Who has the final say in your family?

When I was growing up, my mom was the deciding factor. Dad just went along with what she said. But now that I'm grown, I think both mom and dad should work it out together and decide. Sitting down and discussing as a family seems to work best.

My parents will discussion things first before making a decision. When I was a child, my parents didn't ask my opinion on big things. They often ask me about my meal and dress. When I was over 18 years old, they begin ask my opinion. But i'm ashamed that I cant give them a help. I'm in trouble of lacking money, somethimes they will send some money to me. What a bad daughter!

I would have to say that in our household, my mom is more dominant than my dad. Therefore, she turns out to be the one to decide on certain matters. Not that my dad is not capable of doing so. It is because my dad is kind of soft-spoken and it takes quite sometime for him to make a decision, while my mom on the other hand is the one who's always doing things quickly, multi-tasking and always in a rush.

It all depends on the decision. If the decision involves money, the breadwinner decides. If it involves managing the household matters, my mum decides. If it involves whether I can go out, I decide. If it involves what to eat and where to go for dinner, the little ones at home decides. So far, we do not have a family meeting yet to get opinions.

Although i live alone with my wife and take all our decisions togather. we have a joint family and all family decisions are taken by our elder brother.

It is both of us if it is a finance decision it will be me cause I am better at that but the everyday decisions both my husband and I will share the final word in agreement or sometimes he will have it. Like you my son can't talk so he cant participate and I do not really see him being a major influencer in any event unless its his birthday party or some clothes or toy that he wants.

my parents always ask for our opinions first before getting into decisions. my parents gather us together and talk about issues. we listen to then and they listen to us as well. they we decide together. this makes us closer to each other.

it depends on the situation. in my home, my husband is the father of our daughter, but i have to boys from another relationship. so when it comes to them, i have all final say. when it comes to our little girl we talk about and then i have the final say! LOL

well, IF it is concerned with me..then i take my own decisions but I do take my sdad and mom's advice too..even they want me to take my own decision so that i will be independent in my thinking and they do guide me whenever necessary.but if it is very important and something which is bothering everyone then we take decision aonly after deciding and my parents both decide and finally come with a solution..no one dominates the other..:)

Mike and I talk about the situation fist and base out decision together so that way neither one of us gets played. As the kids are growing a think we will move up to the family meeting to have the children involved in the discuss to =)

In our family it depends on what we are discussing. MY fiancee is better at making the decision about cars and such. I make all the decisions about the household and children since I deal with them the most. There are a few things that we discuss together and make the final decision together. Our children are allowed to make minor decisions for themselves but not any major ones because they are still to young.

ya in our home also it happens the same if the problems are personal and my dad feels dat i have nothin to do wit dat he discusses it wit my mom and if the problem is concerned to family or in genral we all sit and decide what to do.....but in some families i see that the decisions are made without consulting anybody its not good on their part and for the family also.

It depends on what decision you are going to make. It is always right that the dad hasthe final say... in any decisioin. Discussing it to the whole family is a good idea but still let the dad say what the final is, that's his role.

My dad has the final say on some very important issues.But most of the time,the wole family get together and have a discussion on it.Considering that I am an aldult now,they sometimes let me make the decision.We used to hold a family meeting every weekend.But now I'm in the college and far away from home,so I make the decision for myself, and my papa has the say at home:)

My kids are only 2 and 5 so I make all the decisions for all of us. I always think about what is best for them, and I do occasionally ask their opinions on things, but it is me who always makes the final decision.

I'm the sole decision maker in my house. Everyone depend on me to sort out things for them. There are times that I will seek the advice of other people. I don't plunge ahead to resolute on a matter. I learned to take everything in stride. Give one matter a certain period of time to think, to dissect and assimilate before concluding it. You know ethanmam, when your son is old enough to understand things, you can start to include him in making adult decision. Slowly at first and not something major. My girls are grade schoolers now and I always include them in making little decisions for me. Like choosing a clothe or a shoes, I will ask them if this look good or nice to me. I like to show them that I valued their opinions too.

I am generally the decision maker in our family. I will usually try to discuss it with my husband but he usually has the same feelings on things as I do. Many times I will tell my kids to ask their father when they want to do something and he will always say it is up to your mother. So when I try to give him the responsibility of making the dicisions, he gives them right back to me.

My husband and I usually talk about the decision together. He usually agrees with what I do but sometimes he don't and we talk about it and make decistions together.

My husband and I discuss everything. And, make decisions jointly, because they usually affect both our lives. And, mostly, because we're on a tight budget, we talk for months about big purchases. Or, simply any purchases at all. One of our biggest arguments concerns when and if we will move from our current home. He gets restless legs every few years and wants to move. And, I can't see any reason to do so. I've gone that route before, letting him make the decision solely and then following him around the country, seeing the sights. But, it usually doesn't end well. We never seem to advance financially. And, especially now that we have a child. It would be very jarring and disruptive to her routine. So, I have to think of her well being and stability and cast a vote for her. She's not old enough to speak for herself. So, I'm staying planted as long as I can. Sometimes we make our own seperate decisions on when to buy stuff. For instance, if it has to do with business, I might make a small investment or purchase something that would help me make more money online. And, I think he does the same thing too. Cause I was cleaning out the laundry room earlier today, and found a brand new DVD player in a Walmart bag hidden up on a shelf. And, I know that I didn't buy it. Guess he must have bought it and then just thought I wouldn't have approved, because we didn't discuss it. Poor baby! He must be sweating bullets over that one. But, other than that, we really like to work together as a team for the better good of our family.