How is your relationship with your mother-in-law?
By youless
@youless (112481)
Guangzhou, China
June 14, 2007 12:43am CST
Here usually people will think that the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law have a tough time and it's not easy for them to get on well with each other.
Actually my mother-in-law comes from a small village. She doesn't have a good education. We have so many difference, including the cooking, language... However, I respect and treat her as well as my mom. Since she is one of the important people for my husband, his mother is just like my mother.
I appreciate she helped me a lot when my baby was born. Although we have some difficulties to communicate with each other, but she tends to listen to me and I respects her. So our home will be happy all the time. Sometimes I will go out to buy clothes to make her happy.
Now she lives in the small village. I will miss her and I like her to live here whenever she likes.
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24 responses
@dragonokiefly (862)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I actually get along wonderful with my mother-in-law. She is a gem! She has some health problems and I try to be there to help her as much as I can like taking her to the doctor or going to get her meds. Sadly because of her health she isn't able to see her grandbabies as much as she would like so I try to keep her up to date and send her pictures all the time. I miss the days when we could talk for hours but since she had a stroke it is hard to communicate.
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@shan_ab (377)
• India
15 Jun 07
My husband is teh youngest of seven children and all in their house especially my mother in law has a special consideration for him.
And when I went ot their house as teh youngest daughter in law, it was even more special since they all didn't consider me as a daughter / sister in law but someone very small and I was given all freedom.
And my mother in law loves me a lot also.
We live in a seperate city and hence we get to see each other very little, only two times a year.
I like the relationship to be like this only..
@asmurthy (2461)
• India
15 Jun 07
Women have problems with mother in laws. Men don't have problems with their mother in laws. A case like you who loves and loves your mother in law is not common. Women are possessive with their sons. When some other women shares his son as his wife they feel hurt. So it is duty of daughter in law to be in good books of motherinlaw.
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@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Jun 07
I think it depends on the people. If the person is understanding, then she will try to accept a new member. After all, the daughter-in-law will become one important part of the family and bring a grand child. For this sake, they should get on well with each other.
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@celestemichelle (429)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I don't have much of a relationship with my husband's mother, but neither does he. So I actually consider his step-mom to be my mother-in-law. She's great and I enjoy talking to her, but I get annoyed with her because she is very disorganized and forgetful. Overall she's a great mother-in-law, and she'll be excited to have grandkids.
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@celestemichelle (429)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Honestly she's not very old, she's younger than my own mother. But I've learned to rely on my husband's sister or grandmother for news about the family.
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@sunbakedmantis (128)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
I am still single, so I do not have a firsthand experience to tell about parent-in-laws and son/daughter-in law relationships. The only thing that I could share is the stereotype that is prevalent regarding that relationship.
I do not know if there is a grain of truth in it.It has been said that they do not go along well. Because of this, it is usually advised that if a person will marry, then he/she should live far away from the parents.
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@sunbakedmantis (128)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
You are right. Harmony between people is the key for them to get along together. Both of should be willing to understand the positive and the negative aspects of each other. This true to all relationships.
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@melissa911 (92)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Well she is that, my mother in law. I respect her and we get along. I would never be mean to her for my husbands sake because I'm sure she would bite his head off if i was. We are very different. She shops nonstop. I like shopping every now and then. I have a sister in law and they get along much better than she and I. I guess they unserstand each other better. I actually get along better with my father in law, which I understand may be a little different. But hey it works at least one person in the family likes me, besides my husband.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
7 Feb 08
I had been staying with my mother in law for 19 years since I married. I had maintained quite a good relationship with her though sometimes we had some misunderstandings which I believed to be unavailable in normal living. I appreciate her very much in helping a lot in taking care of my kid and household chore as I was a working woman then. I missed her for several years. I felt rather sad and unusual for the first few months after she had left us forever. I was quite relieved as she passed away with peace when she was sitting in the living room late in the evening.
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@Bev1986 (1425)
• United States
6 Feb 08
I love, love, love my Mother in law! She has been a wonderful mother and friend to me. I've been married 21 years and she and my FIL have always been very important in our lives. They don't ever butt in, but are always there to help when we ask for it.
For 8 years after we got married, they lived about 1/2 hour away from us and helped us a lot with advice and help with our first house. Then we moved 3 hours away so we only get to see them every couple of months. We go to spend weekends with them as often as we can, but it's hard with the kids older and involved in a lot of activities.
I honestly can't imagine my life without either of my inlaws. They are a blessing to us.
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@ceciliamilgate (157)
• Australia
29 Feb 08
I'll never forget my first mother in law, she was very simple woman,simple wants and so love for her family. She works hard to keep the family and help any one who's need esp. her family.Then time comes that she become to ill and the DR. said she just counting her days to live.BUt miracle happened she survive and live more in days in australia, then she passed away.Now that I'm Australia and have my 2nd mother in law so lucky again, I've found a mother in law from heaven, she's so caring.....
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@saivenkaat802003 (4823)
• India
20 Nov 07
You are very lucky as you have a nice Mother-in-law.
In my case,she played truant and the silent role of villian, she had in my life, and she ditched my life..in all forms and she left no stone unturned..and finally ended our marriage life in separation.
Onething.. now i am happy and free from all forms of disturbances..
Happy days ahead to..Jing:)
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@joahnna18 (368)
• Philippines
21 Nov 07
I love my mother in law. Our relationship is very smooth and she's nice to me. I think we don't have a problem. Nowadays mother in law and daughter in law have always a hard time treating each other very well. But the most important thing is respect each other and treat is other very well always remember we have differences so we have to adjust in our differences. And always remember she is your second mother:)
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@sharine_l (78)
• Philippines
27 May 08
well my relationship with my mother in law is okay...but we are not that close. i just find it sometimes hard to get along because i have my moods sometimes.
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@cmofi123 (344)
• United States
8 Apr 08
I'm getting to know my mother in law, I'm giving it my best shot and as much as I can see she is also putting effort on it. I hope everything works out for the best I think that she is really nice.
I'm glad that you are able to get along with yours.
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@susu22 (24)
• United States
4 Mar 08
i agre,my mother in law is also very loving and kind.i do not have much problems with her,it is her controlling daughter and husband who i find is part orf her promple.they contol her and make her decisions for her and plan all her time.they get on my nerves.susu22
@anjalisk2005 (1492)
• India
20 Sep 07
after the marriage this mother are no longers mothers!!they are almost like villians.can't stand the sight of them.here in India we have to stay along with our inlaws and they try their best to make our lives as hells-always interfering and always poking their noses in every matter and of least help when needs!!
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@cwilson26 (2735)
• United States
15 Jun 07
We get along great! I am the only daughter-n-law that she actually likes. Her other two she really can't stand because they don't respect her the way I do. I don't call her mom like they do but we get along terrific! She even sticks up for me when my husband and I have a fight. She takes my side,lol. :)
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@angela2006 (1845)
• China
20 Sep 07
to be honest with you,I have not married,but my mother-in-law is there,and we get along very well with each other.she is a kind and gentle and considerate mum,on the other hand,I take her as my mother,I love her and I attend her.in fact,if only we can respect each other,then we will keep a good relationship.do you think so?
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@tredale (1309)
• Australia
14 Jun 07
I love my mother in laws, I have three my husbands mum and dad split up and now there is two then my ex mum as well so three and they are all wonderful I am truely blessed. I think its important to have a good relationship with your mother in law its also your childrens grandparents. I read this saying years ago. It takes one mum to have a child but a whole village to raise it. I agree with this.
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