How do i tell someone i don't want them at my wedding?

You would have been better off just giving out individual invitations to the people that you wanted to attend. Because you put up a general invitation for anyone who wants to go, you're kind of stuck. It would be in very poor taste to say "everyone can come... except you." Do you know for a fact that she's planning on attending? Maybe you should add to the invitation and ask people to RSVP. That way you'd at least know if you even have to worry about her showing up. Even if she RSVPs she might get a better offer later and not show up. Having it pointed out to her that you don't want her there (by you or by a coworker) might just encourage her to show up and make your day miserable.

I guess the best advice I can give is this.....do you REALLY want what is supposed to be one of the greatest days in a persons life possibly ruined by this woman? ARe you willing to risk it just to avoid speaking up and telling her you dont want her there? Let that be your incentive...if she acts like a child over it just tell her "you are proving my point THIS is why you arent welcome" or something along those lines ya know.... You have two choices....DONT say anything and risk your wedding day being ruined and/or more stressful than needed OR you can pipe up for the sake of you, your future husband and your families and tell her NO..

Well I would tell her you are just having a small wedding and it is invitation only and when she doesn't get one maybe she will get the idea that she is not invited...unless she is a bit dence.....

I think just because you put the open invation up at work not everyone is going to attend and you can hope that she dosnt,has she made any reference that she was going to be there? if so maby you should tell her she is not welcome at your wedding but you will need to give a very good reason because im sure with the type of person she is , she will cause a stink about it.

I got married in Las Vegas on December 2002. It was just me, my spouse, and our witness at our wedding. We had a frugal wedding and we had a blast and got to see Vegas, without being in debt. It was just a hassle to invite a lot of people and there were some people I had issues with, so we decided not to have a big wedding and just go to Vegas. It is almost 5 years to our wedding anniversary and me and my spouse are still happily married! My cousin is also getting married in Vegas this September and she just invited her closest friends and family to the wedding. Some people are not going to attend because she has issues with them as well. Las Vegas is convienient for the weddings because you do not have to wait to take a blood test. There is no blood test or health test to take. The marriage bureau is open 24 hours to get your marriage license and there is a whole strip full of wedding chapels that are also open 24/7. If you are living frugal like us, make an announcement that the wedding has changed to a different date and make it unannounced to the public. Then invite your closest friends and family to your wedding and go fly to Vegas if you have to. This way only the people like will attend the wedding and you do not have to spend a fortune. Good luck!

Since an open invitation is given, it would not be nice to exclude specific person, no matter how much one dislikes the person. Personally, I will evaluate if she will create havoc at the wedding. If I think she will behave herself, I would not mind her presence. Otherwise, I may "appoint" a representative to speak to her and advise that she don't go if she is not going to behave herself. Otherwise, one more person at the wedding is one more blessing. Congratulations!

I think that since you put up a general invitation at work it would be a bit dramatic to tell her she's not welcome now. Maybe she's not planning to come anyway but either way I would just go on with the wedding and not worry about it.

It's your wedding! You can have whoever you want there, and who ever you don't want not there. Just polietly tell her that you'd prefer if she didn't come to your wedding. Stand up for yourself! She doesn't need to come to your wedding and spoil YOUR day. It's YOUR day, keep that in mind. :)

Well for starters I would not put up a general invitation- she might think she can come- and why wouldn't she if other people from work will be there- I would send out an invitation to the people you want to come to the wedding- this is your day to be happy- DOn't let rude people come- You can nicely tell her- that you do not care for her- and don't want her there- I bet she will not like you forever and try to cause problems- so I'd say the best way is to send out invitations and not do the general one-

I would just tell her that since she can't be polite to me at work, she isn't invited to my wedding.

