Teenage single mom..

But why did u end the relationship since the baby is already born? Didnt the father tried looking for you? I salute you! It must have been really tough being a teenage mom, whats more u have to bring him up, yourself... I guess im still not so ready for being a mum, im both not physically and mentally prepared to take care of someone else since i cant even take care of myself... U met with a lot of difficulties? I guess so... If ever, the guy wants u back, would u? I guess u r really brave, to give birth to the child, leave your boyfriend and start everything anew... Not many people can do that though... Belated happy mothers day! =)

Hi! Wow you seem to be a really strong person! I'm not a mom yet but I can imagine all responsability a baby gives. I'm glad to know your friends and family are by your side. here in Brasil things aren't always like this. Many girls have to give their babies away or even worse

First of all I want to say wow welldone to you, you have done so well. You were only 17 and had to raise the baby by yourself. You continued your education despite having the difficulties of raising a baby and finnishing your relationship. Things were really difficult for you. I am sure there is more you have not mentioned I think you are wonderful and you have come so far despite everything being against you. Yes being a mum is wonderful but it's much better when you have someone there to help you.

Kudos for going back to school. Too many teen mothers end up losers. Did you go to college, too? I couldn't really tell from the way you described it. If not, you should really try to. I couldn't have a kid, though. Just not for me.

Well it one of those things in life in life, when you don't expect things in life then come accross those things, stop crying and thinking, you what you suppose to do ? 1. laughing and thanking God for sparing your life. As for your husband live him alone, he will surely come back to you, just take things how it is for now, no body will like to be mom at 17, by that time you still be in school learning and planning for your future.

Hi there, Just 17 years old and gong through that ur good. I was 21 years old when i had my first child, i thought that was a good age to have my first child,Didnt know what i ws letting myself in for. The labour was long and painful,then u have to find the energy to care for this baby,the 2 to 3 hour feeds teething pains just of lost of sleepless nights.Im not saying that it was not the best experience ive ever had cos it was and im on my 5th child now,But yes all the teenagers out there that are planing or thinking about having a baby, Think again its not easy nor is it funny and ur most likley find that the farther of your baby will leave u in the end cause he was to young to be a dad.

You are quite right. However it sounds like you are handling things well and making the right decisions for you and your baby. I wish you continued success. Just love your baby and live right and everything will be fine...you will cherish this time...

I admire the decisions that you made. Being a single parent and that young, it takes a strong person to rise up to the challenge and to take such huge responsibility. I am glad that you value your education because it will really help a lot in rearing up your child. Goodluck with the job hunting.

I remember the day I found out I was going to be a single teenage mom. I remember the big huge smile that came across my face. The doctor looked at me and said you dont' look upset about it. I said oh I am , I am. He said will why are you smiling then, this can't be good your a teenager and still in school. I said I know , trust me I am upset, my parents will kill me. I knew I was upset and should be upset but the feeling of having a life inside of me, my very own child was just so overwhelmingly delightful that it was pushing through all the termoil that I new this was going to cause. I remember walking out to the waiting room where my friend was waiting for me. I kept trying to to horrified or sad so because I new that was what I was suppose to be feeling. I did convince my friend I was upset. I remember walking back to school in silence sometimes as we both pondered my situation. I remember the smiles couldn't help showing themselves and I would catch myself not to smile because I didn't want anyone to think I was disrespectful of my situation. I knew this was bad, believe me I did, and I didn't have the parents that were supportive of anything I truly thought they would disown me so I hid it for 6 months. The circumstances of the pregancy was also very bad. But it was this little ones fault and I couldnt' help but smile. I was going to have a baby how could I not be happy about that, no matter what the circumstances. Amazing! Hard work yes it is but I was just so happy it didn't feel like work at all to me. Of course to others who had to support me and help me until I graduated I am sure it wasn't what they would of chosen to do . That is the bad thing; we think our problems affect only us, but it doesn't,it affects everyone. If it were only us it affected there would be much less drama but we can not stand alone we need the help and support of loved ones to get through a life changing experience that changes everyone's life not just your own. My baby is now 30 years old with a baby of her own!

Be patient, hope you can success with your life, I am pray for you my friends. Good luck to you. Best regards

To say that having a child is a lot of responsibility is an understatement. However, having said that you have certainly risen up the challenge while trying to improve your own personal life as well. You are certainly a good role model and a good spokesperson for teenage pregnancy.

That is really great of you to continue your studies and now looking for a job. I commend you on taking the time out to decide what you were going to do with your future and the future of your baby. I have 5 neices who are single parents, and I see the daily struggles that they have dealt with being single moms. We as a family are always there to help them, but they do a very good job of juggling responsibilities and working and being a mom. My hat is off to all single parents. I thank you for speaking up and telling young women to think before they act. I wish you the best of luck!

It is good that you have a strong support system that are always there for you which makes things easier for you that way. Thanks for sharing your story and that I have learned a lesson with it. Having a baby is really a great responsibility. There are times that I am really thinking about that, asking what if I will get pregnant unexpectedly. What will my parents and other people say about me? And how will I raise the child... A lot of things that bothers me and I am still happy now that I am single and no children yet. Well, goodluck and God Bless being a single mother. I know you can do your responsibility...

just get on with it

i was 19 when i had my first child but me and my man got married and when are happy and doign great and now we also have another child i have a little girl and so my son wil goto school and my husband works most of the time but we are wonderufl together and weve been together for alomst 10 years and married for 6 years now yeah thin before you go and start having mature monents just make sure you think before you do because it will be not good if you didn't

it must have been hard for you to break up with your boyfriend. actually, we almost have the same experience. i got pregnant in the middle of my college days. it was just a year ago. my relationship with my boyfriend at that time wasn't good too. i could say he was still enjoying his merry days with friends and women. despite that, i went with him believing that he would change. nobody wants a broken family, i thought. i could endure. there were times when i want to give up and just leave him. however, i could not do it because i think i am not strong enough to get over him. as long as i could endure, i guess i will be with him. my choice of course could in the long run, compromise the quality of our family life in the future. there are risks in the choices that you make. and i dont blame you for being so independent that you could bear raising your son alone or with the help of relatives and loved ones. that trait is really admirable. actually, i still think what if i left and did what you did. my daughter wont know her father at all. it would just be the two of us. or maybe i could find someone whom i could trust better than him. but again, i guess its my love, fears, or both that makes me stay. good luck to you. how about the father? does he support you financially? do you have any legal arrangements?

I'm curious as to if your boy friend back then is still paying child support to you. Obviously I don't understand the complete pictures of the story, I thought it would have been a smarter choice to stick with your boy friend. Afterall, he is the father of the child and you have to always think about that. However, you are apparently doing fine so I'm happy for ya!

You have done a very good job and made some very hard decisions. Congrats on finishing your studies and making a life for you and your son. You have my best wishes in all you do.

I remember when I was 17 and going through the part of being pregnant and having to tell my parents just as you did. I know from experience that takes alot of guts to do. That's when i first found out that I was truely a woman standing up for what I had done and what I believed. Alway I just want to say that I am so proud of you and I know that beautiful child of yours is going to be greatful that you done what you knew was best. I also thought that it was great to tell others teenagers what you went through.

Know what, I salute you for being so responsible with your actions. Not many can do so. A lot of teenagers given that situation would usually go for abortion. So I really admire you for keeping the baby and raising him. Ü