Birth Order - In what order were you born?

I'm oldest daughter, but second born. Yes bossy comes with the territory. But leadership does too. Thanks mandakat.

I feel responsible for them in some way. Like I would be the one to take the bullet or identify a parents' body or call for help in an emergency. The idea of switching my birth order doesn't compute with that, you know? Makes me anxious.

Oldest = responsible...usually...

I am an only child to, I often wished I had a brother or sister as well. Being an only child sucks. At least for me it did.

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you had somebody along the way?

Parents learned on them. You were easier and just plain cute.

Sounds like they liked watching out for you too.

Me too, im now 46 and my brothers still treat me like the baby sister, but thats OK with me, I love em both.

Just says you're special...

My sister is a middle and I couldn't think of her as any more special if I tried. She is love through and through and you are probably the best kept secret in your family.

Your are most likely the loving and gentle one who negotiates and keeps peace. I have a question for you since you mentioned responses. I'm relatively new here - why does the best response only allow going up to #10? Also, do you answer every response...hundreds? How does a discussion end?

Yes, in fact, several times. That is where I base the comments I am making on this discussion. There is room for another discussion along these lines if you would like to start one. It sounds like you have the basics learned well.

no i think the middle child rules still apply

no i think the middle child rules still apply

Now I'm out of my element. A twin is unique...even though you're like someone else. Being the younger of the two, you might sometimes defer to your twin. What do you think?

32 years (sis) 26 years (bro) 23 (me)and 15 (lil sis)

So are you a middle child or was there more than 5 years between you and your older sister...which would make you more like an oldest?

You are like an oldest, leadership, acheiver, goal oriented, maybe a bit bossy - in a good way, nurturing. But your brother ahead of you did a little buffering for you and you may be a lot more carefree than full of worry.

That makes you a leader, responsible. First borns also enter exacting professions like teaching, law, medicine. The need for approval might have something to do with it. First borns grow up guickly, but are also highly parented as the first one coming through. Often the first born has over-achiever or anxiety problems in an attempt to acheive praise. But the first born is also nurturing...taking lots of others who are dependant, under the wing, so to speak. Does any of this fit you?

Yes, the part about taking others under the wing and anxiety issues fits me. Where did you find this information?

Book called Birth Order, by Dr. Mark. ...can't remember the name exactly. Read the book several times a decade ago...but I still remember most of it. I am the oldest daughter of 4 children. Had an older brother in childhood. I was buffered by him so I was not as bossy, but still could see many of the first born tendencies in me.

I had about the same experiences too. One thing besides making you tired that it accomplishes is it makes you mature. It develops character.

Only girl, not the oldest, softened a bit by having an older brother, you are sensitive, but you know how to lead. Right?

The oldest of five. Always the one in trouble, no matter who did what wrong. Always the one to fix things. Always the one everyone leaned on and went to for advice. Made me very tired!

Maybe a bit of a closet leader, I tried to be fair and not take over too much. :D

That says you are both leader and perhaps an overachiever?

I know about those closet leaders and the ones who lead from behind. Ask any folk from my blogging community. They will tell you. It just means you take charge when you have to.

Yes, your right. I am also the babysitter, the one that gets blamed for everything and the one who takes the heat for the younger one. OH, and I am the one that is going to get winkled first and the one who is going to get grey hair frist. yay. hahahahahaha

Yes, I took the heat for my younger sisters too. Goes with the territory, I guess.

Yes, you are like and oldest, responsible, exact sciences, organized in many respects, goal oriented, leader. Am I right?

Well if your next older sister was more than 5 years older, you become like an oldest. If not, you are the definite baby.... You can't be spoiled?

I guess you are then thepromptwriter.

Nope, there's 2 years between the oldest, and the next, and 2 years between the next and me. I'm totally spoiled. LOL

So you were like the oldest of your gender. You were both baby and only, but as oldest, a born leader.

thanks alot

First after a miscarriage is an even greater hoped for baby. But as the first to be raised, you are most like a first born leader, nurturer, and responsible.

oh yeah, I am still the apple of my mom's eye..I help out alot with my little sister even though i no longer live at home i help out all that i can and give my mom hte breaks she sometimes needs.. thanks

What a great thing to say. I'm sure you are still the apple of your mom's eye. Now you get to be big sis as well as baby.

He used to while we were growing up.

He probably always will.

Bet he looks out for you.

Hopefully you had some close cousins?

It's usually a good thing to have caring, interested, and yes - protective parents. My dad was that to me. I'm glad you had some cousins who were like siblings to you.

I'm an only child also. I did spend a lot of time with my cousins growing up though. My parents didn't plan to only have one child. They were actually told that they would probably never be able to have children. They tried for 13 years to get pregnant before they finally had me. I was always kind of grateful for being an only child. My mom was a stay at home mom so we spent a lot of time together and as a result we are incredibly close now. I loved having all of my parents attention growing up. As I got older, I think it was a little harder because my parents were probably a little more protective of me - especially my dad. But I think most dads are like that with their daughters!

no.. just beat the crap out of him... LOL now i am the one he comes to for parental advice since he has a new baby.. we have become much closer

There ya go.

You must have mothered him some.

Yes, and a middle child is a peacemaker, negotiator. You had lots to do to keep things peaceful in a big family.

You're not kidding Jellen! When mom wasn't home, I took on her role temporarily even though my sister was older than me. No wonder why people always said I was mature beyond my years.