Well that is a hard one to say. If you are keeping it open for work employees, you can't very well tell her she can't go. You would not only cause an issue with her, but it could impact the other employees you work with. I would say that you have two options here: one is to talk to her on the side, and say that you feel she is upset with you about something, and if there is something, I would like to resolve it. Your second choice is to just ignore it. If she is that big of a pain, it will come out, and everyone else will turn on her. Your only other option would be to tell the people at work, that due to some changes with the wedding, you will not be able to accommodate everyone, and therefore, have to withdraw your offer of letting them come. Good luck.

hello Heather your wedding is in October not too near but not too far either so arrange with a friend (male) or cousin or someone really close to make a date with your collegue on your wedding or if she is married just ask someone to call her on your wedding day for some kind of an emergency and then give her the run around LOL i could think of only these for now but iam not sure it will work out just a thought iam really sorry though you not only get to put up with at the office but also need to be worried on your beautiful day...hmmmm whatever happens i hope you have a lovely wedding all the best :)

Yes i think you should just tell her. Maybe you could tell her that due to finances that you have had to cut back on some of the guests and are now only inviting closest friends and family. Or...you could be really brave and tell her just why you don't want her there. Either way you must do it before she has gone and bought you a gift or it will be even harder to do. good luck with this.

You can invite whomever you wish, it is your wedding. HOwever if you feel the need to be polite instead of just asserting your wishes. Than tell this coworker that the wedding is for family and close friends only. Or, tell her you've reached your limit of guests already, and that the place can only accomadte so many people. then make sure anyone else from your office keeps quiet about it, or knows to say they got their rsvp in early. And besides, no matter how much clout she has with the boss, its your wedding and you can have who you want.

well, i think that you just have to be honest with her and tell her directly that you don't want her at your wedding... that's the best you can do... and anyway, it is the biggest moment in your life and you don't want anybody to ruin it... so i really think that you have to stand up this time and speak up...

Hello HeatherS, As I already pointed out, I think Wiccania's response is very wise. I agree that because the invitation was presented to all of your co-workers, that to exclude only one would be viewed as somewhat rude & petty. And, not just by the one rude co-worker, but perhaps by others as well. I can see this as being very divisive in your work environment. Since you do have to work with these people on a regular basis, is one day's satisfaction worth the possible ramifications? Instead of viewing the invitation as kind of a reward, perhaps it would help if you viewed this as a genuine peace offering. If she proves herself to be rude at your wedding (which will probably not be the case, as people tend to put their best foot forward at such events), then chances are you'll have little interaction with her anyway. You'll be too busy enjoying your special day to worry about what she is or is not doing. And, if she proves herself to be a buffoon, then your co-workers will probably be more apt to reign her in, possibly without you even knowing about it. Should this happen, you will naturally be elevated to a position of greater respect than her by your co-workers. People will judge her poorly because of her bad behavior at your special event. If you invite her, and basically ignore her except for casual interaction, then you're in a win/win situation. Either she'll behave and you'll be pleasantly surprised. Or she won't, and your co-workers will deal with her, which will result in favorable opinion of you, and unfavorable opinion of her. In other words: don't lower yourself to her standards. Just decide ahead of time to enjoy your day, regardless. Because in the end, the only way she could negatively impact your day is if you give her the power to do so. Congratulations on your nuptuals. May you and your love have a long and happy life together!

I'm sorry to say, but, I think you're screwed. You said you put up a general invitation for anyone who wanted to go. That means everyone. Too bad you didn't put out individual invitations, then you could have excluded her. If she has a brain in her head, she'll know that you don't like her and won't go, but, if she doesn't pick up on that vibe, that's your fault. You don't sound like you're comfortable telling her that you'd rather she didn't attend. So, have fun on your day, and if she shows up, just ignore her.

now that you describe her as 'the' co worker, I suggest be careful with the whole wedding thingy. You don't want her in the wedding, but don't make it too obvious. She is not your bridesmaid I'm sure, so focus on your near and dear ones then the wedding. They need your attention more than who's coming. You will be the focus of attention at the wedding anyway, so look happy and make the most of that day. Ignore her, pretend you're busy (you ARE, anyway) and always mingle with your family and friends. you might not be able to avoid having her in wedding pictures, but you can avoid having too many pictures taken with her inside, jus talk to you photographer or videographer.

simply just write their name on a paper and place it in the gate and said all those name should not come inside my wedding that all