What can you advice me?

Hi, clark16! I can relate to your story. Like you, I am away from my husband and soon, I am going to be away from my son too *sad* Our reason might be different but the feeling is always the same. Being far away from your loved ones, it is really hard. I know family is the most important but looking at your situation, do you think you will be able to solve your debt problem if you choose to go back to your home country? What if you go home and try to look for a new job in your country? Will it be possible for you? I do believe you have a contract with your present employer that you can't simply break the rules. Will it burden you more if you choose to go home? It is really hard, but you need to think of the right decision. I understand how worried you are, thinking of the possibility of a broken family. Definitely, it is one thing that we are trying to avoid very hard and hope it will never happen in our life. Do you think your husband can wait? Time passes very fast. Like me, I was like crazy before when my husband needs to go back to his country and stay there for almost half a year. I cried every day and night and whenever I looked at my 4 months old baby son, I felt like screaming my heart out and crying non stop. But after awhile, I became normal. And now, I am waiting for him to be back into my life in less than a month. I hope you can solve your problem and whatever it is, just be strong!

yeah, i think that's a baffling question and you should keep working and keep in touch often with your husband, tell him that you are always be there for him, tell him your real feeling about the family and you won't do anything which is not right. i think that is a way to solve the problem!

Well you should talk to your husband that you both have to make the necessary sacrifices because what you are doing right now is for the benefit of your family in the long run...exert a lot of effort to make him understand the situation...try to communicate him through video call using Yahoo Messenger...so that you can see each other most of the time.

you should have talked this over with your husband before you left for abroad. he should have known that you will be away for long and he should do his best to make things worth while. i suggest you talk to him again and explain your side that working abroad is the most practical way to get rid some of the financial difficulties you're facing right now. this means a lot of sacrifices are to be made for both of you. i have been into your situation before and i did a lot of adjustments myself to be able to cope up the impeding problems besetting us. i was able to finish my kid in school and have a small business because of my hardships. think of your family's future. will you be able to pay your debts if you would come home that soon?

My husband is abroading, receiving training. It's less than two months and there's still one month left, but it has already driven me crazy. I miss him so much. I just want to be with him! but i think men are tougher and I don't think he will stop loving you because of that. If he does, maybe he isn't the one. but I do hope you won't stay abroad very long. That won't work

Hi..im still single..but at my age of 22 I know how money contribute to the needs of family member..I am the breadwinner in my family..Sometimes i used to think to go abroad and have salary more than I earn here..And I will really go abroad, to support them..You and your husband may be has to understand what is happening to your family if both of you will think about your emotion... ok..Why make savings from time to time..then after go home and put up your own business so that you can have a source of income,without leaving your husband and siblings.

That is really a tough call. Can you talk to him about it more in depth and see what he would like you to do. You are right family comes first but you need money to make it too. Good Luck.

It's hard to be away from our husband and kids. But come think of it, If you stay together do you think you can earn more for your family? It's a normal feeling but if you think it positively I know you can do it. Tell you husband not to be too weak, tell him after the contract we can be together. Try to contact him not always because it's hard or may through YM, maybe for hours. You can use Cam and Microphone in a cafe to talk so maybe it will help.

Im still single but I know how hard it is to be apart from your family. My dad used to be an overseas filipino worker,we only got to be with him as least once a month in a year. For 25 years..our only way of communication by that time was thru letters, calls as electronic gadget by that time is not that "in" yet. Anyway, you should talk to your husband and explain to him the Pros and Cons if you go back to them,there are ways to be with your family, just have your communication open, talk every now and then, chat with cam and a mic , is ok and text messaging, calls on cellphone, there are ways, especially if your earnings abroad is better than your earnings at your country.Just like you said you have a lot of debt to be settled, im sure you'll find a way with it.Goodluck!!!