When someone is on the phone, do you listen to the conversation?

Eavesdropping - Do you eavesdrop when someone is on the phone?
@whyaskq (7523)
Singapore
July 6, 2007 10:53am CST
It can be from a stranger at the bus stop, on the bus or anywhere. It can be your family members, or even your colleagues at the work place. We just see and hear people always on the phone. In some cases, I would call it eavesdrop. In some cases, it wasn't eavesdropping. Some people simply speak so loud that I just cannot help not listening. I do not like people listening to or eavesdropping on my conversation especially if it is a private call. It is not as if I were in some great business, but I hate the feeling of being "spied" on. Very often, I will walk away from listening ears. Otherwise I will just cut off the conversation. I do prefer to do sms or email which has more privacy. Friends, do you enjoy listening to others who are on the phone? How do you like it when someone listens to your conversation? Or are you also one who prefers not to talk on the phone but use sms or email or other means, all because you don't want people to listen to your conversations? Kindly share your views.
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41 responses
• United States
6 Jul 07
I try hard not to listen in on other peoples conversations, but you are right, some people talk so loud on their cell phones it is hard to avoid. My husband is like that, he talks very loudly on his cell phone. When I worked full time in an office, I would listen when someone else would answer the phone because we I wanted to be aware of what was going on around me. Most of those people were part time and I was full time, so a lot of times I was able to help them with their phone calls. On a personal call, I try to avoid listening and don't like to be listened to.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
6 Jul 07
On official calls, don't those people detest it when you listen to their conversation even though they are part-timers? I do not like it when my colleague eavesdrop on my conversations and discussions with a fellow colleague. I know he is eavesdropping because his little actions gave him away. We were not talking loudly.
• United States
6 Jul 07
Actually, no. They thought it was helpful if I had already talked to the caller and could save them the hassle of starting over with the customer. I wouldn't say it was eavesdropping, we were in an open office (not in cubicles) it was being aware of my surroundings. I also appreciated it if I answered a call and one of my co-workers helped me out in the same way. I do see where, in some situations, it would be offensive or considered eavesdropping. I believe there is a fine line between being aware and eavesdropping and was careful not to cross it.
• United States
11 Feb 08
Same here, and what makes it even worse is when they use speaker phone, because they can't here it well!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
12 Jul 07
No I don't listen to other Peoples conversation I actually leave the room when they are on the Phone I will go in another Room to talk on the Phone if it is a private Conversation if it is just Telesales and that I just say no thank you and put the Phone down, but if I get a Personal call then I will go to another room so no one can listen in
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@estherlou (5015)
• United States
8 Jul 07
If you are standing right in front of me, or have been talking to me and stop to answer a cell phone call...you don't get to complain if I listen to your conversation. You are not in a private area. What am I supposed to do? give me a break. Eavesdropping used to refer to clandestine listening. I don't think it means listening to conversations going on all around you, whether it is a work or people using the phone.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
10 Jul 07
I try not to listen to conversation of others...untill and unless..the other fellow speaks very loudly so as to attract my attention. I do not wish to invade into privacy of others. I myself do not like somebody listening to me...when I am talking on phone. But my voice is a bit loud..so even I speak with low tone...I always feel that others can listen to my conversation and guage what I am talking to the other fellow on the line. Some people have very low tone...when they speak...you cannot judge what they are talking or to whom they are talking...I wish I had a clear voice with low tone...so none could be able to hear my convrsation. Have a Nice Day!
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
8 Jul 07
I simply hate eavesdropping LOl. This has often become a topic of argument in my family circles . Never to listen to a private conversation , never to open a letter that is addressed to someone else in the family, never to speak ill of someone in his/her absence . I stick on to these principles .
• India
8 Jul 07
Yes, I accept I do listen them. I am not supposed to do this, but I feel it is interesting listen them. It is not like I try my hard to listen them. If I am around and someone is speaking over the phone, I give some attention to it. If I feel that person is speaking very low I move out of that place, because it shows that he/she is speaking something really very personal. It's just because a innocent curiosity and nothing like trying to know other's secrets.
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@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
6 Jul 07
whyaskq, you are a wise person, some folks unfortunately are not! They receive a call, instead of walking away, theyrom his responses to the person on the other side-if such a fool doesnt move away, well, am a very intelligent man, i will make up what they are talking about and if there is a fun segment in their discussions, i migheven laugh ealier or even louder than the person himself! In otherwise, I will obviously be part of the conversation!
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
6 Jul 07
so interesting of you to join in the conversation :P
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
As much as possible, I avoid listening to it. Friends, family or strangers, the very first thing I do is to move away from them. I don't like listening to other's personal conversations, because I feel that it's the same as gossiping. It's like invading someone's privacy, not really good for a man like me to act like that..
