love just ain't enough?!

Philippines
May 24, 2007 10:18pm CST
A friedn of mine visited me last week with a sad on her face and sez: "I broke up with my ex even though I loved him so much and still love him until now. I realized I can still love him, and not be with him, because he's not the person to have a healthy relationship with. Loving a person is not reason enough to stay in the relationship no matter how unfulfilling it is. I decided to endure the pain of not having him than the pain of being with someone who is inadequate for me" So you see, sometimes.... love just ain't enough! . Don't you think so? I s she right about it? what's your opinion? or advice?
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10 responses
• Indonesia
25 May 07
yes i agree that love just not enough, i think we must realize that there are many factors beside love that we must consider like health, money and family background..we cannot just trust with love it self..
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• Philippines
25 May 07
you know what, buri2jaemon, this is what i had missed out before getting into marriage. i didn't peek into the guy's family background. now, i understand why the family background really matters. too bad, i had learned it the hard way. too hard, because by now, it is too late to remedy the situation. what can i do best now is, to let my children realize the importance of going through this all necessary steps to truly know the person before embarking on any marriage at all. no amount of being sorry can correct a wrong of such a heavy magnitude.
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@easyzheng (666)
• China
26 May 07
YOur friend has made a good decision. However deep she loved that guy, she should leave him as he was already showing his disloyalty to her. Such love is not dependable and the sooner she leaved him the better. Pure love deserves another pure love. If the two loves are not equal, the only way to prevent bigger hurt is to leave as soon as possible.
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• Philippines
25 May 07
of course, love is never enough. if there is true love which is existing between two individuals, this love should be the propelling force, the inspiration which will make the lovers work towards having a more stable relationship. meaning, in order for us to have a well meaning and healthy relationship, we have to work hard on it. people will never survive by feelings alone. people who are sensible enough knows this. love is something that we have to work on rather than sit on. we need to have a good relationship going through the able support of a good source of income. in a relationship, there are other things to cosider: moral, spiritual and social values.
@whiten (11)
• Indonesia
25 May 07
sorry before,if you listen to my opinion. I think we cant still love just to one person,because many people in the world which one of them on ready to wait you. I think you will get the affection from their love. That is up to you,whats the way,and how to do it. believe me many reason to beginning a new life. if you focus,and serious to try,you will get it.
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@Sherry12 (2472)
• United States
26 May 07
She is a very strong person and very wise to see that a relationship isn't going to work. It is hard to love someone and leave them. But, sometimes it is the best and only way to handle things.
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• Philippines
26 May 07
If you really love him, let him go, if hey returned they will always be yours, if they don't they will never were.. ALL you need to have is patience.
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@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
26 May 07
Love is just ain't enough if you have not fully given all the best you can in loving someone. If you had reservations and excuses made, love wasn't just enough. Love is a two-way process in which both should give and take. In the case of your friend, how could she continuously love someone if she has given him up and not allocating time for them to mend their ways. The fact that she broken ties with him totally losing her interest on him. If only they found time in talking and finding solutions to their problems it would have been better. At least they tried. True love is accepting one's inadequacies and shortcomings in the hope that better changes would happen as the relationship gets on the way. Faults should not be blamed entirely on one side. “Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new…, all the time, made new…” Author: Amy E. Dean
• United States
25 May 07
Love is a powerful thing, but I do believe that it takes more than just love to have a relationship. She did the right thing, because she's right she can still love him and not be with him. Why should she settle for less?? The answer is that she shouldn't if she's looking for love and much more she should keep looking. Good luck to your friend and I hope that all is well.
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@msBetty (83)
• Philippines
30 May 07
you can have more in cosmo mag... lol. =)
@msBetty (83)
• Philippines
25 May 07
how can you be sure that the guy is inadequate? whos to know that the one you let go could be the one that could make you complete? That is why we cannot say if she made the right decision. but thats how we live life, learn to walk away and embrace what is left for us. Love just aint enough if you chooses not to give enough chance for it. How can she says she love the person if shes willing to let it all go? i dont believe in letting go, fighting for your love is how true love is... well then, its not love, just a mere feeling of having the person who cares...
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