Abort or Not???

Hi Stiffler07, Yes, it is a sensitive topic, but a good one. Personally, I would probably get my wife to abort. I don't think it'll be fair for the the child and the mom and even myself to go through the pain and struggles through life. I don't think it is selfish to make the best decision for oneself and others. But, I can't stand those who abort because of a great time they had one night. That is just irresponsible of them. Anyway, that's another topic itself. Good topic again.

This is a very sensitive topic but also one that makes you really think about what you would in the situation. To be honest part of me would want to have my child even though the child was going to have birth defects because if God blessed me with being able to carry this baby long term than I should be able to care & provide for my child as if it didnt have any birth defects..I would think maybe God hade something planned for me that I didnt know about by giving me this child. Now the other part of me would want to abort my pregnancy because I would not want to be selfish just because I wanted a child. I would think about how bad my child would suffer in the long run (depending on the birth defects) I guess I would have to be in this sitaution to really know what I would do..so my answer is I dont know ,I would defnitely be torn between the two.

This one is very difficult.. I'm not sure. I suppose it depends on what the defects are. If the birth defects are purely cosmetic then I would have to go through with it. If the birth defects were so bad that the child would have no or low quality of life then as hard as it would be, I would have to give up the pregnancy. It would probably destroy me to do so. For those of you out there who are thinking of aborting because of some small birth defects I want you to know that my husband was born with many birth defects (his hands are deformed, his spine is all messed up along with his jaw which makes him have a tongue thrust aka. lisp and even his insides are twisted.. both of his kidneys are fused together and sit on the left side and his intestines are reversed) I'm not even sure if I listed all of them but he is a wonderful man and an Elementary School Teacher. He is in his early 50's and I feel so blessed to have him in my life. I can't imagine my life without him!!! What if back then his mom and dad knew he would be like that? What if they had decided to abort him? Then I would probably be single forever and not be able to start a family of my own with the love of my life. Just think about it. Also.. I'm sure you are wondering.. and YES I am concerned about what defects will be passed onto my child.

of course i think it is selfish. does that make it wrong or bad. i think not. i know in my heart if i was told that, i would not continue with the preganancy.i know how hard it is being a parent, and having to be a parent of a sick child is not something i would want for myself, my family, or my child. life it's self is selfish.

Selfish? No. Humane? Probably. Sometimes, not being born at all is much more humane than what thousands of unwanted and adoptable kids are suffering every year living as wards in the system, in abusive foster care homes, etc. I dont think there is any "criteria" a woman must meet (birth defect, result of rape, Mother's age at pregnancy, etc) in order to receive a "stamp of approval" from society regarding her choice to abort. It should always be her choice and no one else's business.

Abortion is morally wrong. It is taking the life of another human being, but in the situation you've mentioned wherein the baby will have serious birth defects, personally I will go for abortion. It will be selfish to let the child be born and be miserable. The parents will have a hard time, too.