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
6 Jul 07
It is true that by listening we could be invading someone's privacy. However, I feel that person should have the consideration to speak softer to invade my space too :P
@AmbiePam (92819)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I don't enjoy listening to other's conversations at all. Quite often I hear things I am better off not knowing. And if someone is talking on the phone near me, I usually can block out their conversation. But if they are really loud, I can't help but overhear and can't block it out.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
6 Jul 07
I do agree there are certain things that are best left unheard :)
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
7 Jul 07
More than likely, I am going to be annoyed at someone talking so loud that I can hear their conversation. I don't feel that it is proper etiquette to talk loud in public. When I am at a friends house, I will tune the conversation out, because I am in their home. If it is family and I know who they are talking to, I will listening and maybe even comment, but rarely. When I am talking on the phone at my house, if I have company, but can't put the call off, I will leave the room. Not just for me, but for the person I am talking to and my company.
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@quawertz (777)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
at times, i do listen to them when the person on the phone is speaking so loudly that you can't help but listen to the conversation,hehe... but i try to avoid listening to it and make myself busy by trying to converse with my friends. i am a very private person so i prefer sms than talking on the phone..
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
I am one of those people who rather use SMS or email. I don't really call, unless if it's a really urgent matter. And sometimes cellphone services aren't really great that I have to speak up for the person on the other line to hear me and I don't like people hearing what I'm saying. I don't think anybody does. What's more irritating is that some people even try to read what you're typing in the SMS! Really! It's really annoying. If my friend is texting, I look the other way. But some people, even some of my relatives, I guess they just don't have lives that whenever I go visit them and I am having a conversation with someone through SMS, when they see me typing, they hang around behind or beside me and try to see what I'm saying! Ugh! That's why I learned how to type under the table. I agree with you that sometimes some people just speak really loud that you can't block them out. As much as possible I try to block it out or like maybe hum something so I get distracted lol! My mom is one of those people who talks too loud on the cell. She does not only speak loud, she SCREAMS the whole conversation! I told her several times that the other person can hear you perfectly even if you talk softly. I have sneaked calls in our library several times even in classes without getting caught because I was whispering and the person that I'm talking to understood me perfectly. I guess my mom got used to the cellphones way way back where you have to shout so you can hear each other. It can be really embarrassing sometimes. There was once when we were in a restaurant and someone called her. Everybody was looking at our table. Seriously. I wanted to hide underneath because my mom was just screaming and laughing do hard argh. I told her that the other person lived in the same city. It wasn't as if he or she was in China or whatever.
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@sherry24 (252)
15 Sep 07
I have to admit to being a total hypocrite in this department, I really do not like it if I can tell someone is listening to my conversation on the phone. It really does get to me. I love, love, love listening to other people. There are two types of conversations I like... "ok love you bye" "no you put the phone down, love you bye" "ok I will put the phone down, love you too bye" "ok after 3, 1, 2, 3" and.... "what do you mean your going out tonight?" "If you think you are going out tonight you have got another think coming" "I am telling you, if you go out that door you are not coming back " right well if your going out so am I, see you tomorrow, love you, bye" I think they are great.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
16 Sep 07
I do agree such conversation are attractive to the ears. lol.
@bear_cute (124)
• Malaysia
5 Feb 08
Hi friend,actually I don't like listening to other who are on the phone.Off course I don't like when someone listens my conversation.Better I like sms when I surrounding public.Actually I don't want make other not comfortable with my voice.We don't know if they have any problem.I don't want worse the mind for find the solution about their problem.So as a human must understand what others situation.We can know from see the face.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
10 Feb 08
Just at times we have no choice but to listen to other's conversation if it is loud enough for us to hear. lol. I do agree sms is always a better option when you need privacy.
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
11 Jul 07
No, I wouldn't at all unless the conversation is very interesting and then I would eavesdrop just to pass my boring time.
@VINAYBAR (364)
• India
11 Jul 07
I personally find it quite rude.Firstly,it is so distracting for the person on the phone.
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@moirax23 (317)
• Malta
20 Sep 07
Mostly, I use sms and emails especially when I am on the go which is also cheaper. However if I'm alone at home or feel like meeting someone but I can't, I use the phone. Like you I hate being spied on, even if I am telling no secrets I just hate the idea that I'm being heard by others. When out in public it makes me curious if someone's phone is ringing but not friends and family!
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
It's very embarrasing to listen to others conversation and then someone saw you listneing. Like me I don't like someone will listen to my conversation, and of course I don't want to do it to others. But sometimes specially when you are in one place and no other places to go to I just ignore it even I heard it. Specially when I'm a public place I do talk soft voices coz I don't like others to hear our conversation.
@maiax2k6 (535)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
if they want us to hear it by speaking out loud, can't help it. there are people on public transport or in restaurants or movie houses who talks loud on their phones, even with people around frowning at them, they keep their rudeness. it you don't want to be heard, then make the calls where it is private, or if you receive a call you don't want people to hear, move to shere its safe distance, or tell the caller to call back when it's safe to do so. that's what i do.
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@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
12 Jul 07
if the person is talking very loudly then everyone is kinda forced to listen in. for myself, i will try to talk to someone else if someone is yakking on their phone. that's so i can talk about something else, distract myself and not have to listen in. however if I'm alone, and it's a quiet place in the morning for instance when no one talks, then i'll just listen lor. personally i keep mobile conversations in public places short. otherwise i try to speak real soft. but sometimes that's not possible since the other side can't hear at all. i'm kinda sick of sms-ing cos it takes so much time.
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