs were before and today. They also have things to learn to adapt to regarding the present time and cannot just rely on what they know and believe is right with accordance to a situation based on a different timeline.
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@Kman64 (98)
• United States
13 May 07
Parents do not always know what is the best for children even though they have the wisdom of experience, however, the wisdom was through our experience and out thought process, not theirs. All you can do is give them advice on what you think but tell them it is their choice to direct their life. Situations are different and they may not want exactly out of life what we as parents did. Some things that we think we know what is best may actually hold them back from their potential.
@mari123 (1861)
• China
13 May 07
no,they have no experience to educate their children in life or education,they want to let their children happy everyday,but they don't really know what to do ,they think their children have a good housing and cloth,life ,those are the best thing to their children,but they neglect their children may be heading s whole lot of social ills from their friends.
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
13 May 07
honestly, as a person do we really know what is best for ourselves?
going along this theory, how would we then know what is best for our children?
we can only offer guidance and advices based on our past experiences but definitely doesn't mean we are always right!
e.g. a child wants to stop studying and start working at the age of 18, who are we to say that it is wrong when that's exactly what bill gates did. are we more successful than BG???
i find that it is so wrong that parents always force their unfulfilled wishes onto their children e.g. learning the piano, getting a degree, marrying a 'good' man etc
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
18 May 07
You have a very good point there applefreak:) To me , we are there for guidance and advices to our children because we have been through alot of experiences as parents. But we shouldnt always push what we think to be right and as THE ONLY best option. Sometimes we also have to let our kids know they can make up their own minds and maybe they will come up with their own best:)
@takkea (393)
• United States
16 May 07
I think that since parents are so experience to an extent they do know what's best. that does not mean that we should not experience for ourselves. We can listen and decide whether or not we want to acknowledge their opinions. Sometimes parents are so outdated in their thinking that their advice might not work for a particular situation.
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
18 May 07
I do not think parents know all the time what is best for their kids. Sometimes they can make mistakes too and be wrong as well.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
12 May 07
I guess most of the time they do know what is best for us. It just sometimes their judgement may not be so perfect that they miscalculate what they really want form their children. I guess a parent must also be sensitive with their children's feelings, their wants and interest to really know what they could do or want to their children.
@taurean83 (505)
• United States
12 May 07
Well no one knows what will be the situations in one's future.But yeah parents wants best for their kids just from the experienced they have gained in their lives.They just tries what the difficultites they have gone through their kids wont get into such trouble in their lives.It is not a best but yes it is a good thing to ask before taking any big step in our life to parents because if we follow their advice and somethingn wrong happens unfortunately they will be there at our back up. Plus they always tries to take us out from such situation in which they thinks they have putted us.Where as the time has totally change now but our parents are more much more experienced than us.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
12 May 07
Sometimes we make the wrong choices and decisions. Sometimes we made the ones which our parents were completely against of and do make me say i wished i listened to them. But the lesson your parents can give u in that situation, is that when u made that decision after they have given u their guidance , its also important you are able to show responsibility for it and know how to stand on your own two feet without regrets but only with hope and a steadfast mind that you can put it right. :)
@PsychoDude (2013)
• Netherlands
12 May 07
Parents like to think they know best, but the truth is far from it. One thing I also never tend to get is rather than reading up on what teenagers themselves write about parents on god knows whatever places parents tend to ask other parents which do the same crap for advise :P.
