If Your Prospective Partner Tells You He Has Severe Depression

You know wolfie, anyone can be easily afflicted with depression. Either it is just a mild one or the severe case, I don't think we should turn our back and run as far away as possible. Instead, we should step forward and help them. Physical looks shouldn't mattered at all. We should be compassionate with this people. I have severe depression for 3 months and it is not easy. I'm halfway to healing myself already without anyone helping me. Deep inside, I wish for someone to pull me out of this depression. But I have learned long ago not to depend or rely to anyone. Sure, my friends are there. They can only offer me good advise but the only way that will really snap me out of this depression is only through myself.

I have been head of the depressed gits association so I would take it on as a challenge..what I would try to do is get my lovely friend to get his skates on and want to get out of depression because if he doesn't want to get out of it there isn't much I can do is it? So I would set little challenges and help him build little dreams so that hge would find other things to be interested in rather than sitting around moping and feeling sorry for himself. I would get him on a healthy diet, because that plays a role and good eating habits. I have helped my Hubby who was a miserbable so and so when I met him..How he is much less pissy and far more cheerful. I really does help when there is another person that cares.

It would really depend on what form the depression was .. severe clinical depression is devastating and rarely 100% treatable .. right up to mild 'I hate the world today' depression that is easily remedied ... I would be the wrong person to be a carer for them as I have fibro .. and depression can be a major problem if you let it creep in .. if we got into a depressive downward spiral it would take more than a few pills to haul us back up .. Depending on the depression I'd be prepared to try and help them help themselves as it's only the individual who's depressed that can finally change things however much help they are offered .. but I know it wouldn't be easy .. and if you commit to helping someone you have to see it through .. for the sake of the person you are helping .. leaving suddenly can plummet them into even greater depression .. so it's not something to be taken lightly ..

well as you know i have a son who has severe depression and although i cope this is totally different and if i'm totally honest i wouldn't be able to ,i can say the right things but i need someone who i can lean on at times. I've seen my son try to kill himself cut arteries and self harm been locked up and sectioned he is coping better, but i'd be afraid of getting to close,i wouldn't want to run away thou but i would be honest,being attracted to someone helps but money isn't the issue once you take on someones problems they become yours and i know how bad things can be and i know i couldn't cope at this time.

Hi, I'm not quite sure how I would react to be honest, my mother and a close friend of mine both suffer from severe depression and I think it would be a challenge for anyone to deal with. To me I think it would be best if that person told me after i had got to know them a little first. If told on the first date then regardless of the persons attractiveness or prospects I would probably run the other way. However, if I had gotten to know the person first and liked them enough to think I may be able to deal with it, then I guess it would be a different story, but I think it depends on each individual case I suppose. Sorry probably not alot of help there..

No. It won't make me run away. My last partner has a severe clinical depression which is controled with medication. And i was glad that he shared that with me, bcause i did know what is going on, and how to handle different situations with him. So. No. I will stay with him.

ha lol, i think if i like her i would want to know how she's been dealing with her depression, what causes it, how it can be avoided and what to do when she is depressed. but if i dont like her, i would si8mply be less concerned and can profer solutions to her cure but i would not want to go into details.

Ok I would not run no I would try to help that Person even if the Relationship did not work out I would still like to be there for that Person as a Friend and help If it does work out then of course I would be there for the Person as a Carer and as their Partner

I am right now with a partner and I have seen her in lot of troubles and I can proudly say I have never backed off. I always have supported her no matter how it was. I felt genuin supporting her as her pains were real and I can see what they were not like many other attention seekers who just show their pain to get some attention. And yes even if it would have been someother person and my first date and if she were to tell me about her depression I won't leave her. Rather I will go strong and support her and help her fight her way out of it. Ya sometimes I do loose hope but still I know that that's the best thing to do. YOu cannot leave someone for they are weak instead I like trying and making them stronger. Any ways I don't know what else to say Take Care May GOD Bless YOU

Knowing me this would want me to stick around hoping that somehow I could be of some help as I have been there myself and would be able to relate . I wouldn't leave someone just because they had a problem . If I liked the person this would not change how I felt in any way .

i would stay with the person and do my best to look after them and hopefully help them to overcome the severe depression. i would not leave them just for having depression

Honestly, it all depends on who the person is inside...like if they are a good person or not. i am the type who wants to take care of everyone...so i would definitely give them a chance and if nothing else be their friend. i would want to help them as much as i could because i completely understnad.

Hi there, Honestly if I was told my husband had severe depression, I would make every effort to be there for him and do all I can to help him and make a good life for the both of us. Running off is no option in my mind...

My reaction would be the same as if they told me they were a functioning heroin addict. I would evaporate into the darkness, I have already dealt with both. But then again I might linger long enough to see if I could score some good smoke.I have no shame, life is to short.

Attractiveness and good prospects doesnt matter so much as the person's heart and willingness to work on things. I would give them a chance because everyone is there at some point. Sometimes when I'm depressed I need someone to be insistent about being accepting and there for me.

I believe that if you want to be with someone that you help them. This does not mean that you do it all. People also have to want to help themselves....I would not run away from someone but I would want works of positive progress going on....for instance what are you doing about it????? I would want to work together on that....

Personally, whilst I believe in being open and honest, I think that to announce something like this on a first day is a sure fire way of really putting the other person in a very testing situation. Some people will be genuinely scared, because they may not have encountered something like that before. Others will be shallow and feel that they don't want a peson with baggage. I think certain communities are much more shallow than others as well. Personally, I would consider if it was the right time to have a relationship to begin with. If I felt that it was going to help me and that I had enough emotional strengh to offer something meaningful to the relationship then I would start by just being me, it the relationship began to develop and the person genuinely began to like me, then I think the natural course of the relationship would allow me to discuss my personality issues in more depth. That way it is me that is in control of the situation rather than the depression running my life and I am still being open and truthful but at a time where both of us has had time to get to know one another.

I think that I would be glad they had been honest with me first and foremost! I don't think the fact that they had suffered with depression would affect how I felt about them , just as it wouldn't if they were diabetic or asthmatic - it is an illness that person suffers from and doesn't define them as a person! Maybe I feel that way as I have suffered badly with depression but I do think that most people nowadays realise that depression is an illness and can be treated! xxx

For me...the depression would not be a determining factor which decided whether or not I would continue to see them or not.....and I am not a gold digger....so personality and things in common would be more important to me... I do have a very strong maternal instinct so I could see me becoming a caregiver of sorts if the other things that I mentioned were there as well.. I am not the type of person who bases a relationship on appearance either...let's face it....none of us look like we did 10 years ago...and we will also look different than we do now...in 10 more years...what is inside is way more important!! That is my honest opinion!!

I would not run away. I would not date them. I would be their friend. Get to know them on a friendship level. A person who experiences depression on any level is high maintenance. They need a person who understand the emotional imbalances. How to cope with the symptoms and stresses. So you need to be a very patience, understanding, loving, kind and teachable person.