Why do we want so many mylot friend if...

I'm curious about this as well. I try to reply to friend's discussions and I notice some reply to mine, but one like one or two. I don't get it either. Sometimes I think it may be for selfish reasons, like adding a lot of people with intent of all of those people replying, but them not replying to all those they added. But I'm just speculating.. I don't really know.

I know what you mean. I haven't started a lot of discussions, but I haven't had too much response to the ones that I have posted. Only one post that I have made actually has 31 responses so far. I try to answer at least one discussion a day that is under my friends. I try to be systematic about how I respond to discussions. Mamacathie, I thank you for responding to my discussions. But I guess I would like to know the same thing. Congrats on reaching 500 post.

I don`t accept too many friens for that reason, many just ask to be your friends if they see you get many responses and they will benefit in some way to be your friend I guess.

This is a very good question. I have wondered the same thing -"why do I have so many friends because I do not answer to the biggest majority of them?" I don't understand why we are like that. I do like a variety though, I pick out what i know I can answer and leave the rest. Sometimes I read a lot of post and have no idea how to answer them, so I don't even try. This is a very good discussion, thanks.

Majority of the people on my friends list were requests made by them and I think its because I respond to lots of discussions so having me on their friends list may guarantee a response while at the same time earning $$. I thought by doing the same thing, it might happen to me, but it really hasn't. I might need to clear out my list as there are a number of people that haven't logged into mylot for quite sometime.

It is a good question. I hope that someone has an answer for you because I am curious about this too.

Well i normally don't turn down friends requests on mylot as i don't feel like make anyone feel bad by my actions unless i have strong reservations about their profile which is rare. Moreover i like to respond to friends discussions and more friends means more discusssions for me to respond to to which i can relate to. Then it also provides opportunity to discussions that i have started to be noticed by more mylot folk which will help in our earnings too. Also with some friends you interact and have good personal equation which is fun and makes mylot such fun site to be on.

When I request a friend, which is not very often, it is because I want to hear more about them, and be notified of any discussions that they start.I think they are interesting people, or I identify with them. I do not know why strangers request to be my friend. They may just feel like they like the collection. I do try to respond to at least one discussion from each friend that starts one in a day. A very large number of people have requested me as a friend, then never posted again. I often wonder why they chose me in the first place.

In fact i dont send so much friendship requests. I more accept. I do it because of my friendly nature and i treat as compliment their request. But you are absolutely right. Just a small part of them come to discuss with me or post discussions what are good for me. And i wonder why so many indians, arabians and philipinas want to have me in their list. They dont speak English, they are not active, they are usually 1-liners. What do they hope to get from me? May be because of my star rating and reputation of active user?

I try to answer several discussions that my friends start each day, but sometimes it's hard. Some people just start too many! lol I have two friends on my list that I really like, but they both sometimes start 5-10 discussions in one day. I can usually respond to them, if I have time, since they are usually about kids, and their kids are roughly the same age as mine. I have other friends that start even more discussions, but I don't respond to many, because I don't have anything to add. I do check out the discussions that my friends start everyday, though. I don't have any of the notifications on, I just get on mylot and check from my discussions menu for discussions my friends started. Sometimes I don't catch them very fast, though. Especially the last few days, since we've been so busy with getting paperwork done for our house, and getting everything all packed up. Once we get moved, I will probably be on a lot more again, though. :)

People ask to be your friend in order to you respond their discussion, not to respond to your discussion. And that is what happen most of the times. There are exceptions though. That is way I have a small friend list. First I don't want to have my "discussions my friends started" full with discussions I don't responded to. And this way I can keep track of all discussions.

Friends here in mylot not only for responding but also to built friendship. I think it is not because they dont want to answer. It is because sometimes there are discussions where they dont have any response or probably they have not been active for some time. So, we need to give and take in this matter.

I opened up your discussion to see what other peoples responses were. This is a question I have been asking myself since I came to mylot. I try to respond to as many of my friends discussions as I can. There are some that I just don't have a response to. Yet very few of the people on my friends list respond to me. Most of the people that are on my friends list asked me to be their friend not the other way around so it makes me wonder why did they bother? Friendship is surpose to be a two way street. I respond to your discussions and you respond to mine. Yes, I realize that there are some discussions that not everyone can respond to, I have heard that excuse before. Yet the people I am talking about haven't responded to a one of mine. Or I read where someone said she didn't always have time to respond to all of her friends discussions yet everyday you see her begin several new discussions. If you have time to start new discussions don't you also have time to respond to your friends as well. Sorry didn't mean to rant but I was just hoping that someone might be able to help me figure this out.

I am wondering about this as well. They invite us to be their mylot friends, but seldom or never take part in the discussions we started. It is unfair. I started a discussion many days ago, but nobody has ever taken part in it. I feel so upset. But I have always been taking part in their discussions. Such being the case, I think maybe it is better to get those friends removed from my friend list. Is there anyway we can remove those so-called friends from our friend list?

To me, it doesn't always matter if my friends don't take part in my discussions. I don't always make the effort to respond to theirs and I know I should. In my opinion, the effort should start from the person who wants responses. If you do this your friends will like how you've taken interest in theirs so next time when you start a new discussion, they will definitely respond to yours. I am sure of this! Try it and you'll see what I mean. I don't have that many friends(well compared to most mylot users here). I don't think I need that many too. If I had too many friends then I won't find enough time to build up a strong bond with those I've been close with here on Mylot. I don't see the need for adding everyone to your friends list that responds to your discussions too. That's just me. You can do this if you'd like, but I won't. God bless!

It is the expectation that having more friends will bring more responses and therefore more money and therefore more things and therefore more happiness and on and on. This site is like most of the world in that Pareto's principle applies. 20% of the people on this site will do 80% of the work. The other 80% of the people will respond 20% of the time. Go add up all your friends and see if about 20% account for the most of your activity. That is true in many businesses and elsewhere in life.

I don't think there is a answer. I have got a lot of request to put someone on my friend list and than they don't even respond to my discussions. I don't know why they even request me to put them on my friends list. It is a question that if there is a answer I would be interested in hearing it. I find no logical reason for it.

I'm finding I have about 6 or 7 friends who really answer my discussions and I'm trying to answer discussions from all on my friends list. I think the person earlier who said that 20% of the people were actually answering was right.