Bad mom?
By carpenter5
@carpenter5 (6782)
United States
May 23, 2007 8:44pm CST
Tonight on the news the anchors were telling about a young dad who put his baby into the microwave and burned her. She is out of the hospital and living with foster parents.
Here is the sad part...the mother refuses to leave him and says she wants her daughter back but she still loves her husband and she will stand by him, and won't leave.
What do you think? If my husband had done that to my child, I would be putting HIM into the microwave. How can someone stand by a man who does this to a child?
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22 responses
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
25 May 07
this sounds an impossible thing for me. my love for my child is first and foremost. well, here goes another incident to prove true the saying which goes 'truth is stranger than fiction.'
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
yest it is. I don't understand half of what the human population does sometimes. I can't stand the thought of a child or an animal being abused.
@Keleidescope (204)
• United States
24 May 07
It disturbs me when people do things like this. I don't know what's wrong with that mother, but I would be beyond angry and I wouldn't want anything to do with that man. It's against all human instints to harm a baby. I've read many studies on it. I guess that just goes to show the human psyche is very complicated and there are people out there with serious problems that should be dealt with.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
His defense is what kills me. He says that Satan was angry with him and made him do it. I'm sorry, we make our own choices and his was just wrong.
@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
24 May 07
Sad to say, people will say that they "love" someone, when they just are using that relationship to fill up the feelings of loneliness they have. They do not feel complete without a partner, and any partner will do. He could be an ax murderer, or whatever. I wish those types of people could be forced to be sterilized, so they would not bring any more victims into this world. That, however, is a violation of their civil rights. You can guess how I feel about that. I hope they put him away somewhere very far away.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
24 May 07
Civil rights? What about the rights of that poor baby? I think the punishment should fit the crime. Don't nuclear reactors have the same kind of burning ability that microwaves do? We could put him in there and cause a leak. I know it's not very Christian of me to feel this way, but jeez...what was going through his brain?
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@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
24 May 07
I think Christians are allowed to feel righteous indignation, and we are to protect the helpless and the innocent. I think both of them should be prevented from ever having more children. I do not know that I made that clear. It is just that we have swung so far as to say that is a civil right.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
I agree. There was a lady in Mississippi (I think) a couple of years ago that had abused so many kids that a judge ordered her to have a hysterectomy! They'd tied her tubes and it didn't work. She had like 7 or 8 kids and all of them had been taken away from her for abuse and neglect. She got picked up high as a kite and pregnant again! I think that was the best judgement that could have been made. Wish we had more judges like that.
@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
25 May 07
I read that horrific story and agree. The boy is 19 years old I believe. I dont remember if the Mom is young too. But anyone over the age of probably 10 knows that is wrong. This is a deeply disturbed person. I dont think people like this belong in our society. The Mother is just as sick as the father that did this. They are a couple of creeps.
She obviously has no maternal feelings.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I just don't know what to say about her. I'm glad that it looks like she will never see this baby again.
I wish we could fix it where she couldn't have another one, because I fear that is what will happen.
@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
25 May 07
I don't understand that at all, why would she stay with him. I really think that if my husband ever did that to my child he'd be chopped into a million pieces and burned up then mashed into the ground. I really don't stand for child abuse, its not right. You will pay if you hurt an innocent child, you will face your punishment one way or another thats for darn sure.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
I think child abuse is probably one of the worst crimes you could commit. It's just intolerable in my opinion. I have been reading back over the posts on this...you know we are a violent bunch when it comes to our kids! lol
@eachen2002 (889)
• United States
24 May 07
my mom was a foster parent,she saw alot of abused kids.There is no execuse for it.There is no way I would put with no matter how much I love the guy.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
We have friends in Dallas, who lost a baby several years ago, and have become foster parents to dozens and now adoptive parents to 3 adorable little boys in addition to their own two boys. (they need a medal for having 5 boys lol) They've seen and heard things that just makes me want to throw up.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
25 May 07
this is really sad... i don't know what the father is thinking and how can he fits the baby into the microwave... i will definitely want him to be punish severely for doing that to my child and i don't think i even want to stay another day with a cruel person like him... i feel so sorry for the baby and i hope he gets the just punishment...
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
That's what I don't understand about this woman. Why would you WANT to stay with someone like that? It makes no sense to me. I'd probably kill him in his sleep or something.
@laneita (78)
• United States
25 May 07
your right there. I would put him in the microwave as well an burn him up for what he did to my child. How can a mother satnd by someone that hurt her baby. I have two daughters an if someone even looks or says something bad to them i after them. I dont do that to my children an neaither is anyone ealse. That is so wrong though that she is standing by the father like that. In my eyes neither one of them need the child back. Find someone to love her an take her under there wings. give her the life she deserves. not one like that to remember. I hope they both get what they deserve. God would not make anyone do this. I dont even think the devil could make me do something like that.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
thank God she is too young to remember this, though she will grow up knowing that her parents weren't fit to gake care of her. I pray that she will end up with a loving family that will help her overcome that.
