My Kids Not invited to the Baby shower

Have you spoken to the father about this? The reason why I am asking is that maybe he didn't want the children at the baby shower. He might have used the children as an excuse not to have to go himself. If that isn't the reason why then I would ask him if he planned to allow the children to be treated differently like this all of the time and ask him how does he think his children will feel later towards him and their new sibling.

I would be calling up my ex-husband to find out why. The children should know the truth if they ask why they were not allowed to attend. It sounds like this woman is in control and her children will always be first. Your children will be excluded no matter your ex-husband says.

Have you asked your ex why your kids didn't attend? I would find out because I think they should of been there. I don't understand why they wouldn't let them attend. Doesn't make sense and I would also be upset myself.

I agree with you. If one comes, they should all be invited. Kids are usually not a problem at baby showers, especially little girls. I find that little boys don't have any interest and have trouble sitting still. I think this situation was handled poorly or else your ex's wife specifically said she didn't want his kids there. Sounds like a lot of kids showing up for kids to not be invited. I would ask your ex face to face about this and make him fess up. Then when the baby is born, I'd show up at the hospital (unannounced) with all the kids so they can meet their half brother/sister. I'd love to see the look on her face then...giggle.

If there were other kids there and younger no less, than I would most definatly be angry! Does the wife have a problem with the kids normally, or is the situation a good one? I would definatly tell the dad that you were angry that the kids were left out. If this is going to be a half sibling then they should be involved! I can't believe that. I would feel sorry for the kids and I would talk to the dad and see if he has any reason for that. Tell him you were disappointed that he couldn't include the kids!!

I cannot believe that! I would have raised hell so to speak..you are so right...if any children had the right to be there it was your kids. How can anyone be so cold. Im telling you I would have made it known that it was wrong and your Ex and his gilr would have been chewed out from top to bottom, I mean in any case his children come first before that girl. If it was her doing I would reconsider even letting him have weekends. How low of him...please tell me that you did something other wise where do they live and what is their number cuz Im ready to whoop some butt.....lol. I would also let my children know because they have a right to know what goes on...make sure they dont blame you for the things that he does to them....poor angels...that angers me.

That is pretty low! Sounds like this lady is kinda a b$#ch! She never gave you a reason why they couldn't be there? I would ask your ex what was up with them not going. That is so rude

OMG is you Ex and his new wife completely out of their minds? That isn't fair one bit to those kids, Heck I would wonder if they'll even let them in the hospital to see the baby when it is born! I think you have every right to be upset. It seems as though your kids are having to take the back seat to your Ex's new life overall and that's really not fair to them. I would try to talk to both your Ex and his wife together and tell them how hurt you were by them EXCLUDING your children but including others that weren't directly going to be related to the new baby. But then again after thinking about it, It may just be a waste of your time and energy to try to understand the situation.

I can understand why you would want your kids at the baby shower but after all that your Ex is putting you through (including his new wife) I would probably have not even bothered (sorry to say). I would think that baby showers are more for adults but then again I could be wrong. It's hard enough your Ex not caring for his children and putting you all through a lot of crap and then to have to be told that they were not invited ... I would of stayed well clear of the whole thing (thats just me!)

I can understand why you are so upset about this. They way that your children were treated isn't fair. Your children will one day realize what their father and his wife did was wrong. They will grow to resent their father for not truly being a father to them and yes they won't have a true relationship with their brother. I can tell you that the best thing you can do is be there to listen. Try not to say anything negative to the children about their father and his new family. As long as the children know that they have your love and support they will be just fine. I am not in the exact same position as you but I am in one that is similar where people try to treat my children differently. I have always stood by my children when they needed me the most. I listen to their complaints so that they are able to express their feelings. I explain that they haven't done anything wrong and that some times people don't know how to express themselves so they end up hurting others without realizing it.

I would have been very offended, why wouldn't my kids be allowed? It would be very wrong of them to think that you would be ok with this, why would they say the other kids could come but not yours? Its kind of weird that they'd allow the other children to attend. I hope that this doesn't continue, this favoritism or unfavoritism for you and your famliy. Good luck with it all.

I have three years old kid ,he had baby shower.He likes very much. He wants to play in water .I told him he willbe feever.He always with cloth under the shower.

It sounds like your x-mother-in-law was trying to cause trouble. I would be hurt and upset with the situation. But, your kids probably had more fun at the park with their dad. Maybe, that was his way of showing them that they are still important and not put so much focus on the new baby. Anyway, it was very improper for the 11 year old daughter to be having the shower.

Wow! that is a low blow! Not cool at all! I would be disappointed and hurt as well. Especially as you mentioned it is their half sibling. I would aks your ex about it, but Im thinking since its already come and gone, theres not much you can do about it but express it to them that you didn't appreciate it.

yeah..I agree. I think that was a very insensitive act on thier part. I would certainly be mad...and I am sure your kids are upset too. I would definitely not let this go. Well at least you know the way they are now...

I think that is so unfair they should have definately been there and i would confront my ex about the fact that they were not allowed at the shower he should of insisted that they be allowed at the shower too.

I would be outraged as well . If they didn't want any children at the shower then I would have understood but for your children not to go but for other children to be invited and get to go is just cruel to your children . At least they should have had the option of weather or not they wanted to go . I would be speaking to my ex and making it clear that if my children were going to be excluded before the baby was born , how are things going to be when the baby is born . I would be stating that he needed to remember that these are his children and that this will be there half brother or sister and that they are should have the right to get to know there family and that I would hope this is not going to be a problem when the baby comes . Best of luck !!

I would be pretty pissed. It seems like the step-mom was purposely not trying to include the hubby's kids, which isn't fair to them, or him. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your ex, or with his new wife, but as an observer it seems like she was trying to cut your kids out, and not acknowledge that the soon to be baby is also their sibling, like acknowledging that would be accepting that the kids aren't hers and they are yours and in theory, that part of his life, his life with you, is now over because he's now with her. I am totally guessing here because I don't know everyone or the entire situation. I think you should talk to your ex and let him know that for things like that, your children should be just as involved. The child is their sibling, along with the step-mom's daughter, and it should be as involving of them as possible. And remind him that he divorced you, not the kids. Good luck.

I would be very dissapointed with my ex for allowing the children to be excluded when it was not a matter of a no children policy. I would also be worried that it doesn't really bode well for a future relationship between your kids, the baby and its mother, which will naturally effect their relationship with their father. And then, I would be royally p.o.'d about the whole thing. Not cool ay all!

I will feel the same as you did but maybe he has his own reason for not inviting your kids and you should consider talking to him about this.