Sorry it's over...
@joey_matthews (8354)
June 12, 2007 10:11pm CST
Have you ever told "sorry it's over?"
I never heard for myself personally. My first girl friend didn't even mention or let me know it was over, she just went into hiding and ignoring my phone calls. (or got her sister to lie when I called to see her)
The one after that I wouldn't say we was going out, I was more of someone filling in the gap as we didn't meet to much just a bit here and there.
Third time lucky, but I've still never heard those words. I think's nicer than a text message or an e-mail, would you rather hear "sorry it's over" or another method of being told your dumped?
Not a discussion I'm sure many would like to discuss but I'm sure many have ended up getting burned. ~Joey
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@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
Well honestly, it's realy hard to say those words. It's too painful for the guy but it's nice to say it than just hide at all.
I used to say that to my husband when we're not yet married for so many times. We're on and off, and we always fight.
I would tell him "sorry and it's over", I need a space... we need to call off. Okey fine!
ON the following day, someone's gonna call me and will say " i don't want to loose you", so we stick again until now.
We've been married for 15 years with 3 children.
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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13 Jun 07
I think it would be too.
It's nice to hear the two of you stuck at it through all sometimes a break makes to realize that things are right and then that can be focused on. I really admire that!
Kudos
~Joey
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@angela2006 (1845)
• China
13 Jun 07
I never too.my first two relationship ended without reason,but actually of course not.we all said nothing about ending,but it is just over.actually I think if the love faded,we should talk about it clearly,it is good to both of us.
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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13 Jun 07
Hey angela :)
Thanks for sharing this! I always think it's best to end a relationship on good terms or at least making sure that things are good. (no unhappiness)
But that would be living in an ideal world,
~Joey
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@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I prefer to be told that it is over when it is. I hate it when people drag their heels and avoid you. The least they can do is write you a letter or send an e-mail.
I always faced all the boyfriends that I broke up with and told them how I felt and I never left anyone hanging at all.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
13 Jun 07
as much as it hurts I rather be told to my face that it is over,
I got the never answering the phone
and even the famous letter as well.
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@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Personally I never heard or said to someone this kind of words. In this regard I am so very lucky. I met my hubby years ago and we are in love from the very first time, and we got married. So, I never heard and also not going to hear in future, I know we will be together forever:).
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
13 Jun 07
you are so lucky sweetlady! not all people are like you. most like me went through hearing those words and saying those words, too. so, i am so so happy for you.and you really are so inlove. and forever is really nice. i will be spending my forever with my boyfriend, too and i will never hear nor say those words to him .. anne
@CmanCel (22)
• United States
13 Jun 07
one of my g/f had broken up with her ex by an email..I should have stayed away from this one because I didn't even get an email...just a call from her best friend saying how she couldn't see a future relationship with me and that was that...no more phone calls and such
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
13 Jun 07
No, i have never heard those words either even if there have been breakups. The breakus I have been through has been mutural and therefor i have not been so sorry *lol*
I think that people that does not even have the decency to do it themselves in person are real cowards )(
@rosie_123 (6113)
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14 Jun 07
Well I've said it to a few people in my time Joey, and a couple of times it has been said to me! Personally I would much rather hear the words, than being dumped by a text message or phone call. Those are so impersonal and cowardly - at least looking the person in the eye and speaking to them shows a modicum of cuorage and decency. To do it any other way rather nagates the whole relationship in my eyes - seems like you never meant anything to each other at all.
@shinjiao (1457)
• China
28 Aug 07
For me,the first year of my life in university was unforgettable.
The first semester,my first boyfriend told me that everythig was over.I was shocked when I understood what he said.To be honest,I have never thought that the relationship between us would end at the end of the first semester.
The second semester,I said the similar word to another boy.I told him directly,cruel,I guess.I have never said "sorry",I just told him,it was over,goodbye.Why I didn't say "sorry"?Because I didn't think "sorry" was useful,coz I felt tiresome of our relationship.This second romance just kept in a short spell,extremely short.Just 2 days and I felt tiresome.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
4 Sep 07
Having been married almost 40 years, it has been a long time since I dumped anyone, but I was always nice about it and told them as kindly as possible. In casual relationships, I could pretty much see where things were going and therefore usually broke it off myself, so if I ever got dumped, I wasn't aware of it. Although I tended to put the books first and the boys last, the phrase all of my college acquaintances and I lived by in the olden days was "There are plenty of fish in the sea!"
@moksalot (61)
• Indonesia
19 Aug 07
yeah this can be happened
you know people get bored easily
that's why we need to keep make ourselves happy with something new and positive
but when it becomes boring then you just don't want to deal with it anymore
just like love
when it seem that you have it enough then you just walked away...but suppose that communication is the most important
have a nice day
gbu
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
18 Sep 07
Yep, plenty of times. In other cases I was just left or cheated on. Some disgusting nonsense was said to me in just about all cases.
@TrayBlaylock (630)
• United States
14 Dec 08
Any time someone has chosen the horrible choice to break up with me, they have said they were sorry. Which is a given. Sorry you wasted my time. Sorry you made it so I can't find other girls. Tons of things to look at there. I can't stand girls these days.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
13 Jun 07
whenever i need to break up with an ex of mine, i always talk to him personally. i wanna let him know the reason for doing it. i just wanna put a closure to everything. i think he deserves it and i do owe it to myself, too. atleast, i won't have the feeling of guilt inside me. i was able to clarify things with my ex and explained myself to him.
however, i wonder why there are men who just can't have the courage to do so. i had some exes who will just disappear. not even telling me why they don't want me anymore. i might understand somehow. but well, it's their way of ending thigs... cowardly.
... anne
@fellowlife (988)
• Nigeria
14 Jun 07
yeah i have said that word a couple of times and i have heard it said to me as well.
Personally for me i prefer telling the person face to face as in to have a conversation and actually let her know why i think we should break up and remain friends and i must say at times i am impressed when some of them show that understanding and likewise some girls have also called me up to say they there no longer interested and we sat down to discuss about it and never felt bad when they explained the reasons to me
For people that just go away like that, i see them as cowards
@tamikotan (483)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
I haven't experienced being dumped but I have said its over to someone. It's really hard to end something with someone and no matter how hard I try to thin of words to end it, that's just it. There is no better word to say sorry, its over. When I said that, I meant it. I was really sorry that it was over. I am sorry that things didn't work out much as I wanted to. I would like to hear it said to me that receive a text message or an email about it. WE both need to end things the right way.
@anita212 (117)
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13 Jun 07
i dont know.. if som1 dumpes me i'll probably never get over it but yea its way better ta know " its over " than ta never know... cos dat'll hurt more... especially if the person is ignorin' u// it jus sucks.. there isnt any pain worse than dat... !!!