@dragontester (570)
• Switzerland
24 May 07
That is terrible. It is very difficult to understand the complex nature of human relations. It is not logical at all, so it is not possible to justify why would the woman stand by her husband. For others who are not related, it is highly logical to feel the way you feel.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
My daughter is engaged and she and my future son-in-law very much want to have children. She can't wait to be a mother. I asked her last night what she would do if Hunter did that to one of their children. (Not that I believe for a minute that he would) She said "Kill him". I love my child! lol
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
25 May 07
I am afraid that some women think their husband is more important than their child. Obviously this is one of those women. I would not give the man a second chance to hurt my child. The women is a ediot! My husband wouldn't live to tell about it. Children are put into our care to be safe guarded and loved. Anyone who does as this man does needs something drastic done to him. I have a few things I can think of to do to him but I won't put them on here. Use your imagination.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
Me either Sunshine! I tell my husband all the time (teasingly) that if he ever touches me or the kids..that I know people and it wouldn't be pretty. Of course he is so kind and gentle in spirit that I can't imagine him ever even thinking about something like that.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
24 May 07
She has to be crazy for wanting to stay with him! As for me I wouldn't want to be around him and he needs to be put away for along time. There is no way she will get her daughter back if she continue to stay with him. I couldn't live with that!
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
I hope you are right about that. I don't know what the foster care laws are in Texas. I hope that she would be charged right along with him. I can't say I think that would be a bad thing.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
What I want to know...is where the mother was during all of this and why she didn't try and stop him? I don't think any of the media has ever said where she was while he was microwaving their child~!
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
24 May 07
I would have done anything to put my husband in jail and he would never be able to see his daughter again.How can she be so stupod.I bet she's just like him.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
I wonder that myself...or is she abused too and scared of him. If he's physically or especially emotionally abusing her, she may be terrified he'll do the same thing to her.
I don't however think that's an excuse! My mother was a battered wife. She got OUT. It can be done. It's hard, but it can happen.
@Lovett (464)
• India
24 May 07
that's really wicked. I gues the Man is a Devil in disguise. I have not heard it in news, obviously , cause I m from India, but it really melted me. I mean thats the most Horrible thing I have heard,,,,Oh God! I hope the little baby is safe n as far as possible from her parents.Both parents seem to be psychos!!!I will pray for litlle one's future. Poor baby!I agree that such people dont deserve to get children. Im sure they will be punished by God, if not given a sufficient punishment legallly..
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
I can't help but think that the mother ought to be charged with at least neglect and child endangerment. If not accessory to attempted murder!
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
24 May 07
That just proves that the mother has no love for her child at all. That is really sad and I hate to think of the pain that poor child must have felt. A mother should always care for and look out for the best interest of her children.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
24 May 07
I just thank God that she is too little to remember what her own father did to her.
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
24 May 07
Please let me help you put him in the microwave.
I can not understand this, and i will never be able to.
I do know that it is a hard thing finding out that your partner is not you thought he is, but between this to doing and saying what she did, there is a very big gap.
I do pity her, she must be a very poor women that has a very low self esteem.
After reading what you wrote, i really am glad that this baby is not with those parents, that could have ruined his whole life.
And now at least he/she has a better chance in life.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
I got the impression that she was very un-educated, and I'm wondering if not abused herself and maybe scared of him? The consesus here at mylot seems to be an eye for an eye. It's probably a good thing I'm not a judge?
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
24 May 07
I think that there is seriously something wrong with both the mother and the father. They both need some type of help~ him for doing such an act~ I hope he is in jail for this. And her for sticking with him. Doen't she think that her babys life is more important than sticking by her husbands side. I say they are both sick!
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
24 May 07
I agree whole heartedly. My children come first. My husband is not an abusive man, but if He was, I'd get the kids out of there in a heart beat. My mother was in an abusive marriage, and I know what it can do to kids.
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
24 May 07
Not only did the father stick that baby in the microwave but he also put it in the refrigerator. This isn't the first time I have heard of a parent picking their lover over their own child. It makes me so dang mad. How could anyone consider sticking by a person like this. The both need to seek mental help.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
25 May 07
Yes they do. I don't understand why parents have kids if they are only going to mistreat them. Do they not understand that children are a gift?
@Sherry12 (2472)
• United States
24 May 07
wow, I wouldn't have anything to do with him if he did that to my baby. He needs to be in jail. I had heard the story, and was wondering how the baby was doing. I'm glad she is out of the hospital. It doesn't sound like either one of them should be able to have her, I hope they keep her away from them.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
24 May 07
That seems to be what is happening so far. One newscaster mentioned that she might be able to get her back if she would agree to divorce the father and have no contact with him...AND go through counseling. I think the officials are stupid if they let that happen.
@SereneDragon (188)
• United States
24 May 07
After reading this post, I got sick to my stomach. The mother seems to be out of touch with reality. I have always believed that if you take on the responsibility of a child, their needs and well-being should always come before your own. If the father could be heartless enough to burn a child in a microwave, it's plausible that he is abusing the mother as well. Maybe she's afraid to leave?
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
24 May 07
I hadn't thought of that. She is actually telling the media ..now get this. "the devil made him do it". I am quoting here. I think both of them are insane.